AIBU to feel completely distressed by the viral video of the aftermath of onlyfans worker Lily P 'sleeping with' 100 men?

[MumOfOneAllAlone]

I've tried to word this carefully.

Lily, an onlyfans star, aged 20something I'm guessing, slept with 100 men in one go, as part of a documentary.

Following this, she's on camera crying. She says her eyes hurt as some of the men ejaculated in them, despite her saying no.

My heart is broken for this girl. Im a feminist but I've never thought of sex work as being empowering?

Surely, the empowerment of sex work has failed this poor girl? And surely the 100 men who agreed to do this are criminals???

I'm so angry. You could see in the video that Lily is realising what a mistake this was and is very traumatised.

Anyway, didn't see a thread on this so thought I'd post. My heart goes out to her, and my brain feels very angry at those who failed to protect her.

I've just seen a clip of her boasting about it and saying she is going for 24 hours in February with 1,000 men. If I'm doing the maths right that gives each man 1.44 minutes each.

I remember reading a few years ago ,about a Russian prostitute who realised she had 100 men queuing for their "turn ". I felt so sorry for her with no choice.This girl strikes me as being fame hungry ,and not realising the full implications.Obviously she was being used and exploited horribly .I also wonder how she manages to look her parents .friends in the eye!

About her doing OnlyFans her parents apparently said that as long as she's safe and she's happy then they're happy.

She will probably have to get Bonnie in to help them get it up before they run in, stick it in her and then on to the next one 🤢

The message i get from some posters is that, if there's no man visibly forcing her but she herself is misguided, she's not worthy of our sympathy.

I find that sexist.

I also think that there are pressures on her. The team around her profiting from her and encouraging her, the belief that she's come this far and there's no way back so she might as well, there being no-one that cares enough about her to stop her. These are all things that could be putting pressure on her.

None of us know her personally so we're all speculating

For me, as a woman and mum, I do feel incredibly distressed by her experience and by the video of her crying, which, for me, is the realest thing she's put on the Internet.

Some previous posters have mentioned some ex porn industry girls. The girls have come out and said how horrible their experience was, even though, at the time, they said they were happy and everything was fine.

As far as I'm concerned, polished videos of lily p saying pornstarry things like 'it's my fantasy' and 'i want 1000 men' shouldn't be taken at face value. It's clear she's just saying this because it's what people want to hear, and what her team want her to do.

The recording of the woman promoter or whoever disgusted me. She sounded so gleeful about making connections.

@SuzieNine I think that she will struggle to find a normal guy, yes.

If she does want a meaningful relationship later down the line I think she's at risk of attracting men with a fetish or worse.

Yes you could say the same about anyone working in the sex industry, but we are talking about this woman in particular.

She has openly said that she wants children one day.

She does seem very aware of the risks and consequences, but then you can't be fully aware until you've lived it.

At the moment she's young, carefree, making money and living in the moment.

But she will probably feel very different at 35 and at 40. She hasn't got lived experience of say having a teenage child.

I don’t believe exploiting a young and vulnerable person is anything other than that for these men. It’s opportunistic and not driven by the same need to be seen, to be noticed. The men and the young woman in this scenario are participating for completely different reasons. It’s hugely exploitative and sickening to see any young person treated like that.

One issue with this comment : "She will be able to find a man, I’m sure, but probably not a very decent one."

this site has many examples of good people that end up with omg partners, so to be fair your comment does not equal your predicted outcome otherwise how d you explain the behaviours of the omg partners of good people ??

@MumOfOneAllAlone I don't think you've seen enough of her footage to get a clear view of what she is doing. I'm not sure if you use TikTok but there are lots of interviews of her on there.

Do you know her and Bonnie have group sex with men together. Bonnie calls women Karen's and talks about sleeping with married men. They are actually taking the piss out of women.

@MumOfOneAllAlone I'm inclined to agree.

On the face of it I don't think that she is a victim, however as you say we have no idea of what pressure might be being put on her behind the polished version of her.

It's very easy to exploit someone and especially young women.

That’s true. Maybe she will find someone quite passive but generally nice who is prepared to see past what she used to do. She doesn’t strike me as a particularly nice person really from what I’ve seen but that doesn’t seem to stop people from getting partners. So she might well be fine on the partnering front.
Where I don’t think she will be so fine is if she has kids and they WILL (there’s no question) find out about what she used to do. I don’t think I could ever understand or comprehend if I found out my mum used to do that and I’d not want a relationship with her.

Will she regret it one day? Maybe.

At the moment she is earning a lot of money. They say they don't want a boring 9 to 5 job. They don't want to be told when they can and can't go on holiday. They know they are very pretty and that not all women are lusted over like they are. Not all women could be a porn star at this level because they aren't pretty enough. They rage bait and say that a man cheating is OK.

It doesn't make me angry because I'm not insecure. I just don't feel sorry for them.

As for wanting to sleep with 18 year old virgin young men. That is sick.

but then these days people have open relationships, people have throuples however its spelt where its three in the relationship. love is different etc there's no right or wrong way

I also don't think goodlooking, clever, confident young men would touch her with a barge pole so I'd hate to see some of the men who are having sex with her.

Okay but how many kids would be okay that’s there’s hundreds of videos of their mum having gang bangs? Because their friends will see them and tease them about it.

i cannot speak for the individual but its also possible that they too want to go into the business etc, not saying that is the case and not saying that is right, but these days teasing already happens with your mum jokes etc, people are different people have different views and while we may think x idea is omg, and it may well be omg, but if its legal etc then its upto the individual and not society to say you cannot do x

You are utterly deluded if you think that good-looking, clever, confident young men don't work in the porn industry or have sex with porn stars.

I went down a a little rabbit hole after reading this thread. I don't have TT but was able to view some videos through links, before watching much much more on both of these women.

They sneer at other women who dare to question what they are doing and boast about fucking married men.

For some unknown reason the OP has created her own narrative around this Lily character, when in fact, she really is chillingly nonchalant about what she is doing. The other one Bonnie, seems ruthless and conceited in her quest 'to educate'.

It is all bullshit. They are both awful but I don't see victims. I do see them making many many victims out of others though.

Why is she being exploited and they aren’t? Why do you think she’s less responsible for her actions because of X, Y and Z when you have no idea whether she’s even gone or is going through X, Y and Z, or if she has, whether the same couldn’t also apply to any/all of the men involved?

You don’t. You have no idea what’s driving any of them 🤷🏻‍♀️

and there it is the other half of the story @MumOfOneAllAlone

I didn't say work in the porn industry. I said normal goodlooking intelligent young men will not be queuing up to have sex with her. The thought of sloppy seconds would put most of them off never mind sloppy seventy fives.

I dont cheer on people that do extreme sports, I dont cheer this woman on, I just recognise its something she seems to want to do, something I dont want to do and thats that.

I cant think of anything worse than cliiming up a mountain, having sex with multiple men, or eating horrible things on IACGMOOH

All extreme stuff in my view, not my cuppa but plenty of people like it and like watching it

Even the sheer number tells you the power imbalance at best is not on her side. The vulnerability of the act and the fact she was violated during the process when her requests were flagrantly ignored. There is a serious problem when pp are unable to understand how deeply disturbing this is. How dangerous it is.

Not many would have sex with them. They wouldn't need to. There are plenty of pretty young women who aren't doing porn.