Colleague sent me message by mistake

[Islandhopper10]

Our team work remotely but we get together quarterly in person. Yesterday was a meeting in the office in the morning followed by a social so it was casual dress.

I was messaging a colleague earlier back and forth about work matters and he sent something really random and then instantly deleted it but I saw it pop up as a notification so read it.

It said ‘she knew what she was doing in those leggings’ with a sweat emoji.

Now I was the only one wearing leggings yesterday so it was definitely about me. This was at about 3.30 today and I finished at 4 so nothing more was said and I expect my colleague thinks he deleted it before I saw it.

Would you say something if you were me or pretend/forget I ever saw it?

Aha! A lightbulb moment. Knowing what she's doing means not getting male attention as such but getting one over on female colleagues?

Assuming this incident even happened, I think the male colleague simply meant that she knew she was flaunting her figure. And subsequent brags (sorry, posts) confirmed that to be the case. The 'getting one over' on other colleagues and women in general was achieved by posting on MN.

How well do you know this colleague? If you feel you can make a bit of a joke about it send him a message saying 'Promise I wont wear the leggings again if it makes you sweat lol' So he knows you saw his message. if you don't know him that well message saying ' I don't think your last message about me was for me' See what he comes back with.

I must remember not to wear them then 😅

It said ‘she knew what she was doing in those leggings’

And your posts have confirmed that you absolutely did, @Islandhopper10 .

It's meant to be a compliment that you looked good in the leggings.

I think the easiest thing to do is to pretend you never saw it.

Ignore it. He realised and deleted it. Probably embarrassed. Who hasnt said things , perhaps inappropriate, they sometimes regret. Involving HR is way over the top. (and perhaps you did look good in those tights!)

He likes your arse from what you say but surely shouldn't be contacting anyone apart from you about it. Do you fancy him? If so ask if he liked your leggings and he'll either squirm or something might transpire.

She's already in a relationship.

I also wouldn't start a relationship with a guy that talked to others about me in those terms. It says a lot about him.

But this is about the op not you being a faithful person. Only the op can comment on my question.

It's not about me being a faithful person either! It's about a disrespectful man. Perhaps @Islandhopper10 would like to tell you if she's flattered and wants to pursue something with this guy.

It's also a discussion forum.

Some people can look extremely hot in leggings.

Im not one of them.

I disagree, they're far too unremarkable.