Colleague sent me message by mistake

[Islandhopper10]

Our team work remotely but we get together quarterly in person. Yesterday was a meeting in the office in the morning followed by a social so it was casual dress.

I was messaging a colleague earlier back and forth about work matters and he sent something really random and then instantly deleted it but I saw it pop up as a notification so read it.

It said ‘she knew what she was doing in those leggings’ with a sweat emoji.

Now I was the only one wearing leggings yesterday so it was definitely about me. This was at about 3.30 today and I finished at 4 so nothing more was said and I expect my colleague thinks he deleted it before I saw it.

Would you say something if you were me or pretend/forget I ever saw it?

Take it as a compliment or revise what you wear…really depends on how the leggings were 😂

I had a colleague once wearing a perfectly good shirt/blouse…only to continually put herself forward so all the men can have a nice view of her very bright bras 😏
it was hot hot at smoking breaks 🔥🔥🔥

Sounds like a compliment to me.

That makes no sense and you clearly use the word jealousy instead of judging. Both aren’t great but op asked for a perceived opinion/a judgement so shouldn’t be surprised to receive some…

Why were you wearing leggings to work? Leggings are not suitable work wear unless you’re working in a gym!

Yep, I think the same!

Forget it it's no big deal. I've no idea why you'd even consider raising it with him or anyone else 😄

Wow thats a bit ott

Completely agree

I agree.

😧 Really?! You're really going there?! How is your body shaming any better than the man's gross comments?

Your outfit was NSFW imho, but the comments on it should be coming from HR, not skeevy colleagues.

At the school where I worked a female MDA regularly wore these leggings. She walked with a very definite wiggle. One day a group of year 1 children asked her if her knickers had got stuck up her bum. She changed to jogging bottoms afterwards.

People should look up Amy Schumer's Milk Milk Lemonade on Youtube 😂

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For all the people saying it’s a compliment, it’s actually a “blame the woman for my bad behaviour” comment.

”she knew what she was doing” is a way to claim some kind of consent for objectification. It’s a vile comment.

OP, if you don't like your colleague looking at your arse, send him the Schumer Milk Milk Lemonade sketch that I tried to link above! That'll bring him right back down to earth! 😂

😂😂😂

Pretend you didn’t see it.

Yeah, the "she knew what she was doing" comment is truly sickening. I've heard men say that before when women are just existing in regular clothes. Some of them seem to think that we're forever calculating how best to show off our sexy bits and purposely tease men. It's an absolutely gross attitude that has its roots in the manosphere/incel space.

Since you know you look hot in your leggings, are you surpised that male colleagues noticed you and maybe commented about you in a positive light? Is this a no no as some posters are suggesting? Do you find this comment threatening or inappropriate? I think it's your call whether you take this anywhere or choose to park it. It's quite a gently expressed compliment. Personally I don't read it as lewd or creepy although some posters do. I do think if women look gorgeous they are going to get people admiring them. However, the people who admire them have to be respectful and keep their lust in check. This is one of the big problems of our time.

Not sure how I'm meant to be voting on this but I'd definitely ask him what he meant by that.

It's not sexual harassment to privately tell someone you think someone else is sexy. If OP thinks he sent it to her on purpose (even if he then thought better of it) that is another matter of course.

Also, leggings to work?

I am late 40's and just think people need to calm down. Literally who cares, what a fuss about nothing.

So when they said you 'knew what you were doing' - they weren't wrong!

Give over.

Christ alive, there are some sad people here. Reporting to HR? Get a grip people.
I’m sure the ones suggesting you report are jealous and not the type of people that ever get hit on. Yep, I said it ✌🏻