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Original poster

To ask if you agreed to submit to your husband's authority when you married?

253 replies

GalaApples · 22/02/2023 18:55

If so, what made you agree? Was it a good decision?
I recently found out that this is a thing among some evangelical Christians, in the UK as well as in the US. Has it worked out for you? How do you feel about the man being the "head" of the house, and have his decisions been good ones or not? How do you feel about him making the final decisions about your marriage and family?

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kitcat15 · 22/02/2023 18:55

🙄

Hawkins003 · 22/02/2023 18:56

Tickles.to.that idea,

dogdaydown · 22/02/2023 18:57

Only the right and sensible thing to do surely! 🙄

Maybebabyno2 · 22/02/2023 18:57

Hahahahahaha, fuck don't tell my finance this is a option, he'll be trying to get me to find God before our wedding!

shopmyfeelings · 22/02/2023 18:57

Course I didn't. It's a ridiculous concept and if that was compulsory in vows I wouldn't have got married.

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 22/02/2023 18:58

No.

IntentionalError · 22/02/2023 18:58

Fuck that.

SingingSands · 22/02/2023 18:59

Never heard of that. Is that the new "obey"? I don't think it will catch on...

We promised our love, loyalty and trust to each other. Much nicer all round.

Dappledapples · 22/02/2023 19:00

No

N4ish · 22/02/2023 19:01

You sound like you’re researching a newspaper article.

RealBecca · 22/02/2023 19:01

What authority?

Motheranddaughter · 22/02/2023 19:02

No

Schnooze · 22/02/2023 19:02

Ha ha

whathappenedthere · 22/02/2023 19:04

no because I'm an adult with full mental capacity

TheCaddieisaBaddie · 22/02/2023 19:04

Did I fuck. It was bad enough that I gave up my name.

pawz · 22/02/2023 19:04

I had the love, honour, obey vows because I like them. Doesn't mean I submit to his authority, I retain the right to protest obviously.

Ketchupwee · 22/02/2023 19:05

Hahahahahahahaha hahahahaha no. Ye are partners, he is not my boss and I am not his

KindlyKanga · 22/02/2023 19:05

N4ish · 22/02/2023 19:01

You sound like you’re researching a newspaper article.

Yes that's what I thought

Allschoolsareartschools · 22/02/2023 19:06

I've heard of it but it would never, ever be something I'd consider.

Ketchupwee · 22/02/2023 19:06

*we

bozzabollix · 22/02/2023 19:06

Funnily enough nope.

I think it’d have made my husband run a bloody mile.

PleasantZen · 22/02/2023 19:07

Ephesians 5:22-24
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

This is exactly why I'm not a Christian

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 22/02/2023 19:07

Goodness, this would have been laughed out of court even when dh and I got married back in the dark ages of 1974.

I’m not sure this sort of ‘submissive wife Christianity’ is at all a big thing in the U.K. - thank goodness - unlike in (presumably) Bible-Belt America.

Original poster
GalaApples · 22/02/2023 19:08

N4ish
No I am not. I am an ordinary person who heard of this recently. I wondered how common it is, as I had never heard of it before. And wanted to know what kind of woman would agree to do this and why. I was shocked, but want to understand the reason why a woman would do this.

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WandaWonder · 22/02/2023 19:08

No because, well, I have a brain

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