Father in Law 80+ naughty boy

[WhatDidIjustHearr]

This is not really an AIBU but felt like a good place to post.

Staying at my in laws at the moment with the kids. Mother in law and DH went out and I’m working from home. Father in law is also at home.

I’m upstairs and he is in study downstairs. Suddenly I hear a woman’s voice - it sounds like she is in distress or sort of semi screaming in pain. Well the first few seconds I thought that’s what I was hearing as thought he must be watching some crime / drama or something… but he was clearly watching porn.

I think he is rather deaf, it was rather loud. He did turn it down a bit but the change of volume was like someone who is screaming is now just shouting.

I don’t judge anyone for watching porn but I actually had a physical reaction to that and feel somewhat sick.

He, I assume, clearly didn’t think I can hear it. Or did he forget I was here?

Reported

😂

Jesus Christ 🤦🏻‍♀️

Did I use language banned by MN? Should have censored how I written in?

I think I would just forget I had heard anything. I might tactfully mention later in the day how he has very good speakers on his computer. So good you could hear it al the way upstairs. He may get the hint...but I doubt it.

Didn't you go and check it out? Are you sure it wasn't a film? FIL must have known you were in the house.

Why does watching porn in the privacy of his own study, in his own home make him a nonce?

Ok, so assuming you’re genuine and not some weirdo, you want to start praying that he didn’t realise that you were still in the house, because the alternative is ever so slightly horrific.

Why?

Why is he a nonce? Don't you think older people should have sexual feelings?

You're out of order.

I'm not a fan of porn, and I would feel totally icked out if I was in OP's shoes, but watching porn doesn't make him a nonce.

Urgh.
Could he not just wait until his DIL and kids were somewhere else? Good grief.

I can imagine my FIL doing this. I remember the first time we visited he had removed all of his topless calendars in his cellar probably on the request of MIL (the usual route into the house) and then he obviously decided he didn’t need to bother hiding his crap from our kids.
It would totally not surprise me if he started watching porn/having a wank if we were in the other room.

Right - I felt shook and just though let me speak to someone; i.e. mumsnet. Noise cancelling headphones just came on as he turned something on again.

I’m actually shaking. Definitely not making any comment or anything. Don’t want him to know that I heard it.

Just want everyone to come back home.

As said, kids and MIL and DH out of the house.

I presume it’s because the OP made no mention of the DC going out with their dad or her MiL and someone watching pornography, at that volume, (or indeed any volume) when children are around, is questionable at best.

The noise cancelling headphones turning on is better; it suggests that you hearing it was unintentional.

No, I did actually say kids, MIL, DH went out. It’s just him and me here. Someone else suggested maybe (or pray) that he didn’t realise I was here. I’m not thinking maybe he did loose track of what was going on and thought I went with them. I was in the room since they left so maybe he does think I’m out? Although I did go to the bathroom between the two times he turned something on, but maybe he really is somewhat deaf and didn’t hear. Or he knows I’m here and don’t care… arrrgh, still shaking and sweating now

No, I put noise cancelling headphones on my head. How would I know if he put anything on his head - I definitely didn’t go down to check what he is doing.

"Naughty boy"
🤔

Why naughty boy? He's 80 + fgs. Porn is pretty crap at the best of times, depends on what he was actually watching though. Performance screaming or screaming in pain? One is bad enough but the other is definantly suspect.

Your title is creepy!

Why is '80+' relevant?

What do you mean by 'naughty boy'?

Why are you feeling sick and shaking?

I was under the impression nonce refered to a child abuser🤔

‘Shaking and sweating’ because an adult is watching porn?

I just can't imagine my lovely FIL doing that. It's really weird if he knows you're in the house, less weird if he thinks you've gone out with his wife, son and grand kids. In order to stay sane throughout your visit, I'd tell myself that he thought he was alone in the house, because it's less weird. Do you think you'll tell your husband?