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To be so fed up amd disheartened with all the xenophobia

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Nohqters · 04/08/2025 21:56

Honestly, I’m just feeling worn out and heartbroken lately. It seems like racism and xenophobia are becoming more and more mainstream again, wrapped up in the same tired scare stories, whether it’s splashed across a tabloid or coming straight out of Farage’s mouth. Then you see stupid threads on here about civil war trying to stir up more hate.

Even my own brother has started sounding like Tommy Robinson. Ten years ago, that would’ve been unthinkable. It’s like people have completely forgotten the lies we were sold during Brexit—by Farage, Tice and their crowd—and yet they’re still lapping up everything they say. No critical thought, just blind anger pointed in the wrong direction.
I’m so fed up with the endless nonsense about small boats, “white minorities,” and all the rest of it. It’s all designed to divide us, stoke hate, and distract from the real culprits—rubbish politicians, broken policies, and the ultra-wealthy hoarding resources while the rest of us struggle.

But instead of looking upwards, it’s always “blame Johnny Foreigner.” It’s exhausting, and frankly terrifying how quickly people fall for it.

Is anyone else feeling this? How are you managing conversations when even close family seem to be buying into this stuff? I’m trying to stay compassionate, but it’s getting harder to bite my tongue.

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skymagentatwo · 05/08/2025 11:09

yallahbye · 05/08/2025 11:06

Stop being a delusional fool. They NEVER bring their families over here. Loads of them don’t even have families of their own yet - as in wife and children - as they are obviously too young. Even if they bring them over (which I massively doubt) YOU can take them in as I previously suggested here. Please take the necessary steps in order to achieve this, such as prepare a spare room and allocate a weekly allowance for them, feed and clothe them, teach them English etc..then get back on this thread and report your success rate. If you don’t/aren’t willing to do all this and just intend to lecture us, then stay quiet.
Anyone who favours these migrants but is not taking them into their own property, don’t have integrity and are dishonest.

So serious question, over 88% of the illegal boat immigrants are male as you say they will NEVER bring their families over here.

Most will struggle to get their sexual needs met, a majority of the local population of girls and women do not want to date them. So what happens next when you dump large numbers into local communities?

Teanbiscuits33 · 05/08/2025 11:10

yallahbye · 05/08/2025 11:06

Stop being a delusional fool. They NEVER bring their families over here. Loads of them don’t even have families of their own yet - as in wife and children - as they are obviously too young. Even if they bring them over (which I massively doubt) YOU can take them in as I previously suggested here. Please take the necessary steps in order to achieve this, such as prepare a spare room and allocate a weekly allowance for them, feed and clothe them, teach them English etc..then get back on this thread and report your success rate. If you don’t/aren’t willing to do all this and just intend to lecture us, then stay quiet.
Anyone who favours these migrants but is not taking them into their own property, don’t have integrity and are dishonest.

Didn’t even read that essay, dear, sorry

blueszoo · 05/08/2025 11:11

Nohqters · 04/08/2025 23:41

Poor quality of life is the fault of:

Poor policy decisions by multiple Governments
Brexit
The war in Ukraine and it's effect on prices
Lack of investment in infrastructure
Inflation
Etc

Yet we put 95% of the blame and focus on immigrants - how is that right?

We need to work together to address any issues, we cannot let this divide us.

If there any issues with immigration, we need to deal with them together and not let it get whipped up into a storm like it is now.

There is a parallel with the 1930s and Reform and Trump in the US are exploiting it.

The economic side of it is more due to the issues you've listed, and due to the government not having the money to fund anything now.

Gary Stevenson is quite good on the economic side of it and how inequality is fueling issues and how the right exploit immigration to stop people calling for taxing the ultra wealthy (as that is where the money really is)

https://www.youtube.com/@garyseconomics

Nohqters · 05/08/2025 11:11

JamesMacGill · 05/08/2025 11:02

Why do they want to turn up to their oppressor? Why not seek to transform their country given we are no longer pillaging it?

