AIBU to be confused and hurt over no invite

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I have been friends with a group of women since my teens. We generally stay in touch via social media / WhatsApp and meet a few times a year locally.
We are all approaching (or are over!) a big birthday this year. I opened FB this morning to find a post from one of the group thanking “all her friends for the best birthday party ever” and loads of photos of them all in her garden celebrating. Obvs I didn’t get the memo…or an invite!
Ive spoken to a few of them over the last few weeks and obviously not one of them mentioned it. Even stranger, I’m due to meet birthday girl for lunch this week and prior to today she’s been behaving completely normally.

The adult in me really just wants to forget it and focus on people in my life who actually want me there. But the inner 13 year old in my head is raging and crying over this and this apparent rejection! And I’m going over and over in my head about what I could have possibly done to be snubbed like that.

So WWYD?

1. Forget, block and move on
2. Meet birthday girl for lunch as planned and say nothing?
3. Meet birthday girl and find out how your invite got so lost in the post…

Thank you!

Ah thats great OP. I am glad you talked to them about it rather than just cutting them off immediately. Phew!

I am so pleased at how it worked out! Mumsnet is so prone to putting the worst possible spin on incidents like this.

You were really sensible to talk it through and not assume the worst of your friends. Life is messy sometimes, and mistakes happen!

That’s really good news op. Sadly you missed the party but at least you know you’re just as valued as everyone else.