Colleague sent me message by mistake

[Islandhopper10]

Our team work remotely but we get together quarterly in person. Yesterday was a meeting in the office in the morning followed by a social so it was casual dress.

I was messaging a colleague earlier back and forth about work matters and he sent something really random and then instantly deleted it but I saw it pop up as a notification so read it.

It said ‘she knew what she was doing in those leggings’ with a sweat emoji.

Now I was the only one wearing leggings yesterday so it was definitely about me. This was at about 3.30 today and I finished at 4 so nothing more was said and I expect my colleague thinks he deleted it before I saw it.

Would you say something if you were me or pretend/forget I ever saw it?

I’d take it as a compliment. But then I’m in my 50s and from the era when we didn’t get worked up about these things 🙄

Hear hear 👏

You're supposed to 'report to the police for sexual harassment ' now.

Which one's? The fun police? 🚨

It wasn't a compliment.

Having read the OP's subsequent posts I would wonder why was she wearing clothes which are completely inappropriate in a work place and actually serve no purpose other to objectify her.

It's not a compliment. Far from it. And I'm in my 60s

Scrunch bum leggings are absolutely hideous. No jealousy here. My self- confidence is built on more than whether or not I have a "cracking arse"

to me, these type of leggings give literal baboon….that can’t be sexy. Unless you like fucking apes I guess

At least he was complimenting you. I could take offence at your comment as I regularly wear leggings and I'm a size 16. I'll choose not to as I have my big girl pants on 😀 and can't be bothered with all this preciousness. Women regularly pass comment on the way men look.

Take it as a compliment. He liked you in leggings and found you hot. Guys do this and chat to other guys about it. if you like him then you can flirt with him next time. If you are not interested, then leave it as if it never happened. Don't make nothing of it. Certainly dont tell HR

I think the reality for many as it that most of us have worked in places where sexual harassment is completely normalised and often is lashed out at the person that complains. I was “fired” once after complaining that the security guard had smacked my bottom and I turned back to him saying that was completely unacceptable behaviour and if he did it again I would complain. I said it loudly and embarrassed him in front of others so he took it up to the senior manager (a woman) to say I had disrespected him and entered the security area (which he had told me to do as he was sitting at the desk looking at cameras) to show him my bag. She took his side. And suddenly my 40 hour contact became a 0 hour contract. Let’s not pretend it doesn’t happen. It still does. For many women it is a normal thing sadly.

Don't make nothing of it? That means she should make something of it.

You sound very unprofessional in regards to work and you also haven't read the OPs posts or you'd see she's in a relationship.

I thought here you were talking about 1972.

Really? Well then you’re lucky I guess. Or I’m unlucky. I was born in 1985. And the example I just gave happened to me in the Uk in 2007.

That's terrible.

Stop clutching at those string pearls round your neck and have a minute will you! Major over reaction. It was a compliment towards her! Everyone at some point has made a passing comment about someone they thought looked good. Honestly, the comments on here from those saying report it, you all need to remove that rather large stick from up your behinds!

This! ^^

Same as with this post. 🙄

Are you suggesting me writing a response on mn is the same as someone wearing scrunch leggings to a workplace or have I misunderstood (it’s 4am and I can’t sleep so I don’t really understand your comment).

I meant the OP’s post. 🫣

Ah, my 4am brain 😂🫣 ignore me 😬

Weird interpretation of the posts.

Agreed it wasn’t a compliment. It was the observation that she knew her clothing was inappropriate and decided to wear it anyway.

But they're not stupid enough to put it in writing.

If writing thoughts is 'stupid' then surely that has implications for online forums!

Wearing scrunch bum leggings is deliberately to highlight and enhance the bum therefore definitely CONSENTING to other people looking at it, I'd even go do far as deliberately ENCOURAGING other people to look at it ESPECIALLY is she was also wearing a short tight tshirt with it. SHE was OBJECTIFYING herself.

I think the op is winding us all up