Tradesperson inviting people into my home

[IvyPlant]

Currently got a tradesperson in to do a job. They quoted me a day rate of 8 days work (which I think will take less time than that, but they're the expert...)

Anyway, that's not my AIBU. I checked my security footage this week and noticed a woman popped round to my house when I was out and tradesperson was working alone in my house. I can only see her walk past my front door to the back garden gate, she knocks and then the feed ends. She's seen leaving 4 hours later. The next day, same thing, except 3 hours.

At present the tradesperson gets here for about 8am and has already stopped working by 3pm. So that's 7 hours of work, fair enough, but 4 (and 3) of them an unknown woman here is (it's not his wife, I did a little social media digging and it's not her).

AIBU if I question him about it next week? He still has 4 days left to finish the job next week and I don't l like the fact there's an unknown and univited person in my house when I'm not there, plus, how much work can he really be doing if his "mate" is there for 4 hours.

So to answer some questions, yes, my son is a baby.

He has access to my house as he is doing the electrics and there are 5 consumer units in and outside the house and needs to replace them all. He started off doing work in the garden outbuildings first and is replacing the ones in the house next week.

The reason why I want to wait until Tuesday is because that's when he's next due back in (he finished up on Thursday) and he has my front door key. So my thoughts are to get the key off him Tuesday morning when he comes back to start up work again and confront him then. The job isn't finished yet.

Sounds like they are using your house to do sex things. Check the curtains. Turn down the beds and look for hairs.

Could you not put a remote camera indoors to check on your phone at work? Put it in the room you think they might be using to shag in.

Very cheeky!

Lot of assumptions here. A sole trader is a legal defiinition regarding tax and other business matters, it does not mean he works alone and has no staff. A sole trader could have 10 full and part time staff, or 100 different people they might calll up to use on a casual or temporary basis. Similarly, sub contractor is a legal term, doesn't mean he can't involve somebody else.

Just because he wears a uniform as the face of his operation, does not mean anyone he gets to do any of the work would, expecially if they are just casual.

You don't say what the job is, but the female could be helping with some basic tasks that are not a good use of his time to move the job on, or indeed vice versa, she could be doing a specialist task that he can't do.

I think you should just straight out communicate bluntly with him that you are the client, it is your home, and you don't want anyone on your property without your authorisation, that you have noticed a regular visitor and you need some explanations. And set ground rules for the future.

Lot of things being jumped to here !

If he's doing a good job I wouldn't say anything. If not, then yes I'd not have him finish due to this.

Could she not be his apprentice? Works people I have previously employed haven't really mentioned the apprentice as an additional worker - they're there to learn and to be honest I always kind of assume an apprentice will be with them?

I mean sure, an electrician (because that's the trade he's in) has a tall blonde female as an apprentice who wears a willowy pleated skirt, biker jacket and ankle boots for her apprenticeship.

Can't imagine the risks going up and down those ladders in that get up.

Give over. It's not an assumption. It's a conclusion. Unless they're sharing a nice cup of tea together in the garden for a few hours... He has been using my kettle.

This I’d deduct 7 hours for when he isn’t worling
she isn’t covered by insurance and could be going through stuff etc

id text him The pictures and ask wtf?

very keen to see how this plays out!! also second deducting the hours

presumably he's good at his job as you've used him previously & got him back.

presumably the 8 days seemed a reasonable time to you?

She's either an apprentice/colleague or friend/shag buddy. If she's a shag buddy he won't get the job (for you) done on time will he??

personally I'd wait to see what happens with the days it takes/quality of job/invoicing etc.

but if I was happy it was an 8 day job, he did the job well, and it was all sorted I wouldn't actually care if he was shagging someone in an out building or if she was there just keeping him company, making tea, passing him tools & chatting.

He is having sex with his mistress while he is meant to be working. Have you had a nose on his Facebook friends or his wife's Facebook friends?

A few years ago I was going out with an electrician and we used to have sex where he was working because we both lived at home with our parents. All his other mates in trade did it too. Makes me cringe now but was exciting at the time. If that's not what's happening I'll be very shocked.

'a willowy pleated skirt' sounds like precisely the type of thing you'd wear if you were going over for a quick shag.

I'm convinced they are shagging. I remember hearing at a dinner party an Estate Agent brag about how he used the properties he was selling to shag his gfs in. He saw it as a perk of his job and could easily arrange fake viewings to entertain his lady friends. Big Don Juan complex. I assume for some tradesmen the same perks would apply as they often work in houses, unsupervised, while the owners are at work or away.

Def shagging

csn you have a neighbour or friend pop in to collect a letter you need posting

once you have seen she’s there

very unprofessional

he’s prob laughing on the jib ,,,

chsrging you 8 days labour when job is prob 3 days

I've bought a spy camera...

Will report more on Tuesday.

Yes! Cant wait for the update!

Just ask him

Roll on tue

Wonder if she will turn up

I'm invested in this now and what to hear the update OP!

We are renovating, but living in a static van in the garden. We noticed a random on the cameras INSIDE our garden and DH confronted him. He stumbled and said 'Oh, I nearly tripped on that, you should be careful!!!' DH pointed out that he was trespassing on private property and asked who he was? Turned out to be an 'acquaintance' of one of our trades, and he dismantled vans for scrap. Needless to say- he never returned.

I can't say what is going on with this random woman visiting. Surely she wouldn't hang around for 4hrs just for a shag??? Seems rather excessive IMO. I await your update.

Have added to my watch list. I need answers.

🤮

I need answers too! Part of me is like... I could ask him outright but then he could lie, then what? I have footage of a woman entering my garden and leaving 4 and 3 hours respectively, so what? He could still claim it's his wife (lie) or sister (I have no way of checking this).

I went through some more footage earlier. On both days she was here, he went to his van and got out what looked to be a blanket and a pillow. Do you think he's having a picnic in my garden? 🤔

It's a real mindfuck. I feel equal parts angry and violated... Mainly because I hate strangers in my home (or garden, or outbuildings) and I trusted him to do a job.

No idea how people cope when it's their actual partner doing the dirty and not some tradesman!

I feel I should add the cameras will be placed in the kitchen where I know he makes tea and another pointing towards the main part of the garden.

There's no way I want to film him having sex 🤮🤮🤮

Can you not get someone to stay at the house while you are out?

I wouldn’t expect an electrician to be working alone on a multi day job replacing consumer units. Whether she’s there to work or just keep him company so he isn’t lone working I wouldn’t really care to be honest. Just ask him. But don’t assume the worst.

I would definitely throw your bedside table vibrator in the bin.