Partner got really funny about swimwear I wore to work away day

[JadeHoliday]

We had a two day work ‘away trip’ last week where one of the bonding things was going to an indoor swimming complex with slides etc. Really fun!

When I got back from this, my partner said ‘you didn’t wear a bikini did you’- which I said I obviously did.

He thinks that’s disrespectful and I should have worn a swim suit ‘rather than have my arse out in front of colleagues’(!)

I told him he can’t control what I wear and he got the hump. He thinks I was trying to make myself attractive and impress colleagues..

Would you say I should have ‘covered up’ or is he being unreasonable

Even when I was very much younger (and I had absolutely no problems showing my body in appropriate settings):

1. I would not have gone to a work event involving getting undressed.
2. If I had absolutely had to for some reason, I would have worn a one-piece with shorts.
3. I would have burned down the office and gone to jail for it rather than wear a thong in front of my colleagues.

A thing bikini to a work event 😂I'm sure you're the talk of the office

And if my DH had told me that he had worn a thong to a work meeting I certainly would have had plenty to say to him!

Personally I hate those thong bikinis and I don’t want to see arses out but I’m older and I know the younger ones seem to love all that. I’d not want to see any work colleagues buttocks thank you, especially not old Mr Jones in accounts 😬

Aren't there....friction issues going down the slide?

Exhibionism seems very popular now, everyone’s attention seeking.

I guess OP would be fine if her husband when to a work event in his budgie smugglers and spent the day surrounded by all the female colleagues peachy arses 😏

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Thong bikinis only at beach or outdoor pool.

Bit weird to wear at indoor pool. They're for minimising tan lines.

If this is true - touch to a thong bikini in this environment. No-one wants to see your arse. Put it away and have some class.

It is your choice. I'd rather die before wearing a bikini around colleagues.
I wouldn't wear one to an indoor swimming pool either.

I have just bought an arse-covering swimsuit as I am going somewhere with colleagues with a swimming pool and they may see me in it. (We are not expected to do this together, but it may happen by accident.)

Agree with PP: it's not his business what you wear; having said that I would raise an eybrow at a thong bikini at a work event.

Did you have your arse out for those?

At least not for the bowling I hope 😬

I was quite an exhibitionist when I was a young hot woman. Always the first to get my gear off on the beach when drunk, dance topless in a club etc etc. I won a wet t-shirt competition at my local bar! No way would I have ever considered wearing a swimsuit in front of work people!

I voted YANBU then saw the update and absolutely think you are! Thong bikinis don't look good on anyone.

I guess it depends on what work you do? Club 18-30 yeah it'd be appropriate.

A sporty swimsuit would be the most professional attire I think. The kind my gym sells. High cut at the neck so no risk of boob making an unexpected appearance. My preference would be boy short as well or a work event.

This. And as by my username I worked in adult entertainment for 20 years! But this is a whole new level-no (normal work) work colleagues need to see my pretty good if I say so myself body in a bikini.

Sod the boyfriend, you're a Maverick OP!

I cant imagine anyone showed up at Bowling with their entire butt cheeks on display though

“We had a two day work ‘away trip’ last week where one of the bonding things was going to an indoor swimming complex with slides etc. Really fun!”

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Crikey OP if this really happened your arse must be in tatters going down slides in a thong 🙄

I can think of nothing worse than my colleagues in swimwear 😂

But OP isn’t being unreasonable to wear swimwear to a water park.

You can wear whatever you like! Kudos to u for rockin a thong bikini, you go girl xx

Thought it was just me who thought this…

Couldn’t think of anything worse, and I’m sure some of the women felt the same about it

Bikinis were literally invented to maximise tanning so wearing one indoors for any event is weird but a thong bikini at a work event, at a water slide park is a whole other level of strange. A one piece would have been much more appropriate for a work event.

If a man wore thong speedos most people would think he was an exhibitionist and a bit of a perv, you don't get a free pass because you are female. Put your arse away and save it for by the pool on your summer holiday if you must expose it.

How many of you were there? Were there men there? Are you gorgeous? Do you have a great figure? I do think these are relevant questions, but I can honestly see how your husband feels.

I was supposed to go to similar a few years ago and I got that anxious about what I would wear to a spa and being half naked in front of colleagues I ended up saying at the last minute I couldn't go. Actually 3 other colleagues did the same, we didn't see it as appropriate. I asked one colleague why she wasn't going and she said because I want to keep my husband (it was an overnight thing in a mixed lodge) very inappropriate.

I am now imagining some of my colleagues in their swim togs...(forty- and fifty-something consultant doctors, mainly male)...I am now not enjoying this and would rather get back to work.