Parents hate the Childfree

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Over the past few days there have been several post regarding children for example Our new Neighbours and my loud children and To think it's unacceptable to say you don't like children. in both posts there are hateful comments about Childfree people. The second post in particular never mentioned anything about childfree people but then people started making comments about them. Plenty of parents hate other children despite having them. Why do parents care so much about Childfree people and their choices? Are you jealous? Need validation? Why all the hate? Most importantly will you own up to it?

YABU - I don’t hate the childfree
YANBU - yes I hate the childfree

Can you look at any more than two posts?

How about the other 98 that call bullshit on your theory? Can you explain why you're ignoring them?

I'm a parent and I don't hate the childfree. My DD has chosen to have no children along with many of her friends. Their choices don't affect me so why should I "hate" them for it?

So 99 replies on this thread and only 2 posts that were negative about child free people?

I think it’s a case of a vocal minority. Parents who don’t hate childfree people don’t tend to go around mouthing off about it all the time because there’s nothing to say. It will be a small number of parents who apparently do have something against childfree people who just make a lot of noise about it.

What Mumsnet really hates is the cat-free.

It’s because it’s a strange thing to say that they don’t like children. Children are not one big homogenous group, they are individuals with their own personalities. It’s like saying you don’t like people of a different age or a particular sex for example. Fair enough to say you don’t like children who do or don’t do a particular thing but to say you don’t like children is a bit offensive yes.

I don’t care if you think it’s not a good look. The hate towards Childfree people is real. Look at the Instagram posts of childfree people and you’ll see the endless hate they get.

Well, OP?

It's bizarre to me that someone would dislike people for not having children when it makes zero difference to their life and is a 100 times better for this completely over populated planet.

I think the onus is on your to provide examples from other threads rather than just telling people to go and look. You’re the one making the claim, you back it up, here, in this thread.

(“Hate” has become such an adolescent word - means anything from completely despise to “has said something that I don’t like”. Demonstrates a juvenile mindset. I can’t really take it seriously.)

I think that, for the vast majority of people, they couldn't care less whether people have children, don't have children, have pets, don't have pets, like to paint water colours, don't like to paint water colours, go scuba diving or don't etc etc etc. Most people like people who are nice to them and don't like people who aren't. It's a simple process. Don't overthink it.

Only on MN are child free women pitted against women with children.

Back in the real world, no one gives a toss.

How on earth does the fact that @x2boys called this a “parenting website”prove your point that all parents hate the child free? Just explain that one to me please ?

you clearly have an agenda proved by the point that you are only responding to the few posts that agree with you and keep referring people to the “second post”. How do you know the second poster isn’t child free ? It’s a bizarre way to make / have an argument

Since you asked - I was child free up until last year and I loved it! I didn’t feel like parents I knew hated me at all. I didn’t feel derogatory comments were made towards me. I often chose not to attend events such as birthday parties because I wouldn’t get a chance to speak to my friends properly and it all felt chaotic. I probably did feel a tinge of jealousy that there was a part of life that I was excluded from but could justify that that was my choice.

Now I have a nearly one year old DC. I have friends in their late 30s -40s who don’t have children. Today I’m going to an event with two of them with my child and next Friday an evening with a group

Look at the countless comments of hate on the threads I highlighted. Or on Instagram account - childfreemillenial just to name one

What? Why not?

I don't hate the child free but I'm maybe a bit jealous. DH and I have very little in the way of support and in the 15 years we have been parents, we have only had three nights away to ourselves as a couple. DHs sisters are both child free and they go off together on holidays a few times a year (currently on a plane to Greece as we speak).

However, it's not forever, youngest is starting high school soon so the hardest years in terms of childcare and less 'freedom' so to speak are mostly behind us. Once the kids are older we plan to never take another holiday in the school holidays again!

Of girls both childrfree and not.

there’s no hatred from any of us. Just different lives. Adulting is hard and everyone has their own issues.

MN isn’t real life and a lot of people are harsher here than they would be in real life. There’s a lot of “pile ons” too sometimes but I haven’t seen anything that suggested parents hate the child free from the range of different posts I’ve seen on here. Ofc that’s my personal opion

sorry post cut in half as child pressed my phone - that doesn’t mean I hate the child free though !

Nope never said all parents.

Honestly, no one would be disagreeing with you if you’d said “some parents hate childfree people”. It’s your blanket “parents hate the childfree” that people are disagreeing with.

But I also don’t think Instagram comments are a reasonable way to judge this. There are horrible comments under a lot of posts by all sorts of people and about all sorts of things. Some people are just arseholes who will say something nasty to a childfree poster, and then go and call a poster with 5 children a disgusting breeder filling the world with horrible rugrats or whatever.
People find someone they don’t like, and then just pick anything to criticise them with. If they don’t like a childfree person it’s “thank god you don’t pass your genes on!” But if they do have children it’s “I feel sorry for your children having you as a mother”.

Exactly. Which is why some parents hate the Childfree

I honestly don’t give it a second thought, if anything being a parent has strengthened my belief that people should have the option be child free by choice without judgement. It’s the same debate that gets brought up between working parents and SAHP, who has it worse, one side hates the other side more. If you’re secure in your decision, why should it matter to anyone else.

Surely the vast majority of people just couldn’t care less about other people’s live choices.

What a terrible example. That entire account is goady rage bait. Perhaps if she didn't make slagging off parents her entire personality, they might be a bit nicer to her?

You never said some parents either though? It was address to 'parents' with the last sentence being 'will you own up to it' very much giving the impression you were accusing us all.

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