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He gave me the ick in Lake Garda

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EyeBogie · 21/05/2025 09:11

First holiday together, been dating for just under a year. We went to Garda and before hand we’d discussed the way we wanted the holiday to work.

We arrived at hotel at 3pm. He threw himself onto the bed saying “I’m knackered”. (I’ve noticed he says this a lot). I made a coffee, did some unpacking, caught up with my phone and sat on balcony for a bit. At around 5pm I said “you ready to go out?” And he laughed and said “no! We’ve only just got here!” I said “I just mean a walk?” (the lake was literally across the road from hotel). He said “oh no, can’t be arsed with that tonight, I just want food and bed”. It was 5pm!! So I said “ok, well I’m off for a walk”. He was annoyed that I was going out anyway and started sulking. I went for a walk by myself, returned at 6:30ish. He was irritable and asked where I’d been as he was starving. I said “there’s a shop just down the road.” He said “I’m on holiday, I don’t want to be doing shopping!” 🙄 we went to hotel restaurant.

Next day I woke up at 6am (always an early riser, can’t help it). I made a coffee then went out for a walk. Came back at 8amish. He’s still asleep. I got a shower, made another coffee. 10amish I woke him up and asked if he wanted a coffee. He said he did. I made him one - he fell back asleep and let it go cold. 11am - woke him to again, he asked for another coffee. I made him one - he fell asleep again. I woke him back up at 11:30 and said I wanted to head out, asked if he was coming. He asked for another coffee - I said he could make himself one as I’d made him two already that had been wasted.,he started whinging so I said “it’s almost lunch time, I’m bored and I’m going out, are you coming?” He said he just wanted to relax around the hotel today 🙄 he said he wanted to use the pool. Fine. I went out and hired a bike, spent all afternoon visiting the little towns. Got back at 5pm - he’s still in bed playing on his phone. I said “did you use the pool?” So he said “on my own? No! I was waiting for you to come back!”.

So - after this day I thought maybe a discussing was needed about tomorrow’s plans. Idea was we would get a bus to Verona. He said he was still happy to do this. Next day arrived - same scenario. Numerous cups of coffee gone cold, me sat around bored, getting on for lunch time he’s still asleep. I snapped in the end and said “are you actually going to do anything on this holiday?? I’m going to Verona at 12pm. Remember we’d said we’d set off at 10am?? Half day wasted already”. He reluctantly got up, saying it’s meant to be a holiday to relax etc etc

We got to Verona at 2pm. As soon as we got there he was nattering about food saying he’d not eaten all day 🙄 he had no interest in seeing any sights, just wanted to sit and eat.

We managed to see the museum and that was it.

The whole holiday was like this. It’s given me the ick. Lazyness. AIBU here??

OP posts:
GinAndJuice99 · 22/05/2025 00:12

comeondover · 22/05/2025 00:04

OP your post title sounds like the first line of a limerick! <misses point of thread>

If you just read back through 24 pages you'll see there are several limericks on the thread!

comeondover · 22/05/2025 01:03

GinAndJuice99 · 22/05/2025 00:12

If you just read back through 24 pages you'll see there are several limericks on the thread!

oh sorry, didn't realise

Pigglingbland · 22/05/2025 03:22

How old is he OP he sounds like a child! Def not compatible by the sounds of it. Sounds ignorant & uninterested in the world around him. Big turn off.

Dolphin78 · 22/05/2025 08:50

He wanted a MacDonalds while in Verona??
Goodbye you unimaginative Sloth!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 22/05/2025 08:58

According to the OP, he is fat, lazy, pampered by his mother, smelly, boring and has no interest in exploring other cultures when on holiday.

Does he have any good points?

easypeasylemonn · 22/05/2025 09:29

You could 100% do better - such an ick!!!

loropianalover · 22/05/2025 09:50

OP I’ve read all your posts and you were repulsed by this man before the holiday 🤣 glad to see you’re ending it this weekend, you are not a match.

