AIBU to think DH’s joke after my car crash was inappropriate?

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Someone went in to the back of my car earlier today when I was returning from nursery drop off. I was in traffic, so no harm done to me, but the car obviously needs some repairs. The man driving stopped and was apologetic and we swapped details.

I called DH and after checking I was okay, he ‘joked’ that ‘he has had more luck than me over the years in smashing your back doors in’. I told him I didn’t see the funny side.

He messaged me later to say I’m being uptight and to get a sense of humour.

There’s a time and a place, surely?

Crazy that people think being a misogynistic dickhead is a sign of superior logic brain

I don’t think you actually understand what the word ‘joke’ means.

Totally bizarre the assumption that just because you don't like nasty misogynistic sexual humour that you don't laugh at anything. It's always people with the worst kind of sense of humour accusing others of having 'no sense of humour' because they apparently can't imagine people thinking differently from them

I understand perfectly well what a joke is.

I also understand perfectly well, having seen your posts on various threads and clashed with you before, that we have very different opinions on most topics. So it's no surprise to me that you view this disgusting comment as a joke whereas I am perfectly aware it isn't!

Now that’s good banter. They would’ve both laughed and had a smashing evening.

Imagine a woman making a joke about her husband's sexual performance after he'd just got in through the door shaken and annoyed after a minor car accident. Safe to say that most, if not all, men would find it absolutely hilarious and take it all in good humour. 🙄

What a lad top bants

Get a grip...and a sense of humour.

Still some posters don't understand that people can have different senses of humour.... Some people find tired old misogynistic jokes funny, others don't.

It's always people with the worst kind of sense of humour accusing others of having 'no sense of humour' because they apparently can't imagine people thinking differently from them

I think 'thinking' is the operative word here.

It's because proper genuine intelligent humour e.g dark humour, slapstick humour and most certainly political satire, anything that you have to actually think about goes way over their heads. And the only thing they're left with is the base, vile humour that's easy to figure out. Haha. It's about bumsex. Har de har.
Take them to a Bill Bailey gig and they'd struggle to keep up.

You could have said, well if sex with you was less like a car accident it might happen more often

Now, even though I think the original 'joke' was neither a joke, nor funny, and actually pretty vile, that riposte would make me smile.

Only for the purpose of slapping the misogynist down, you understand.
None of it is funny

This.

Also this.

However, that’s not what hubby did, unfortunately.

Timing and context matters. A lot!

Nope. Calling women stupid and trashy for finding something funny you didn’t is incredibly misogynistic.

I can't see how it's misogynistic if pp is including both men and women.

No. I have equal contempt for men who find a joke like this about anal sex, amusing. Everyone is equally thick.