AIBU to feel completely distressed by the viral video of the aftermath of onlyfans worker Lily P 'sleeping with' 100 men?

[MumOfOneAllAlone]

I've tried to word this carefully.

Lily, an onlyfans star, aged 20something I'm guessing, slept with 100 men in one go, as part of a documentary.

Following this, she's on camera crying. She says her eyes hurt as some of the men ejaculated in them, despite her saying no.

My heart is broken for this girl. Im a feminist but I've never thought of sex work as being empowering?

Surely, the empowerment of sex work has failed this poor girl? And surely the 100 men who agreed to do this are criminals???

I'm so angry. You could see in the video that Lily is realising what a mistake this was and is very traumatised.

Anyway, didn't see a thread on this so thought I'd post. My heart goes out to her, and my brain feels very angry at those who failed to protect her.

You're an absolute twat. I won't be responding further.

Don't tell me what to do. She needs to stop what she is doing. Why are you defending her ?

Do you feel like you're making a point?

I have mentioned way, way upthread that trauma can present in very different ways. I wouldn't take any mumsnetters expert opinion on trauma.

I'm going on about the 36000 people because they are all involved in what is happening.

I'm not interested interested the choices of one woman. I'm interested in the reactions of others to that individual. I'm.interested in the ways that "society" (a group of individuals) choose to weave a narrative around one individual.

Good, but I still hope you haven't got children especially Sons.

The woman can’t be mentally well. This is self harm on a huge scale. I’m horrified that young people will watch this and try to copy her behaviour. I’d say she needs psychological intervention pdq.

I haven't commented on Lily.

I'm not defending anything or anyone.

I don't feel like I would like you as a person but all I have wanted is for you to look at the many wider reasons that this may have happened and the role of the 36100 other people.

I feel the exact same about you

Who would've thought I could find common ground with such a small minded, spiteful person?

Are you doing a night-class in sociology or something?

Which bit of this do you think should be illegal?

okay....another thing not to do EVER :)

Theres no victim blaming here because theres no victim

Theres someone who did a days work and didnt enjoy every minute of that work, just like most of us have from time to time

The OP starts a thread expecting people to be shocked and upset for her but doesnt seemt o understand, as you dont also, that not everyone agrees that she is a victim or distressed. So no one is 'blaming' her for anything, what people are saying is that they're not shocked or distressed because its something she chose to do and its her job.

I don't know who she is, but I don't think anyone in their right mind thinks sex work is empowering. At the most, it might be the best of a set of bad options.

Anyone who came in her eyes when she said no to that committed a crime yes, but no of course the guys who had sex with her aren't criminals if she consented and is capable of informed consent.

You're right, but current thinking is this approach shames women who want to be sexual in the same way nasty men can be sexual.

A society can't really have it two ways on questions like this, they have to decide which are less objectionable.

I'm not not small minded. I just don't agree with Bonnie and Lily.

Well, the average age that young people access or view extreme pornography is 11 years old in the UK.

I'm a teacher and most parents think their child isn't but they are, or watching via a friends phone. There are plenty of loopholes and even Facebook, Instagram, daily mail etc are talking about Bonnie Blue etc, having sex with hundreds of men then it's very easy to find extreme pornography, it's normally only a couple of clicks. Some find it out of curiosity, others by accident but it's normally quite traumatic for children and can have life long effects.

Hence, it would be great if it was illey,in order to protect children. It works well in many countries around the world.

What's it to you what she's doing?

You don't have to be kind to anyone.

Try treating a human as a human.

If that doesn't work for you, I'd be very interested in what went wrong in your life.

But reject any conversation about their existence.

Tale as old as time, evil women corrupting the world.

You have lost the plot

Was she crying because she was upset or were her eyes weeping because of their contents?

I haven’t seen the vid.

I don't care what she is doing.

Don't do it, then cry about about it, then do it again.

Anyone that argues sex work is empowering can absolutely never call themselves a feminist. It is always exploitative, often dangerous and has no place in modern society.

I kind of think that if, as she says she disassociated and can't remember from about halfway through, at that point she may have lost the ability to consent from then on

Nope, no night classes.

I have a genuine interest and would like to have a conversation. If I'm honest I'm losing interest in a conversation with people like you and am having a much more interesting real world conversation with people who are interested in more that slot shaming or protecting males at all odds.

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