BumpyWinds · 22/05/2025 09:53

EyeBogie · 21/05/2025 21:15

Yea it was beautiful, the bits we managed to see. I’ll definitely go back one day

I think you should treat yourself to a solo trip soon to replace the bad memories with good ones!

At least you've found out how incompatible you are before you got any further down the road!

JoshuaClay · 22/05/2025 10:04

This honestly sounds like the first line of a limerick

JoshuaClay · 22/05/2025 10:05

The thing that gives me the ick most tbh OP is the fact that he wouldn’t go into the swimming pool on his own

subliminated · 22/05/2025 10:33

JoshuaClay · 22/05/2025 10:04

This honestly sounds like the first line of a limerick

He gave me the ick in Lake Garda
I just wish he tried harda

JoshuaClay · 22/05/2025 10:41

subliminated · 22/05/2025 10:33

He gave me the ick in Lake Garda
I just wish he tried harda

On Italian cuisine
He wasnt so keen
Wanted junk food topped up in the larder

Nikki75 · 22/05/2025 10:43

SecondVerseSameAsThe1st · 21/05/2025 20:59

I love this!! 🤣😂

🤣

CheerfulYank · 22/05/2025 10:50

Yeah, no. I have an internal clock too, so I don’t blame you for waking at 6. Mine is almost completely opposite; I can’t really sleep at night. And I am definitely someone who likes to relax and/or nap sometimes on vacation…but to this extent is ridiculous. If you want to just lounge around a pool and eat McDonald’s, why wouldn’t you just take some time off work and do that at home?!

scoobysnaxx · 22/05/2025 10:59

Urgh get rid OP get rid.
you’re not compatible.
living together would be a nightmare with a lazy slob.

subliminated · 22/05/2025 11:08

JoshuaClay · 22/05/2025 10:41

On Italian cuisine
He wasnt so keen
Wanted junk food topped up in the larder

Brilliant tam effort !

subliminated · 22/05/2025 11:10

Was he being stroppy due to lack of sex? Especially when you first arrived at your hotel for your first holiday lots? Lots of holiday shagging would be my expectation.

JoshuaClay · 22/05/2025 11:12

subliminated · 22/05/2025 11:08

Brilliant tam effort !

Ah yes!! 💪

Fluffypotatoe123987 · 22/05/2025 12:31

Can I ask what the weather is like. Do I need to pack jeans and a cardi ? I don't trust the weather forecast

Umbilicat · 22/05/2025 14:20

He gave me the ick in Lake Garda
By the hour our break became harder
The pizza he shunned
It left me quite stunned
No wonder it dampened my ardour

subliminated · 22/05/2025 14:50

Umbilicat · 22/05/2025 14:20

He gave me the ick in Lake Garda
By the hour our break became harder
The pizza he shunned
It left me quite stunned
No wonder it dampened my ardour

Verse 2:

If he had given me the lick in my Lady Garden
I would have given him a pardon.....

herbaceous · 22/05/2025 15:08

He gave me the ick in Lake Garda
Sightseeing? Fine dining? No - nada.
He deserves the sack
For that Verona Big Mac
Off you fuck, there's a dear, you fat farter.

LillyPJ · 22/05/2025 15:16

subliminated · 22/05/2025 11:10

Was he being stroppy due to lack of sex? Especially when you first arrived at your hotel for your first holiday lots? Lots of holiday shagging would be my expectation.

If he's that unadventurous about food and new places, I suspect he'd be a bore in bed too.

EyeBogie · 22/05/2025 15:31

LillyPJ · 22/05/2025 15:16

If he's that unadventurous about food and new places, I suspect he'd be a bore in bed too.

Yep!

OP posts:
EyeBogie · 22/05/2025 15:33

Fluffypotatoe123987 · 22/05/2025 12:31

Can I ask what the weather is like. Do I need to pack jeans and a cardi ? I don't trust the weather forecast

When are you going? I’d pack a rain jacket and water proof shoes unfortunately

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