So easy for you to say sat in your comfortable home.

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skymagentatwo · 05/08/2025 11:13

Nohqters · 05/08/2025 11:11

So easy for you to say sat in your comfortable home.

You did not answer their question?

Dangermoo · 05/08/2025 11:13

Teanbiscuits33 · 05/08/2025 11:10

Didn’t even read that essay, dear, sorry

What a very telling response. I think you've had the answer to your test @yallahbye

Nohqters · 05/08/2025 11:14

I don't have all the answers but it's not as black and white as you claim

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Zov · 05/08/2025 11:15

Teanbiscuits33 · 05/08/2025 11:10

Didn’t even read that essay, dear, sorry

Hmmm, only want to read posts that contain words that that suit you?

Nuff said. 😎

EasternStandard · 05/08/2025 11:15

Nohqters · 05/08/2025 11:11

So easy for you to say sat in your comfortable home.

What is it you want to happen @nqhaters?How many people do you want to see here for this comfort you cite.

skymagentatwo · 05/08/2025 11:15

I'm going to open this up to all the left leaning supporters on here and no one has ever addressed this point.

Over 88% of the illegal boat immigrants are male as you say they will NEVER bring their families over here.
Most will struggle to get their sexual needs met, a majority of the local population of girls and women do not want to date them. So what happens next when you dump large numbers into local communities?

You have groups of sexually frustrated young men (many with different values), what are you going to do?

JamesMacGill · 05/08/2025 11:16

Nohqters · 05/08/2025 11:11

So easy for you to say sat in your comfortable home.

My home made comfortable by my relatives who sadly perished in WW2. You can’t say we haven’t had to do the same at some point. The Ukrainians are doing it now. We spent ££££ training and equipping the Afghan army, and they ran away like cowards and let the Taliban take over in a matter of days. Offered no resistance at all. Even Joe Biden said this.

Zov · 05/08/2025 11:16

skymagentatwo · 05/08/2025 11:13

You did not answer their question?

Yeah, funny that. Typical of some left wing. Only want to answer questions that suit them!

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 05/08/2025 11:16

Nohqters · 05/08/2025 11:11

So easy for you to say sat in your comfortable home.

Exactly, if you're not in their shoes, how would you know?
Much easier for some to just lump everyone all together as "baddies' and discriminate against as such.
As you say, there is no easy answer

JamesMacGill · 05/08/2025 11:17

skymagentatwo · 05/08/2025 11:15

I'm going to open this up to all the left leaning supporters on here and no one has ever addressed this point.

Over 88% of the illegal boat immigrants are male as you say they will NEVER bring their families over here.
Most will struggle to get their sexual needs met, a majority of the local population of girls and women do not want to date them. So what happens next when you dump large numbers into local communities?

You have groups of sexually frustrated young men (many with different values), what are you going to do?

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It’s not the sexual frustration, it’s their cultural view of women. They see them as worth less than men, hence leaving them behind.

JamesMacGill · 05/08/2025 11:17

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 05/08/2025 11:16

Exactly, if you're not in their shoes, how would you know?
Much easier for some to just lump everyone all together as "baddies' and discriminate against as such.
As you say, there is no easy answer

If they’re not in our shoes as women who are they to insist on coming here and intimidating us?

Zov · 05/08/2025 11:18

skymagentatwo · 05/08/2025 11:15

I'm going to open this up to all the left leaning supporters on here and no one has ever addressed this point.

Over 88% of the illegal boat immigrants are male as you say they will NEVER bring their families over here.
Most will struggle to get their sexual needs met, a majority of the local population of girls and women do not want to date them. So what happens next when you dump large numbers into local communities?

You have groups of sexually frustrated young men (many with different values), what are you going to do?

