AIBU to feel completely distressed by the viral video of the aftermath of onlyfans worker Lily P 'sleeping with' 100 men?

[MumOfOneAllAlone]

I've tried to word this carefully.

Lily, an onlyfans star, aged 20something I'm guessing, slept with 100 men in one go, as part of a documentary.

Following this, she's on camera crying. She says her eyes hurt as some of the men ejaculated in them, despite her saying no.

My heart is broken for this girl. Im a feminist but I've never thought of sex work as being empowering?

Surely, the empowerment of sex work has failed this poor girl? And surely the 100 men who agreed to do this are criminals???

I'm so angry. You could see in the video that Lily is realising what a mistake this was and is very traumatised.

Anyway, didn't see a thread on this so thought I'd post. My heart goes out to her, and my brain feels very angry at those who failed to protect her.

My bad, she was visibly extremely distressed afterwards. It doesn't make a huge difference to me but whatever.

The fact that this is where you have decided to focus your argument and the shoulder shrugging emoji makes me sad for humanity much more than a young woman making poor decisions.

@MumOfOneAllAlone

what would the grounds for her sectioning be though?

She's laughing about it now and planning the next one.

Her and Bonnie are friends.

YABU. Why would you feel distressed? She's just one of many money grabbing no marks who infest the online world. I feel nothing but revulsion at her and at the men involved 🤢

It’s not sex work it’s women selling their bodies for money. It’s prostitution. Calling it sex work legitimises and makes it sound flowery when in reality it’s horrible sweaty disgusting men abusing a women.

I fucking hate women like Lilly & Bonnie because they reach in the phones of young girls - young girls who are already broken or have low self esteem and glamourise being abused. If her eyes were hurting then good.

It’s not feminism to say women can choose to do this - we don’t allow junkies to shoot up in the street if they choose too. This is the opposite of feminism this is the total degradation of the female body - it’s an act of self abuse.

There was a reason why stigma was around / and it needs to make a come back.

When I've finished feeling distressed about every person in the world who is sexually abused or exploited through no fault of their own I'll turn my attention to those who fuck up their own lives by making terrible, stupid decisions. Might be a while.

If she’s regretting it and/ or has sustained a physical injury then of course I feel sorry for her.

But really, come on, she literally invited these men to have sex with her, presumably for money on some level, what exactly was she expecting?

Messed up, yes, probably the result of psychological trauma, also yes. Crossing boundaries not great. But at some point surely she’s weighed these risks up and decided that it’s worth it?

@lookingforahandhold thought I'd reply here

Honestly I don't know, surely there are grounds that she's acting insanely? 🥺

I guess it's wishful thinking that she'd have family who would testify that she isn't of sound mind, given that her mum is involved in this business anyway

I wonder if her mum sees herself as some kind of kris jenner momager

Disgusting woman.

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. She knew what she was getting herself into.

Self harm

I haven't commented on whether people should feel sorry for her.

I've mentioned the role of the men in this and the fact that the focus is on one person out of the 101 who participated.

@MumOfOneAllAlone again, an unwise decision doesn't indicate a lack of capacity or mental illness.

She's a silly young girl who wants to get famous and wants money. She has capacity and has consented.

@Ludovico is it self harm, or is it just attention seeking?

@MumOfOneAllAlone a woman choosing to do something that you would never choose to do is not 'acting insanely'.

The idea that she could or should be sectioned for doing so is insulting to both her, and people with genuine and serious mental health problems.

I just think that the internet has swung too far into 'sex is liberating, as is sex work' way of thinking, forgetting that this only a tiny minority of people actually think that way in real life

How ironic that most of the 100 men are probably incels who hate 'females'

You know you don’t have to watch. If no one watched she might stop.

They are absolutely disgusting as well as her.

There's an interesting take from someone on X who says Lily has admitted she's made it harder for other OF performers as now more and more men are expecting to sleep with the creator if they sign up to their account. Supposedly it's against OF rules and regulations to sleep with your subscribers as it's not an escorting website.

The focus is on the person who instigates it tbf.

Yeah, I mean surely that is what this is

If someone did a psychological profile on her, she wouldn't come off as being well

Is this the woman that specifically targets 18 year old boys who are away from home for the first time?

Obviously no one should break any agreed rules during sex, but generally speaking, she's not a victim.

Regardless of how you view her work she's an incredibly skilled business woman who has made a fortune by creating viral content. And I suspect this is another carefully sought out stunt to increase her success, especially as she's recently been receiving negative publicity from people concerned about the ethics of what's she's doing, both in regards to targeting very young men she labels 'barely legal', and by the message her content potentially sends to/about young women and their status as sex objects .

If she's now using her experiences to highlight issues like men breaking consent by performing acts that weren't agreed to, good! She's got an amazing platform to use. But don't rewrite her as a poor naive girl... you are doing her a huge disservice.

It's a very sad business and I hope that Lily will avoid anything like this in future and her experience will be a warning to other women and men who might think of taking part in such events.

But this isn't sex work/prostitution, is it? It's a publicity stunt.

I really wish someone would stand outside her next stunt place and get photographs of every man going in and out. Their anonymity really pisses me off.

I wonder whether this kind of behaviour could be considered reckless and self endangering though