Partners Adult Daughter

[Bernie54]

Been with current partner 3 years, his adult daughter (20’s) moved back in with him recently. She has complained about us having sex (in our bedroom) we had radio on and was very very quiet (it was at night) she sent her dad nasty text messages - referencing both of us - saying we were disgusting and that it’s not fair on her.

I am trying to work out how we manage this as she is here every night, so we can’t abstein permanently ? I do understand - but we were very very quiet and respectful but her room is next door so can’t guarantee her hearing nothing. Are we being unreasonable ? Any suggestions? Don’t want to cause any problems between dad and daughter.

We were quiet ! Read my post and had radio on…we are not sex monsters lol, it must of been the bed, we haven’t had sex since.

🤣🤣yes I own my house, what relevance is that ? and I don’t know why he doesn’t drive! Doubt he will learn now…some people just don’t drive

Are you sure she just hasn’t assumed you were having sex as you had the radio on in the middle of the night? I mean I’d assume sex 🤣

he always has his radio on but that’s a separate issue 🤣

In that case I think leave it be unless either of them bring it up to you. Why are you getting in a lather about a private conversation between him and his daughter?

Because I don’t want to be part of a problem, and I feel a bit insulted as she was quite deragatory about me which I don’t like, makes me feel like I’m a bad person.

What would happen if you just told her to grow up?

She would kick off

If I was a guest in someone else’s house, whoever they were, I would absolutely not be complaining about overhearing them fucking each other because a) they are adults and I am aware that adults have sex, b) I am also an adult and capable of putting headphones on if I don’t want to hear something and c) I am aware that I have absolutely zero right to dictate to the owner of a home - who has kindly allowed me to stay there - when they can shag their partner.

The OP and her partner should absolutely not be restricting their sex life because her partner’s grown adult daughter is behaving like a spoilt bloody 12-year-old. Jeez.

Honestly, let her. She sounds a bit of a sad case, and I couldn't be arsed with tiptoeing around someone like that. Or, go back to your own house and let Prince Charming either watch his chance of a decent shag vanish, or work out how to use Uber.

She’s in her 20s, FFS! If she doesn’t want to hear her dad shagging, she shouldn’t live with her dad.

She’s not a child. She needs to grow up and buy some earplugs or move out.

Sorry but that did make me laugh 🤣🤣

Assume he didn't pull her up about this? Her nasty messages are bad enough, him not pulling her up about them is worse.

No wonder you haven't had sex since, he's a wet blanket allowing his adult child disrespect you.

Stop staying there for a few weeks and see if he makes an effort or not.

If theoretically you don't know about her messages ..... I'd make sure to vamp him into the noisiest sex ever.

Happy to help 🤗🤣

Is there a reason he hasn’t learnt to drive?

What's that got to do with the price of fish ?

Fuck quieter. The end.

Noise cancelling headphones for her for Christmas and crack on.
sounds like she’s very immature and can’t accept her father has sex

Children ( even adult ones) find it difficult to accept that their parents are having sex, even more so when it isn't together.

🤣🤣😅

We were very quiet. The end.

In a pp OP said they couldn’t stay at her house really as it’s a 40 min drive (or similar), from his work. But he doesn’t drive so can’t do that.

Not quiet enough. Just rein it in a bit. How would you feel if you heard your own mother or father fucking?

I couldn’t have put it better myself!! So shocked by the comments from people on here saying she needs to move out, wear earplugs or even get a life??

@SnippySnappyas a teen I would have been mortified but as an adult I would have put some earphones in and not mentioned it