Partners Adult Daughter

[Bernie54]

Been with current partner 3 years, his adult daughter (20’s) moved back in with him recently. She has complained about us having sex (in our bedroom) we had radio on and was very very quiet (it was at night) she sent her dad nasty text messages - referencing both of us - saying we were disgusting and that it’s not fair on her.

I am trying to work out how we manage this as she is here every night, so we can’t abstein permanently ? I do understand - but we were very very quiet and respectful but her room is next door so can’t guarantee her hearing nothing. Are we being unreasonable ? Any suggestions? Don’t want to cause any problems between dad and daughter.

I don't think the daughter wants her father to have a partner. Should op leave him she would make the same complaint again. I think a full and frank discussion is needed between all 3 of you.

Hearing anyone having sex is fairly grim- I don't see how this is amplified by it being a parent or parents- surely accepting they had to have sex in order for you to exist is a reasonably early realisation in the growing up process. also in this case i think it's unlikely the daughter did hear them- it is quite clearly controlling behaviour marking her territory.

that is a good point, as there have been other examples that point towards controlling, which I have tried to ignore, because as other comments on here suggest, it’s not my home and not my business.

Absolutely this.
She has successfully made things awkward.
He needs to sort this out, not you.
You can get involved in the discussion, but its his house, so best he dorts it out.
Otherwise you would be better off making it clear you will give him space.
It will only get worse, not better.

Why are you working this out? Your partner needs to.

I agree

Pack her case

Jump up and down on the bed, making Ooo and Ahhh noises, slap your thighs shouting "Ride 'em cowboy" see how that goes down.

LOLOLOLOL. Thanks for that!

Why is there not a laughing emoji available??!

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Did she move out? It your BF tell her to mind her own business?