To think why make sly digs?

[Chihiroo]

For my birthday my MIL bought me Dior soap annd hand lotion and body cream - lovely, but very expensive and a waste of money and definitely not something I’d buy myself.

Anyway, I wore the body cream and my friends complimented me and asked what it was. Friend asked what soap - I made a joke that I put it in the guest bathroom so it would rarely be used and showed her a photo and she said “oh they’re very small”

They are literally full sized soap and hand lotions. And whenever she shows me something new I’m always very complimentary.

I know it’s insignificant but it’s bloody soap, there wasn’t a need for any put downs.

You think your friend was putting your soap down and making sly digs at it?

I really wouldn't see it as a put down, a little tactless at a massive push but certainly not anything I would think twice about.
Unless she has form form for this.....

You just made a sly dig about how your MIL "wasted" her money buying you a gift which is "lovely", you have used and also received compliments on -but your friend is the one in be wrong? 😵‍💫

Meh 🤷‍♂️

Some things do look smaller in photos, not sure why you think it's some sort of put down really.

It's all very bland.

Well £150 on soap and hand lotion is quite steep.

I’m with you, OP, it was a sly dig.

I wonder if you are self-deprecating about yourself so she thinks she can make these dogs?

I think might be time to act like you deserve £150 toiletries. Which you do.

This is an anonymous forum 🙄

Did she possibly mean the soap was small considering the huge price .

Had you mentioned the price, and thus she was surprised about the size for the price?

You could have said "MIL made an extremely generous gift" or similar, but no, you had to make a dig, even anonymously 🙄🙄🙄
My point is you and your friend are similar so what's the point in holding it against her?

So many questions. Why did you take photos of soap? Was there a 50p for scale? Is it really a dig?🤔

They’re not similar. And you wouldn’t put up with sly digs so don’texpect OP to.

Thank you ❤️

And do you think being self-deprecating can make it esasier for a person to make digs? As I definitely am self deprecating

Could she have meant it was small for the cost of it, I can't see how it would be a dig at you commenting on the size they were when it wasn't even you who paid for it and you said you put it in the guest bathroom.

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Yes, definitely, many people will hone in on someone they perceive as weaker because they think they can get away with it, whereas they won’t say those to things to someone they’ve seen answer back.

The whole point of the conversation was for you to belittle your MiLs gift to you surely? So why on earth are you annoyed with your friend for joining in?

She soap shamed you. Kick her to the kerb.

You made a disparaging dig about your MIL’s gift, or as you prefer to call it, “a joke”, so your friend commented in the same vein.

Another MIL getting it wrong…

Who cares what another random thinks of a gift you didn’t give a shit about?

I don’t get it.

Another who thinks possibly small for the price for £150 I’d be expecting mahoosive salon sizes. When you get those 1.5 litre dispenser bottles. If it was standard size I’d think it small too.

You were being extremely rude about your MIL to your friend. Your MIL thought you deserved it and would be happy about it, it’s not something you would buy yourself by the sounds of it. But you have to sneer about it.

Why did you take a photo of if you didn’t really care about the gift? I don’t understand some people, always have to find something to complain about.

You’d expect a 1.5 l bottle of Dior body cream, hand soap and hand cream for £150?

WTF? No one "deserves" £150 soap and moisturiser!