Tradesperson inviting people into my home

[IvyPlant]

Currently got a tradesperson in to do a job. They quoted me a day rate of 8 days work (which I think will take less time than that, but they're the expert...)

Anyway, that's not my AIBU. I checked my security footage this week and noticed a woman popped round to my house when I was out and tradesperson was working alone in my house. I can only see her walk past my front door to the back garden gate, she knocks and then the feed ends. She's seen leaving 4 hours later. The next day, same thing, except 3 hours.

At present the tradesperson gets here for about 8am and has already stopped working by 3pm. So that's 7 hours of work, fair enough, but 4 (and 3) of them an unknown woman here is (it's not his wife, I did a little social media digging and it's not her).

AIBU if I question him about it next week? He still has 4 days left to finish the job next week and I don't l like the fact there's an unknown and univited person in my house when I'm not there, plus, how much work can he really be doing if his "mate" is there for 4 hours.

Yes, tomorrow ideally he should be finished by he mentioned he will unlikely finish tomorrow and might need to come back on Saturday.

Unlikely finish tmrw and may need to come on Saturday? Well he surely would have finished had he not had his lady friend over and spend half the time doing no work

I’m genuinely curious what your partner thinks about the situation?

Sorry @IvyPlant ... "he may need to come back on Saturday!", this was perfect timing to tell him, you won't be paying any extra hours worked, as he would have been finished, if his afternoon delight hadn't have rocked up most days.

Sorry @IvyPlant ... "he may need to come back on Saturday!", this was perfect timing to tell him, you won't be paying any extra hours worked, as he would have been finished, if his afternoon delight hadn't have rocked up most days.

My partner is not impressed with the actions taken by the tradesperson and supports how I've been handling it. He has proposed to be there when I have a conversation with the tradesperson about his behaviour also. I'm taking the lead with this because ultimately it's my house, and I'm responsible for him being on the premises.

No need to say sorry.

Unfortunately, my paths crossed with the tradesperson as I was with my son and about to leave on the nursery run, and then onto work. I didn't think it was appropriate to have a conversation with my son there in the house by myself. I hope that's okay?

I think having your partner there is very sensible. This guy doesn’t seem to have any respect for you.

😂 yep! Word gets around - watching here just north of you 10,000 miles and several time zones away from OP and Mr. Dodgy sparkie. Amazing how news travels ain't it!

All the best OP - I hope the obnoxious tradesperson gets his financial comeuppance at least. Can only applaud your restraint in this situation, and in the face of several deliberately obtuse?/gratuitously troll-like respondents. Cheers!

Bloomin heck - if tables turned and a mumsnetter came on here and said that her partner called their home “my house” - there’s be a riot! 😂

True, but legally correct 🤣 my name on the deeds, my money paying for the works.

Obviously it's our home and he contributes in other way. I'll be sure to leave the spy cameras for my partner in case I decide to cheat on him, take the house and he needs to get his ducks in a row 🤣🤣🤣

Will expect a thread from your partner in the near future!

“my partner and mother of our child regards our home as being “her” house. AIBU to want to be added to the deeds to reflect my contribution to the family finances?”

Every MN thread ends up with utter rubbish like this.

Please OP, before it's too late, can you start a new thread and link here? I'm sure I'm not the only overinvested mildly interested party.

I'm quite glad @IvyPlant hasn't confronted the tradesman. I'm wanting to see if he says "oh there will be an additional day added on" after his spiel of liking to overestimate so customers are pleasantly surprised.

I also completely understand why you wouldn't want to stop him mid flow of a project, as it can be difficult to get people to take over midway through! And hopefully he's not seen this post/newspaper.

Personally, when it's all done and dusted, I would find a way to let his poor wife know. Regardless of reducing the days, which he owes you no matter what!

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4639233-the-tale-of-the-fluffy-blanket-and-the-dodgy-electrics

Here you go, new thread.

I am off work poorly this week and ridiculously invested in how this thread ends :)

Place marking!!!

OP has had to start a new thread partly because so many people have posted just to "placemark" (and tbf there are an awful lot of duplicate posts)

We don't need to know that you are placemarking.

Just bookmark the last post you read and then use the "watch this thread" option.

You can then easily see if there have been any new posts.

Place marking!!!