DH reported at work

[CircleBaker]

I am stuck between ‘the world has gone mad’ and ‘why did you say that’ so I’d appreciate some MN wisdom!

DH has been reported to HR by a colleague due to a comment he made when she arrived at her desk on a recent morning. He said she looked particularly happy so he joked that she must have ‘got some’ the night before.

Now this colleague is someone DH has worked with for a while and always (in his view) got along with, so he was very surprised to hear of the report.

I can’t help but feel that as much as it wasn’t the smartest of comments, it was fairly inoffensive given they are friendly and it seems OTT to report?!

I think it's safe to say that some men have wandered into this thread.

You really found his comment so funny that you’d love to work with him based on his sense of humour?

I hope they realise that we're not all sensitive snowflakes sucking the humour out of life 😜 😆

Of course! Sexual harassment in the workplace is sooooooo funny 🙄

Only the stupid, arrogant ones think sexual harassment is funny. If you need a sexual undertone for something to be funny then perhaps you need to widen your horizons a bit. Find a man who respects women enough to not sexually harass them while at work.

Harassment is an act that is repeated, no?

Looking forward to these women all retiring!!

This “I’m one of the lads - degrade me all you want” mentality is nowhere near as prevalent in the younger generation.

Oh lighten up!

Precisely.

I'm still trying to figure out why the 'banter' was funny.

Sexual harassment can be repeated or a one off.

You don't like sexual harassment but don't mind ageism?

So much hypocrisy on this thread!

Same. I mean regardless of the appropriateness (or otherwise) in the workplace, surely no one is actually finding a comment like that funny? What’s funny about it?

Ah the menz have arrived
It's so obvious it's almost amusing
although I suspect the menz have been here from the get go

Oh fuck off…your internal misogyny is out for everyone to see.

Being an apologist for sexual harassment is nothing to be proud of.

It’s not ageism to comment on age as a fact.

Many of the posters supporting the OP’s DH have specifically mentioned being a similar age.

Most definitely… pathetically crying cos they get called out for sexually harassing women in the workplace.

Now that language isn't very lady like!

As I've already said, I'm older and I'm of the belief that the husband's age makes his behaviour even worse.

Omg if a man said that to me at work I’d seriously consider reporting him. Grim.

And? Who says I want or need to be ladylike?

Thank you for proving my point!

He sounds really disgusting. Have some self respect and LTB OP.

Op's husband and his cousins have joined 😂

Your point that pointing out your age is ageism?
Mate you’re arguing about the definition of sexual harassment even though it’s define in law. You’ve no idea what you’re talking about.

Get your “you can’t say anything these days” attitude and move along.

I'm bloody hilarious 😂