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Tradesperson inviting people into my home

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IvyPlant · 17/09/2022 17:03

Currently got a tradesperson in to do a job. They quoted me a day rate of 8 days work (which I think will take less time than that, but they're the expert...)

Anyway, that's not my AIBU. I checked my security footage this week and noticed a woman popped round to my house when I was out and tradesperson was working alone in my house. I can only see her walk past my front door to the back garden gate, she knocks and then the feed ends. She's seen leaving 4 hours later. The next day, same thing, except 3 hours.

At present the tradesperson gets here for about 8am and has already stopped working by 3pm. So that's 7 hours of work, fair enough, but 4 (and 3) of them an unknown woman here is (it's not his wife, I did a little social media digging and it's not her).

AIBU if I question him about it next week? He still has 4 days left to finish the job next week and I don't l like the fact there's an unknown and univited person in my house when I'm not there, plus, how much work can he really be doing if his "mate" is there for 4 hours.

OP posts:
imtoooldforthiscrap · 19/09/2022 21:09

I don't think it's this by any stretch of the imagination, however ...

Years ago a previous boyfriend was a builder. He was also Mr Neat and Tidy.

I had a slack time with work and so he asked me if I would go round and tidy up his client's house at the end of each day (whilst he was still there) so that it was as tidy as possible when they came home from work. He would pay me to do this and also to do some of his paperwork.

I wish I could find a builder like him now who kept the site so clean and today!

imtoooldforthiscrap · 19/09/2022 21:09

I don't think it's this by any stretch of the imagination, however ...

Years ago a previous boyfriend was a builder. He was also Mr Neat and Tidy.

I had a slack time with work and so he asked me if I would go round and tidy up his client's house at the end of each day (whilst he was still there) so that it was as tidy as possible when they came home from work. He would pay me to do this and also to do some of his paperwork.

I wish I could find a builder like him now who kept the site so clean and today!

Leila7654321 · 19/09/2022 21:57

This whole thread had me crying laughing. Excited for the update

Tillow4ever · 19/09/2022 23:07

Absolutely not placemarking on the off chance the builder and his mysterious woman haven’t read all about this either on here or in the papers!

giveovernate · 20/09/2022 06:32

What time does he arrive OP?

giveovernate · 20/09/2022 06:32

What time does he arrive OP?

ladydimitrescu · 20/09/2022 06:58

Been waiting for Tuesday for the update, I really must get a life because I'm so invested in this 😂

ladydimitrescu · 20/09/2022 06:59

Been waiting for Tuesday for the update, I really must get a life because I'm so invested in this 😂

IvyPlant · 20/09/2022 07:07

I woke up at 3:30 am this morning because I am so anxious about the day and week ahead. I hate that this person has put me in this position.

I'll be updating later this evening. The cameras are ready and primed.

OP posts:
Zonder · 20/09/2022 07:15

Sorry to hear that Ivy. I bet he has no idea of the trouble he has caused, thinking he's so clever standing in front of the door camera!

BeyondApproach · 20/09/2022 07:20

All fun and entertainment aside, it's a betrayal of trust. If they're shagging, that's shit, but not dangerous. She could be anyone though and, on that basis, I would be concerned. How fucking dare he?

Billybagpuss · 20/09/2022 07:35

Even if he has seen the papers you still have enough evidence to confront him.

Tromboleese · 20/09/2022 08:44

Sorry it’s keeping you awake at night Ivy. Hope today is the day for this to be resolved.

Langpants · 20/09/2022 08:45

OP, if for any reason this post needs to be taken down, please start a new “secret” one to update us? Maybe something like “Looking for cushions and fluffy blanket for my office” or something along those lines? 😂 I neeeeed this update.

JacquelineCarlyle · 20/09/2022 08:50

IvyPlant · 20/09/2022 07:07

I woke up at 3:30 am this morning because I am so anxious about the day and week ahead. I hate that this person has put me in this position.

I'll be updating later this evening. The cameras are ready and primed.

Totally understand you feeling this way Op as it's a complete betrayal of your trust. Hope you're ok & things get sorted today. Good luck.

arretesigusy · 20/09/2022 08:55

Sorry to hear you're feeling upset. It's emotionally draining as it's your hone and he should respect that. One way or other, by tomorrow, it'll be resolved.

arretesigusy · 20/09/2022 08:55

Sorry to hear you're feeling upset. It's emotionally draining as it's your hone and he should respect that. One way or other, by tomorrow, it'll be resolved.

Doingprettywellthanks · 20/09/2022 09:10

IvyPlant · 20/09/2022 07:07

I woke up at 3:30 am this morning because I am so anxious about the day and week ahead. I hate that this person has put me in this position.

I'll be updating later this evening. The cameras are ready and primed.

If I were you, I’d hide this thread.

chatterbox95 · 20/09/2022 09:14

Following for tonight's updates 🤣

chatterbox95 · 20/09/2022 09:15

Following for tonight's updates 🤣

Blondeshavemorefun · 20/09/2022 09:29

Sorry you had a bad night @IvyPlant

its your life and you can have confront him which can’t be a nice thing

do you know if he has turned up / check drive camera to see if van is there

BakedTattie · 20/09/2022 09:36

Even if it turns out to be innocent, he has taken someone into your house without your knowing or consent. I’d be so pissed off.

ps, it’s not innocent

Whiskeypowers · 20/09/2022 10:05

if he is doing what we all think then he is a disgrace
it’s a betrayal of trust and a violation of your own home which you trusted him as a professional not to do. I totally understand why you feel anxious and in turn angry

marvellousmaple · 20/09/2022 10:15

Is it Tuesday in the UK yet?? Hurry up.

fatgirlslimmer · 20/09/2022 10:16

Do your new cameras not link up to your phone so that you will be able to monitor it as it happens?

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