Parents hate the Childfree

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Over the past few days there have been several post regarding children for example Our new Neighbours and my loud children and To think it's unacceptable to say you don't like children. in both posts there are hateful comments about Childfree people. The second post in particular never mentioned anything about childfree people but then people started making comments about them. Plenty of parents hate other children despite having them. Why do parents care so much about Childfree people and their choices? Are you jealous? Need validation? Why all the hate? Most importantly will you own up to it?

YABU - I don’t hate the childfree
YANBU - yes I hate the childfree

I'm a parent and I don't care if someone else is childfree. Their choice (or sometimes not).

If only there were a third option... 🙄

I don't think parents hate childfree people as a rule. I think the ones that do are jealous and regretting their own life choices - the existence of childfree people for them is a harsh reminder that it is about choice, that they chose to have kids, and they didn't have to. They brought it on themselves and nkw they have to live it.

People who are enjoying being parents, like genuinely enjoying it, are probably too busy enjoying it to care whether someone else is having a kid or not.

I couldn't give two figs

I could say the same about child free by choice people, the number of times I have seen posters posting down right derogatory things about children on here is ridiculous paticularly on a parenting website
However I suspect most people are just trying to get on with things I don't hate anyone live and let etc.

Surely this can be the case the other way around aswell?? Either way, this post is goady, most parents do not hate child free people ffs.

I don’t hate child free people, in fact I very rarely think about it. The only time it really crosses my mind is when there’s posts on here like this from childfree people.

I don’t at all. The vast majority of my friends are childfree. I am a bit envious of their flexibility but that’s because of the phase of life that I’m in.

Don’t be so ridiculous

Sweeping generalisations apart, what does it matter to a child free person if parents do hate them? Presumably apart from relatives their lives will barely cross.

I have children and don't hate the child free. About half my friends are childless or child free and we are in our 40s and we never snark at each other over it the way people do online. So I suppose yabu

Personally, I think it comes from a place of older women pretending they never wanted children but deep down they would have liked it, it just never happened for them for one reason or another and they become inbittered.

comment made on the second post. So yes the hate is real 😆

I'm a parent and I don't dislike child free people. If it's their choice I respect and (actually) admire them

Of course being child free means you don't necessarily understand the parental world. My child free friends, for example, wouldn't be my go to friends to discuss problems surrounding my children

But its not because I dislike them. Its because they don't have any or much knowledge of the subject

Childfree means it was by choice. Childless means it wasn’t. OP is talking about childfree people.

I was contentedly childfree until I was 40, when I had DS. I am exactly the same person since as I was before. Parents aren’t a different species to people who don’t have children for whatever reason.

🤣🤣 Good point !

Look at the comments from the second post.

Oh my goodness! I totally disagree with this. When I look back at me pre children, I am so changed (for the better imo) now

Why would anyone hate someone who was childfree? They're probably just jealous. I'd also argue most parents hate loud, bratty children. Weird thread OP.

Does this poster speak for every parent, OP? What about the people on this thread saying otherwise?

I see more hate in the other direction.

I feel occasional pangs of "oh I wish I could live their carefree life" to child free people (especially when my children are being difficult!). But I don't live their life and I made my own choices.

OK but I know someone who calls themselves childfree and it's not really by choice, as such. They would have liked children but chose not to have them for medical reasons. They are sometimes sad about it. In fact, all the childfree (or childless) people I know are because of circumstances rather than a definite "I just don't want children." They all have perfectly happy lives, sometimes after a time of coming to terms with it.

This parent genuinely do not care about other people's reproductive choices.

What I cannot stand, however, are parents who do not parent their kids - have zero consideration for others and are happy raising feral, menacing humans.

My best friend is child free and it’s never been an issue. I’m happy with my choice, she’s happy with hers.

That post was ridiculous but not hateful. I think you're being really goady and hyperbolic with this thread tbh, which is not a good look