Edited

They won't answer, because they HAVE no answer. Problem is, they do all this left wing ranting and call anyone who doesn't agree rude and insulting names, but NEVER have an actual answer when someone asks them about the actual nitty gritty of what is happening. (And how they will solve X, Y, and Z.)

skymagentatwo · 05/08/2025 11:18

JamesMacGill · 05/08/2025 11:17

It’s not the sexual frustration, it’s their cultural view of women. They see them as worth less than men, hence leaving them behind.

And as i thought not a single response from the left crowd.

Teanbiscuits33 · 05/08/2025 11:18

Zov · 05/08/2025 11:15

Hmmm, only want to read posts that contain words that that suit you?

Nuff said. 😎

No, it’s because I’ve read the same thing over and over and over again and I don’t agree with it. Nothing new or insightful has been added to it. It gets to a point you read the first couple of lines and stop because you’ve read the same arguments a thousand times and know exactly what’s coming and it’s absolutely pointless. You say you want respectful debate and that we insult, but then we try and be respectful and we’re deluded. I’m out.

Dangermoo · 05/08/2025 11:19

Wilfulignoranceabounds · 05/08/2025 11:01

“Thanks”? I’m here because my parents legally came here as immigrants from the West Indies, so this is where I was born. They were entitled to come here as citizens of the Commonwealth. How they and their ancestors came to be citizens of the Commonwealth is well-documented and nothing to be thankful about. I know that people like to start yawning when they get presented with the unpalatable actions of the British Empire but actions have consequences… some of them very long lasting.

West Indian immigrants worked hard to make a new life, here. I've talked to many, who recognise the difference, in attitudes of migrators, between the late 1940s to now. As I said previously, it's not only white people, who see problems. It's just an uncomfortable truth.

Zov · 05/08/2025 11:19

JamesMacGill · 05/08/2025 11:17

It’s not the sexual frustration, it’s their cultural view of women. They see them as worth less than men, hence leaving them behind.

Yep this. ^

Zov · 05/08/2025 11:19

Dangermoo · 05/08/2025 11:19

West Indian immigrants worked hard to make a new life, here. I've talked to many, who recognise the difference, in attitudes of migrators, between the late 1940s to now. As I said previously, it's not only white people, who see problems. It's just an uncomfortable truth.

Thanks for this @Dangermoo I was going to post something similar.

JamesMacGill · 05/08/2025 11:20

skymagentatwo · 05/08/2025 11:18

And as i thought not a single response from the left crowd.

They don’t care. They won’t care until a migrant hotel is next to their child’s school, or next door is an HMO. They won’t care until the political influence of Islam slowly nudges our country further and further right; and into a place where blasphemy is illegal. Then they’ll ‘have always been against it’ (but won’t be able to say that as it’ll be too dangerous). Nothing but mealy mouthed appeasers.

yallahbye · 05/08/2025 11:20

Teanbiscuits33 · 05/08/2025 11:10

Didn’t even read that essay, dear, sorry

Yes you did read it, and now you find it uncomfortable that you are in the category of dishonest people with no integrity. Come back to me with your story of taking in ‘boat people’ in your property, preferably with photo and video evidence. Until then you are just a gobby buffoon.

skymagentatwo · 05/08/2025 11:21

JamesMacGill · 05/08/2025 11:20

They don’t care. They won’t care until a migrant hotel is next to their child’s school, or next door is an HMO. They won’t care until the political influence of Islam slowly nudges our country further and further right; and into a place where blasphemy is illegal. Then they’ll ‘have always been against it’ (but won’t be able to say that as it’ll be too dangerous). Nothing but mealy mouthed appeasers.

Yes look at all the tumbleweed........SILENCE

Givemeachaitealatte · 05/08/2025 11:21

I keep seeing the same posters on all these threads spewing their bile. Making horrid stereotypes and broad brush assumptions about refugees. Let's hope we are never in the situation where we need care and support from another country as I hope they give you all the same treatment as you are giving others.

OP I understand the sentiment in which you started the thread but I do hope it's deleted - it really upsets me to see the lack of humanity.

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