To think you don’t do this when someone is taking you out for a meal…?

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DH took his sister out for dinner to celebrate her birthday at the weekend - it was a nice restaurant so he knew it wouldn’t be cheap but his sister ended up ordering the most expensive food items on the menu & had 8 cocktails at £20 a go!!!

The meal ended up costing hundreds and hundreds of pounds - so much so that I’ve had to bail him out so he could get through the rest of the month.

If someone is treating me to a meal, I always make sure I don’t choose the most expensive thing on the menu - surely this is just basic manners ?!

AIBU? Or was she really grabby to do that ?

It’s rude

Well surely he asks where she is taking him for his birthday and you tag along. ..?

Agree that it's rude. I'd always try to choose something mid price range at the most if someone else was paying

Why didn't he speak up at the time?! Surely he could have said something to his own sister before it spiralled to "hundreds and hundreds of pounds"? "Steady on Helen, I'm not a millionaire... have a cocktail, but then we'll have to switch to something less ruinous"

I'd be furious with him. Is he always a wet fart?

8 cocktails? 8? She must have been very ill after that.

It's really rude yes. Is she usually like this? I'd say something to my sister during the meal if she was taking the piss. Was he drinking with her?

The 8 cocktails is taking the piss!

£160 on just drinks for one person!?!

The food I couldn't get worked up over, sometimes I only like the more expensive items on the menu, but ordering the cocktails was very cheeky. He should've told her that he couldn't afford to pay for them too before she'd ordered the 2nd one!

Christ 8 cocktails at £20 a pop! Very rude.

Why on earth didn't he say something at the time? Bonkers

How was she still standing after 8 cocktails?

And why didn't your DH say anything?!

He’ll know to stick to Toby Carvery next time.

How did she feel after 8 cocktails???

Eight cocktails over one meal? That's ridiculous.

Although, he could have told her to rack it in when it started to get silly but he clearly just let her carry on, knowing it was going to put him in a precarious position and that you'd bail him out. So you are paying for her cheeky fuckery and his fragile ego. Sorry op, I'd be pissed off with the pair of them.

I wouldn’t feel I had to avoid the more expensive food unless I had some reason to think the other person couldn’t afford it- I’d just order a normal meal.

8 cocktails is crazy!

She's taken the absolute piss :(

8 cocktails is crazy with dinner!!!
But sometimes I really want a steak, I do usually offer to pay towards it.

If it costs hundreds and hundreds then so did he op, he also spent up.

If you are really being treated, you should be able to pick whatever you want from the menu.

What isn't appropriate is ordering to excess. So 2 mains would be greedy, 8 cocktails is greedy etc.

Why didn’t he say something? The sister is a CF but your partner is also an idiot for allowing that to happen.

Did she drink 8 cocktails though or did he get pissed with her and think youd be more sympathetic to the mean sister story than of him spunking that much cash in one go?

Thanks for the replies - honestly I’m livid with them both !!

i said to him why didn’t you say something but he said he felt like he couldn’t!! He’s usually not shy in coming forward so I don’t understand why he didn’t say something to her.

DH only drinks beer so he definitely wasn’t joining her on the cocktails.

Blimey 8 cocktails?!! Couldn't DH have stepped in after the first couple to say she's paying for her own cocktails if she wants any more though?
Agree about the meal though, I always go for something cheap to mid priced if I'm being treated!

I would have to speak to her and ask her why she felt free to spend so much of your family's money.