AIBU to feel completely distressed by the viral video of the aftermath of onlyfans worker Lily P 'sleeping with' 100 men?

[MumOfOneAllAlone]

I've tried to word this carefully.

Lily, an onlyfans star, aged 20something I'm guessing, slept with 100 men in one go, as part of a documentary.

Following this, she's on camera crying. She says her eyes hurt as some of the men ejaculated in them, despite her saying no.

My heart is broken for this girl. Im a feminist but I've never thought of sex work as being empowering?

Surely, the empowerment of sex work has failed this poor girl? And surely the 100 men who agreed to do this are criminals???

I'm so angry. You could see in the video that Lily is realising what a mistake this was and is very traumatised.

Anyway, didn't see a thread on this so thought I'd post. My heart goes out to her, and my brain feels very angry at those who failed to protect her.

Why is it legal though? Surely laws should protect society.

I feel sorry for what you have been through.

I honestly believe she is just out for the money.

Lol I think vulnerable children experience cruelty more than an autonomous adult, whether or not they have given birth.

This. And can people please stop calling her a young girl. A young girl is a 12 year old, this grown women is nearly double that.

very very good point - absolutely.

This is NOT sex work. She is not on the breadline or coerced in any way.

Part of the point of Only Fans is for non-sex workers to have fun/earn by creating content that exposes/explores them sexually.

Some just dip their toes in by only doing feet, etc. ... all the control is in the hands of the creator. There is zero pressure.

But Lily has recreated a prostitution situation where any bloke who comes through the door can have her, and she's agreed to it. She even weirdly said she felt 'so bad' because some guys were complaining she'd advertised 5 minutes and they were only getting eg 2.

Question: did the guys pay for this pleasure?

I feel like, if everyone knows she will go on to regret being used in this way but her, and if everyone knows she's gonna suffer because of this but her, is she really not a victim?

The men know what they're doing is shameful, which is why they don't want to be filmed. As do her team around her

Nobody knows 100% what another person will go on to do/think or feel.

I think it is only a matter of time before she is ruptured, and then also only a matter of time before she finds herself doubly incontinent. What a life.

Just because people know she is going to regret it doesn't mean she is a victim, I know I'm going to regret drinking half a bottle of port when I wake up the next day but it doesn't make me a victim. I've done plenty of stuff when I was younger that I regret bit it doesn't make me a victim. She's a content creator and SHES PLANNING ON DOING IT AGAIN WITH MORE MEN so how much does she really regret it? The men are there because she's invited them to be, I think all of it is shameful but she's using them for content just as much as they are using her. The term victim should be saved for people that have no choice in the matter

I think she has used them hasnt she? Its her work, her income

Im often in tears after a day at work, emotionally and physicaly drained.

@WasThatACorner ah thank you , no I can see why it came across that way when I read it back

Yes YABU to feel distressed over this, she put herself in this position willingly and plans to do it again but this time with 1000 men

"Ideally, we’ll do it in a big warehouse with two doors. I’m hoping a couple of seconds each at most - and on their way!"

That is what she said about the 1000 men so no sympathy here for her, a few tears which weren’t even because she was upset some of them were because she was worried she didn’t give them a good enough time with only having 2 minutes and she said she felt guilt some of them didn’t finish!!

Jesus that's a stretch

I think the question is why did she choose this? Because we live in a porn addled society that has brainwashed a lot of women into belonging sex work is empowering. A significant proportion of her generation live for likes and subscribers they see those numbers as equivalent to their worth as a person. So believing these things how can she turn around and say that was stupid it was traumatic and sex work isn't positive. She's built her whole self around this and if she back pédalas all she is famous for and values dries up.

She said no cum on her Face. That is sexual assault. It angers me reading so many women victim blaming here. How is saying she asked for this any different to saying a different victim deserves it for the clothes they wore or an abused woman deserves it because she should have left at the first red flag?? Shame on you people.

Yes she made a stupid choice. So do so many women who then pay the price for those choices. But as others are pointing out what of the men? Who are the people committing these crimes, paying for only fans gaslighting women I to thinking it's all good? Majority is men

You have said "she" 6 times.

There was 1 woman.

100 men.

36000 spectators.

You're not "vilifying her as such"??? Do you know people in the world? Have any of them made poor decisions?

No. It's a very likely tear.

1000 men in 24 hours - what could possibly go wrong. The human body is not meant for this sort of thing.

She will probably die. She's a twat.

You lost me at "lol".

Well yeah but I’m not saying that she/LILY shouldn’t be allowed to do it. I’m just saying she doesn’t seem traumatised, she’s making a load of money and she’s intent on carrying on with her gross project. The OP is on about locking her up for her own good which is very patronising and acting like she’s some poor damsel in distress. She doesn’t see herself as a victim, why should we? We’d never give the slightest sympathy to a young man filming himself shagging countless women would we?
Also the thread is about the content creator, ie the woman. I don’t know why you keep going on about the 36,000 followers.

And it's me who isn't engaging in the conversation.

Please dont respond. You are abhorrent.

I feel sad that you are defending her.

You must have some serious issues.

I hope you don't have Daughters or Sons.

I'm imagining she's not being kind to the young males she enjoys grooming and then abusing?

Or the girlfriend of some guy who won the prize of having sex with Lily and who was made to wait in the next room while they did it. She actively wants men to cheat on their partners with her.

Of course it's sex work. Sex work is work within the sex industry; how much money somebody has is nothing to do with it, and coercion is a separate issue (and illegal).

Stripping is sex work, prostitution is sex work, performing in porn is sex work, webcamming is sex work, working on a phone sex line is sex work - the whole point of the term is provide an umbrella for a range of related jobs.

It's also the term that many sex workers use to refer to themselves which I assume is why it irritates the people who hate it so much, since the last people ever to be asked about their views are the sex workers who are happily (and thus inconveniently) just getting on with being sex workers.