Parents hate the Childfree

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Over the past few days there have been several post regarding children for example Our new Neighbours and my loud children and To think it's unacceptable to say you don't like children. in both posts there are hateful comments about Childfree people. The second post in particular never mentioned anything about childfree people but then people started making comments about them. Plenty of parents hate other children despite having them. Why do parents care so much about Childfree people and their choices? Are you jealous? Need validation? Why all the hate? Most importantly will you own up to it?

YABU - I don’t hate the childfree
YANBU - yes I hate the childfree

Exactly. OP has very selective hearing to things that only suit her narrative.

I’m a patent and I respect childfree people far more that I do shit parents. There are so many bad parents out there, and what makes it worse is that they keep on having more children.
I never ask anyone if they have children, it’s none of my business.
Most people are not interested in other people’s children or animals.

No shits given here. People can be dlcks or not with or without children

I don’t care at all - doesn’t effect me. My brother & his girlfriend are childfree by

choice I’m happy for them.

Surely it’s choice (or sometimes they wanted kids but couldn’t) why would parents hate them?

surely we can all see that we can get along together with a bit of respect and understanding? Eg not having children in the garden before a reasonable hour, 9am or so because your neighbours are sleeping, having quiet indoor activities for early mornings if you have early risers, then the flip side is to turn music and no loud talking after 10pm in gardens especially weeknights with school the next day. Teaching kids not to scream is good first step in neighbourhood harmony, I’m not talking about 6 month old babies, no reason why 5 year olds should be screeching, my neighbours took the kids in if they got too loud, kids soon learned to play nicely, 6&8 now

I don’t know many people who are child-free (post having babies age). The ones who are all have pretty compelling reasons not to have children and those reasons don’t apply to me. Why would anyone hate child-free people? I don’t really get it. All of us have been child-free adults unless we had a baby under18.

Jesus. On mn in the last day there’s been do people really not love kids and now this, also dog people think everyone love their dogs and other posts that are basically all saying the same. Apparently everyone hates everyone. Where is funny, fun mn gone? Where are the missing fridges gone?! Never wanted to flounce before but my god it’s like the site is now just everyone saying everyone else hates them.

never said I felt people hated me IRL. Said comments on posts that were about children but became out hating the Childfree on

I absolutely don't hate my child free friends.

I think in some ways I need to be a bit more conscious of not boring them, because the parts of my brain that used to have time for adult conversation, solo travel, an extensive and spontaneous social life etc, are now given over to the business of raising children so I don't have as much to talk to them about from my life that they might be interested in. I still want to hear everything that's going on in theirs, though, and I think I live vicariously through them a little bit!

I'm probably less conscientious with other parents about falling into endless chat about our respective children because I assume they're in the same headspace as I am.
I'm less likely to message a child free friend to see if they fancy popping to the park or soft play on a Sunday afternoon, as I assume that would be their idea of hell, but I still want to see them for coffee, drinks, dinner etc whenever I can; it's just that I don't have that much solo time so it's less frequent.

As long as they have some empathy and accept that children exist in the world and can be out and about in public then there’s no problem.

And yet your thread title is “parents hate the childfree”

dramatic much?

Ps all my childfree friends are well adjusted grounded people who are too patient with me being a mess. They’re competent, positive, lovely and amazing. I don’t think anyone could hate any of them!!!

I always think this, everyone in the world has been childfree for x years, it's not like people become aliens once they have children although of course priorities etc change.

The only person I dislike (hate is a strong word) in real life who is childfree is someone who constantly harps on about how awful my life must be with a child. I consciously don't talk about him to her (unless she asks) and as she's at a shared hobby we have he is never there, but honestly it's constant. Other than that it doesn't cross my mind really, on here I'd say the vitriol and spitefulness often goes both ways pretty equally!

Yeah I agree it’s not always a completely neat division. Personally I wouldn’t call myself childfree though if I had wanted children, that’s not the meaning as I understand it. OP can answer for herself, but I assume what she had in mind in this thread was people who didn’t want children and therefore didn’t have them.

I have children myself. Some of my friends do, some don't and some professional acquaintances I don't know whether they do or not. As PP have said, most people who are happy with their own choices/circumstances don't feel resentful towards people who have made different ones.

Sorry, having lived through the past 22 years of being a Mother, still think the correct term is “childless”!!

Op this issue completely aside, are you happy in life? Partner? Friends? Social life?

because you seem very angry at what appears to be something you have very much blown way out of proportion from a few comments on a thread

and as for Most importantly will you own up to it?. You sound like you’re trying to parent us!!

Really? I have very good friends I hang out with, and go on holiday with who are child free. The group that goes away together, 2 have kids and 4 do not. It makes no difference to anybody.

I mean it has other topics other than parenting, kind of proved my point.

Nope

I'd probably tell people I was childfree in either circumstance. If childless I wouldn't want the sympathy.

I don't at all! I'm so happy with my kids, they're my world. Im happy for people who don't want kids and sad for those that do but can't. I think it helps that I don't have any money worries and also that I can afford help with cleaning and other housework.

On the very thread you’ve got yourself twisted like a pretzel about OP, you say

But people hate lots of things. You can’t police other people’s opinions.

Who has the time to hate a group of people who have no influence or impact on your life.

Children are like farts, most people only tolerates their own.

My friendship group is mid 40's, some had children other friends are child-free, we're at a stage where we all have more freedom.

It’s not for you to dictate what people without children call themselves. I was originally childless not by choice. I wanted children but couldn’t have them. Having had many years to come to terms with that and to embrace the positives of life without children, I now think of myself as childfree.