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To be so fed up amd disheartened with all the xenophobia

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Nohqters · 04/08/2025 21:56

Honestly, I’m just feeling worn out and heartbroken lately. It seems like racism and xenophobia are becoming more and more mainstream again, wrapped up in the same tired scare stories, whether it’s splashed across a tabloid or coming straight out of Farage’s mouth. Then you see stupid threads on here about civil war trying to stir up more hate.

Even my own brother has started sounding like Tommy Robinson. Ten years ago, that would’ve been unthinkable. It’s like people have completely forgotten the lies we were sold during Brexit—by Farage, Tice and their crowd—and yet they’re still lapping up everything they say. No critical thought, just blind anger pointed in the wrong direction.
I’m so fed up with the endless nonsense about small boats, “white minorities,” and all the rest of it. It’s all designed to divide us, stoke hate, and distract from the real culprits—rubbish politicians, broken policies, and the ultra-wealthy hoarding resources while the rest of us struggle.

But instead of looking upwards, it’s always “blame Johnny Foreigner.” It’s exhausting, and frankly terrifying how quickly people fall for it.

Is anyone else feeling this? How are you managing conversations when even close family seem to be buying into this stuff? I’m trying to stay compassionate, but it’s getting harder to bite my tongue.

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PurpleFlower1983 · 04/08/2025 23:49

I agree with you. People need to brush up on their knowledge of Germany in the 1930s. Scary times.

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 23:51

JamesMacGill · 04/08/2025 23:33

We have no culture apparently. The rest of the world does, and it should be lauded and celebrated. But we don’t. The only ones in the world not to.

St George's day attracts the hate and piss taking. Armistice and VE day get the full treatment, as well. There's some insecurities at play.

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 23:51

skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 23:40

Usually but any facts from you wont hold up, your label gun has shit glue and every thing you have said so far is bollocks. So any thing you say will fall on deaf ears with me.

It wasn't a fact from me it was from someone else. So, same question.

upseedaisy23 · 04/08/2025 23:51

British people are not reproducing enough to support our elders, that’s why so much immigration. I voted brexit, I welcome immigrants willing to come here and work for the country and join us. I don’t agree with any religion, Muslim Christian or Jew

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 23:51

Bloody hell, pearls everywhere, will be snapping 😆

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 23:52

upseedaisy23 · 04/08/2025 23:51

British people are not reproducing enough to support our elders, that’s why so much immigration. I voted brexit, I welcome immigrants willing to come here and work for the country and join us. I don’t agree with any religion, Muslim Christian or Jew

Agreed

PigletBland · 04/08/2025 23:53

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awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 23:53

skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 23:43

Quick @awkwardasfuck @ForWittyTealOP has a new "Banal" label, there is a chance that might stick but i doubt it.

Indeed, oh dear

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 23:53

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 23:52

Agreed

You voted Brexit? Well, well, well.

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 23:54

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🏆 🏆 🏆

healthadvice123 · 04/08/2025 23:54

LaurieFairyCake · 04/08/2025 23:36

so many lies on this thread ffs

only 44,000 illegal immigrants this year NOT ‘a million’

scare lingering facism and racism

But there were more asylum claims than that if your going to use figures, the numbers have jumped up that is a fact and to pretend otherwise doesn’t adress the why ?

skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 23:55

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awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 23:55

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 23:53

You voted Brexit? Well, well, well.

Nope. Well well well.

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 23:55

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 23:55

Nope. Well well well.

You agreed with the post. Too late. Night

Illjusthavethebreadsticks · 04/08/2025 23:56

Screamingabdabz · 04/08/2025 23:14

What is disheartening and depressing is to live in areas where the policies of unfettered mass immigration prove to be problematic and people are called bigots and racists for even speaking about it. Where will you allow people to talk about their frustrations and their concerns op?

You think you’re clever, and your bleeding heart is a sign of your moral superiority, but you fail to see that this stifling of people’s anxieties is exactly what sends them into the arms of Farage et al.

These people don’t just wake up and decide to irrationally hate immigrants. They look at their poor quality of life and question why. Not being listened to and told to stfu is a massive lever for stoking the fires of disunity. So whilst you’re smugly blaming the right wing parties, and the gutter press, and the social media extremists, take a long hard look at your own culpability in all of that.

👏👏👏👏😂

skymagentatwo · 04/08/2025 23:56

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 23:51

It wasn't a fact from me it was from someone else. So, same question.

Same reply, keep playing with your label gun its broken and I have zero interest in anything you have to say.

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 23:57

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 23:55

You agreed with the post. Too late. Night

Okay well im glad you feel vindicated. I agreed with the reproduction rate comment.

If you are happy that you've won and are shouting "night" because you've made a big old "gotcha" then let that be the end of you. Good luck.

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 23:57

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Still waiting to hear back about Antifa beating women up. How dare women want single sex spaces. Laughable that the scum is meant to be anti fascist. They are the very thing they accuse you of.

upseedaisy23 · 04/08/2025 23:57

I don’t regret voting for brexit. I never will. See , I never benefitted from cheap European labour, I believe in fairness and welcome the abundance of African immigrants we now have. Does that make me racist?

awkwardasfuck · 04/08/2025 23:58

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Lampzade · 04/08/2025 23:59

Nohqters · 04/08/2025 21:56

Honestly, I’m just feeling worn out and heartbroken lately. It seems like racism and xenophobia are becoming more and more mainstream again, wrapped up in the same tired scare stories, whether it’s splashed across a tabloid or coming straight out of Farage’s mouth. Then you see stupid threads on here about civil war trying to stir up more hate.

Even my own brother has started sounding like Tommy Robinson. Ten years ago, that would’ve been unthinkable. It’s like people have completely forgotten the lies we were sold during Brexit—by Farage, Tice and their crowd—and yet they’re still lapping up everything they say. No critical thought, just blind anger pointed in the wrong direction.
I’m so fed up with the endless nonsense about small boats, “white minorities,” and all the rest of it. It’s all designed to divide us, stoke hate, and distract from the real culprits—rubbish politicians, broken policies, and the ultra-wealthy hoarding resources while the rest of us struggle.

But instead of looking upwards, it’s always “blame Johnny Foreigner.” It’s exhausting, and frankly terrifying how quickly people fall for it.

Is anyone else feeling this? How are you managing conversations when even close family seem to be buying into this stuff? I’m trying to stay compassionate, but it’s getting harder to bite my tongue.

Totally agree Op.
I barely watch the news or read the papers these days . Very depressing

Dangermoo · 04/08/2025 23:59

upseedaisy23 · 04/08/2025 23:57

I don’t regret voting for brexit. I never will. See , I never benefitted from cheap European labour, I believe in fairness and welcome the abundance of African immigrants we now have. Does that make me racist?

No it doesn't. It is the usual lazy label to throw at you, to guilt trip you. It will only work if you let it.

Mellowisp · 04/08/2025 23:59

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👏🏻👏🏻 agreed. This country needs a kick up the arse

NellitheNelephant · 04/08/2025 23:59

millymollymoomoo · 04/08/2025 22:07

Perhaps just look at the crime stats and the actual costs associated. Fed up of the racist card thrown out all the time instead of having rationale debate about social and economic impact of taking in tens of thousands of illegals and nearly a million legal immigrants a year !

Can you show a link to the crime statistics, please? Genuine curiosity.

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