Men in women’s spaces

[BrightSaturn]

Just using this to rant really…

2 times in the past month I have encountered men in women only spaces.

1. I went to a feeding room to breastfeed my daughter in a shopping centre. I walked in and there were two young women in there changing their babies and one of their boyfriends just taking up one of the only chairs just sitting there, sitting using his phone. It’s a small room with 3 chairs in. I didn’t know what to do so I thought I’ll just sit down and get ready slowly and hopefully they’ll leave. I have fed in public but this was a small room so I felt vulnerable and like he shouldn’t be there and I didn’t want to lift my top up whilst he was sitting basically opposite me so I eventually asked if he could leave the room, they looked annoyed but thankfully he did go, after she looked at him and said “it’s up to you”…
2. I went into a changing room in a shop the other day with my mum, imagine a big room with seats in the middle and curtained dividers all round the outside. My mum was only trying on cardigans so really she just needed a mirror but in the middle on a seat was a boy about 17/18 years old. His girlfriend was trying on clothes. I couldn’t believe it! It wasn’t even doors on the changing rooms, just curtains. Why he thought this was acceptable I have no idea. Again I felt vulnerable and this time I didn’t have the confidence to ask him to leave. If my mum had been actually changing I would have probably found a shop assistant but still it’s not fair that we have to ask them to leave, he should not have been there in the first place!

aibu to think women’s spaces are being invaded more and more? How can we stop this from happening?

So you went to every place then? Because you stated categorically that the feeding rooms have never been women only spaces.

Because multiple women on here have testified they were. Many of us.

This is ironic considering you’re the person claiming all feeding rooms were once mothers rooms.

You haven’t been to every place yet can claim that

Yet the premise of BREASTfeeding rooms was for.... women. This is a fact.

It's also interesting, as I again note, you only just registered and came straight to this thread.

@CoralreefBex I'm not laughing at women, or breastfeeding, I'm laughing at you and your views. What you said made me laugh out loud, as I quite clearly explained.

My DH is very knowledgeable about lactation also; he's a very hands-on parent and is a feminist - this is precisely why he would never enter a feeding room as he's hyper-aware of situations in which he could make women feel uncomfortable. He knows he's not a threat but THEY don't know that.

@CoralreefBex Yes please do enlighten us as you have chosen to ignore the point raised by a few other posters, that you only just registered and came straight to this thread... bit odd?

Excellent point 👍🏼

I feel really strongly that men don’t belong in women only spaces - it’s an important issue - but I think we are d

downgrading This argument when we say that men don’t belong in mixed sex areas such as parenting room. Pick your battles.

She's not laughing at that, as you know. She's laughing at the scenario you presented.
Women have been breastfeeding since forever successfully with no input from men.
Which comes back to my original question of what do they do when their man isn't around? They get on with it of course.
No decent man would want to be anywhere which may make a woman uncomfortable or embarrassed, whether his partner wants him there or not.

It’s not me and my views

Or are you claiming HVs don’t actively encourage men to be part of BF journeys

Wheres OP in all this? I reckon we’ve worn out her notifications and she’s silenced us whoops 😬

You are aware people NC right?

many posters do so regularly.

why don’t you enlighten us on why you think HV and other professionals are wrong for encouraging men to be part of BF, as it’s been shown to improve long term success rates

But this isn’t a breast feeding room, as has been explained to you multiple times.

@Mentalpiece Thankyou,that's absolutely right.

@CoralreefBex Stop trying to gaslight me, it's not working.

NC to post on this thread, and on a trans thread. Very suspicious.

Oops yes!

As has been explained repeatedly, these WERE originally breastfeeding rooms. That they are no longer, doesn't erase that fact.

What trans thread?

Ive also posted on a thread about over protective parents and one in property tonight.

It’s a conspiracy

Yes, NC in order to post here and on a trans thread, very suspicious indeed!!

And as has been explained to you before, you don’t know this one was originally a BF room. You don’t know the centre the OP went to. Jesus wept

NC to also post on the property topic and about an overprotective parent,

Hardly a massive conspiracy. Some of you need to get out more

Ooh! We've touched a nerve! Lol 😂

You don’t seem to understand the word gaslighting, not surprising considering your other posts, but still a little odd.

@CoralreefBex you so t seem to understand a lot of things either, and that's not surprising considering the other posts you have commented on too.