To think why make sly digs?

[Chihiroo]

For my birthday my MIL bought me Dior soap annd hand lotion and body cream - lovely, but very expensive and a waste of money and definitely not something I’d buy myself.

Anyway, I wore the body cream and my friends complimented me and asked what it was. Friend asked what soap - I made a joke that I put it in the guest bathroom so it would rarely be used and showed her a photo and she said “oh they’re very small”

They are literally full sized soap and hand lotions. And whenever she shows me something new I’m always very complimentary.

I know it’s insignificant but it’s bloody soap, there wasn’t a need for any put downs.

She was telling OP that she was as bad as her fiend for posting here, on any anonymous forum.

as bad as her friend? Is her friend bad, then?
My take was @DearestGentleReader was saying what I did - had the OP made it sound to the friend like she thought the soap was very expensive and a waste of money, and therefore the friend saying ‘it’s very small’ to agree, or had she said the exact opposite of what she said here, and therefore the friend was criticising something the OP had said she loved? And anyway, it’s soap. Soap the OP hasn’t even bought. I’m not sure exactly what the dig is supposed to be about…

My MIL bought me the same !!! And I am so ungrateful because I don't like soaps, lotions and stuff like that. I use it when on holidays otherwise I have my big pack at home. But it came from a place of love so I am greatful for her kindness in general. Must have been 5 years ago. Still got them :)

For the friend I think it wasn't a dig at all. Your mil got you this, she knows it's expensive so how can making a comment on it's size be a sly dig aimed at you? Maybe at Dior or your mil if you want to stretch it..

Goodness you’re very sensitive about your soap. It must mean a lot to you.

You're very invested in this so I will try to break it down for you one more time.

I don't care what OP posts or doesn't post enough to tell her off about anything. She came to AIBU to ask for opinions so I gave my opinion, based on what OP herself stated, that she may not be squeaky clean in all this (pun absolutely intended) so I'm not about to start dishing out condemnation of her friend.

If she's let on IRL anything of what she posted anonymously here, she has given her friend the green light to mock the soap.

It seems like it's a nice soap and OP enjoys using it so I'm not sure what the soap ever did to deserve being mocked by anyone, but this is MN and where would we be without a steady supply of the ridiculous to keep us coming back over the years.

Agree there’s nothing telling off about those posts. @Tellysavelas you seem so intent on jumping on anyone who disagrees with the OP throughout this thread I’m starting to wonder if you know each other in real life or something!

And this is why I made the “waste of money comment” because I’d have got comments like this.

I have no idea why a guest bathroom has to be a stealth boast - when frankly you know nothing at all about my house. And what exact validation would I even have from an anonymous person knowing anything about me when all I am is anonymous to them too.

I think you’re just chuffed to nuts about your birthday present, maybe don’t get. Nice stuff often, so are really sensitive about it. As you’re so utterly delighted.

Nope, just dislike mean girl pile ons.

Nonsense. You've got a bee in your bonnet about my disagreeing with OP for reasons best left unknown - I didn't pile on either, I was only the third poster on the thread.
And I've still not said anything mean about anyone, unlike you and OP with all your cattiness and name calling.

did you price it up? And take a pic of it? 😃

I thought it was a joke tbh

Surely part of the point of being bought a gift is that it is something you wouldn't buy yourself because of the cost. Dont be so ungrateful

Unless you are about to drip feed a significant amount more information here…

I would be curious with yourself about why a flippant aside from a friend caused such a significant response in you? Is it someone who regularly makes you feel inferior?

Something I try and remind myself is ‘only I can control how I feel’ - pull up your shoulders, remind yourself that you feel ok about yourself - and let it go. Don’t waste any further energy on it!

I'll adopt your mother in law, you can have mine 😊 She won't buy you any soap, Dior, small or otherwise.

This, really.

I tend to be self-deprecating OP and yes, it does make people think they can make snide comments.

separate issue, I’d be hogging that soap to myself. Guest room, indeed! 🤣

I thought the idea of a gift is that it's something you wouldn't buy yourself, as not really as waste of money when it isn't your money. I always ask for an expensive body wash for Birthday/Christmas as I wouldn't spend that much usually.

I would put it somewhere where it won’t be forgotten about as once opened they don’t last long so if you rarely use the guest bathroom then after 6 months the hand lotion could have gone off.

Are you sure her comment wasn’t in response to you remarking something like how silly to spend so much on toiletries and she’s responded along the lines of they aren’t even very big considering the price? You were sort of slagging mil and she was following suit?

If someone made a comment about how small the soap in my bathroom was for the price, that someone else bought for me I wouldn't think they were having a sly dig at me! I would bear no responsibility for either the size or the price paid.

Yes, the most my now deceased MiL gave me was a slightly smelly top that she had bought for herself, wore a couple of times (without washing or the use of antiperspirant) and then decided it didn't suit her!!

I feel sorry for you with your small Dior soap and your guest bathroom…

It's not a sly dig. It's the fact it cost a bomb and it is a small item for that price xx