Partner got really funny about swimwear I wore to work away day

[JadeHoliday]

We had a two day work ‘away trip’ last week where one of the bonding things was going to an indoor swimming complex with slides etc. Really fun!

When I got back from this, my partner said ‘you didn’t wear a bikini did you’- which I said I obviously did.

He thinks that’s disrespectful and I should have worn a swim suit ‘rather than have my arse out in front of colleagues’(!)

I told him he can’t control what I wear and he got the hump. He thinks I was trying to make myself attractive and impress colleagues..

Would you say I should have ‘covered up’ or is he being unreasonable

Initially, I voted YANBU. Then I read your update, that you were wearing a thong bikini and you literally did have your arse hanging out.

Changed to YABU. I agree with your husband.

Why on earth would you wear a thong around your work colleagues?

You should have said it was a thong bikini in the OP. That really changes things. Thong bikini is inappropriate and totally unnecessary. I don't know why anyone thinks it acceptable to have their arse out like that anywhere.

Last time I went to one. They stipulated wearing full bathing costumes, presumably for that precise reason. Again long time since I went to one though, so who knows ?

I definitely see the issue - it’s inappropriate to wear a thong bikini for a work event !

Up to you at the end of the day but I wouldn’t have worn a bikini to a work event, plus it was indoor and watersides. Surely one piece would have been better for slides and being indoor anyway?!?
Sure you wasn’t trying to impress anyone??

Sorry, but I think this is total CRINGE. I see these thong bikinis (urgh) and it's so obvious that the wearer is crying for attention. I agree with your partner - it's totally inappropriate for a work event. Your female colleagues will have talked about it, for sure. Why would you subject anyone to this? No one wants to see your bum cheeks, except maybe the guys ..... and you know this. That's why you chose that bikini. You know it, I know it, your colleagues know it, your partner knows it. Would you be happy if your boyfriend wore a thong in front of his young female colleagues?

I don’t believe for a minute that this thread is genuine, but I sometimes wear one when swimming and snorkelling. The bottoms are actually a lot more secure than an ordinary bikini.

This may be a reflection on my workplace, but someone rocking up in a thong bikini would be the subject of much hilarity, and would be one of those stories we bond over for the next few years. But you don't say what industry you work in. Just seems so completely unprofessional. You are still 'at work' off site.

I would think you were an attention seeker if you wore a thong at a work thing - even if in a swimming pool. Not a work thing, no problem.

If there were 2/4 people there or a group of 50 i would find relevant, also if it was a mixed group. I find it relevant if it was a mixed group or all women.

The is she gorgeous was more aimed at her husband thinks she is and doesn't want her showing her arse off at work.

I am very aware women of all shapes and sizes can have affairs and wear whatever bikinis they want.

Can’t believe a working bond event involved a trip to a swimming pool

It is a really bad choice of awayday activity.There would be quite a few people who wouldn’t want to wear swimwear or jump in a pool with colleagues.

I voted yanbu but that was before you said about the thong.

I don’t believe a word of this but if it is true, am I the only one that thinks no one in their right mind would go to a water park in a bikini, the force of the rides means that the bottoms often get pulled down. And climbing stairs in a thong with your colleague face in your arse? Nah, not having it.

tbh i don't like seeing my coworker's arse cheeks and am not impressed if they wear thong bikinis to swimming events. Same as i don't like it when the men wear budgie smugglers.

They are for free time and holiday (and even then, i think they are plug ugly, but that's just my opinion, clearly others like them)

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I know I’m now old fashioned but I feel really uncomfortable in close quarters with women (or men) in thongs, different at the beach just just feels unnecessary in local swimming or spa days, I don’t understand what the need is, I don’t want to see peoples arse cheeks lol

Interesting! I’d have thought you spend the whole time pulling the string out of your crack, water and movement forcing it up kind of thing.

I was thinking he's out of order until I read it was a thong bikini. Totally inappropriate, both for a work event and a family water park. Very grim.

OP, what is the occupation of your team? Can’t get over a work team trip to a swimming pool @JadeHoliday

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100% inappropriate!
My God, I am dying of secondhand embarrassment. The thought of wearing a thong bikini in front of colleagues! 😱

I put not being unreasonable until I saw the thong bikini. Sorry, no, your arse was out then so his point is valid. I wouldn’t be so exposed in front of work colleagues. I always feel that the whole thong bikini is a bit of a ‘ look at me’ type of swimwear.

You can change your vote, just click on YABU.

I’d be quite shocked if someone turned up to a work event in a thong bikini - and I am not ancient! It seems deliberately provocative

Normal swimsuit or normal bikini bottoms, no problem..,I think thong bikini bottoms is a little tasteless amongst colleagues. Fine for family holidays or even girlie holidays etc but I’d frown on it a little when it’s a work-related event..lots of bikini bottoms cover both cheeks, really no need to floss for the boss 😆