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Tradesperson inviting people into my home

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IvyPlant · 17/09/2022 17:03

Currently got a tradesperson in to do a job. They quoted me a day rate of 8 days work (which I think will take less time than that, but they're the expert...)

Anyway, that's not my AIBU. I checked my security footage this week and noticed a woman popped round to my house when I was out and tradesperson was working alone in my house. I can only see her walk past my front door to the back garden gate, she knocks and then the feed ends. She's seen leaving 4 hours later. The next day, same thing, except 3 hours.

At present the tradesperson gets here for about 8am and has already stopped working by 3pm. So that's 7 hours of work, fair enough, but 4 (and 3) of them an unknown woman here is (it's not his wife, I did a little social media digging and it's not her).

AIBU if I question him about it next week? He still has 4 days left to finish the job next week and I don't l like the fact there's an unknown and univited person in my house when I'm not there, plus, how much work can he really be doing if his "mate" is there for 4 hours.

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SueDCreme · 18/09/2022 12:47

I'd be tempted to put a blow up bed in there, a few artfully placed candles, a couple of cans of warm Special Brew, 2 Greggs steak bakes....

IroningThrone · 18/09/2022 12:47

IvyPlant · 18/09/2022 09:08

Out of interest, can anyone guess this celebrity based on the attached photo?

That's Timothy Olyphant or however you spell it. The fact I'm currently watching Justified might have helped!

limitedperiodonly · 18/09/2022 12:49

Guiltypleasures001 · 18/09/2022 10:08

Wonder if the Mail has this yet

I expect so but they won't use it until Tuesday - they'll wait for the update and the Queen's funeral to be over.

Songoftheseas · 18/09/2022 12:57

Another one shamelessly placemarking -
can’t wait to see your updates 😁

Booklover3 · 18/09/2022 13:11

Unfortunately I think you are right

Cakeandcardio · 18/09/2022 13:13

Wouldn't necessarily confront him until the job is over. But... I would put itching powder on my bedsheets. I would pop home at lunch time (if possible) or whenever you see her arrive again. Very yucky!!!

Cannaa89 · 18/09/2022 13:13

Sorry if this has already been suggested, and with a disclaimer I'm pretty sure this is an extramarital affair taking place in your house... but the only other option I can think of is that he is allowing this woman to sleep at your house if she is homeless or something?!

IvyPlant · 18/09/2022 13:14

No one has suggested that yet, but why wouldn't she sleep in her car?

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Whiskeypowers · 18/09/2022 13:18

an emerging MN classic here I think!
can’t wait for Tuesday

divhead · 18/09/2022 13:27

IvyPlant · 18/09/2022 08:41

Okay, I felt the need to jump back on to say he's definitely not having his way on my bed. My bed is meticulously made and it's just as well made on my return.

I do have a really long (200ft) long garden which is really private. I reckon the nicest place would be right at the end of the garden, it's like a little meadow.

Is it available to rent? Sounds very romantic. 😂

divhead · 18/09/2022 13:27

IvyPlant · 18/09/2022 08:41

Okay, I felt the need to jump back on to say he's definitely not having his way on my bed. My bed is meticulously made and it's just as well made on my return.

I do have a really long (200ft) long garden which is really private. I reckon the nicest place would be right at the end of the garden, it's like a little meadow.

Is it available to rent? Sounds very romantic. 😂

MaChienEstUnDick · 18/09/2022 13:40

LostSocksBrigade · 17/09/2022 22:51

I'm baffled as to why any self respecting woman would have sex with a married man in someone's outbuilding after being given a dodgy van pillow and blanket and escorted past a camera like an escaped criminal. 😂

Have you tried to find a tradesperson recently? She probably needs her fuses rewiring...

SueDCreme · 18/09/2022 13:44

MaChienEstUnDick · 18/09/2022 13:40

Have you tried to find a tradesperson recently? She probably needs her fuses rewiring...

Maybe it's her kink
People are into all sorts nowadays!

Daytrip · 18/09/2022 13:46

How annoying if she doesn’t actually turn up on Tuesday now 😂

SueDCreme · 18/09/2022 13:48

I'm seriously thinking about rin

SueDCreme · 18/09/2022 13:50

Oops (starts again)
I'm seriously thinking about calling in sick on Tuesday, having a duvet day and snacks and waiting for updates

IvyPlant · 18/09/2022 13:57

I want a duvet day on Tuesday!

But please don't! I won't be able to see what's on the internal cameras until I get home from work and little one is in bed. I can only view external cameras remotely so I'll be sure to keep you posted if I happen to notice her arriving whilst I'm at work. I get alerts when the camera recognises a person but obviously the tradesperson triggers this a lot too.

In other news... The equipment should be arriving in the next two hours. Amazon, don't let me down. I have lots of invested people on this thread!

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kateandme · 18/09/2022 13:57

SplitterBug · 18/09/2022 08:02

But is it still a criminal offence to obtain security footage of your OWN HOME where you would very reasonably NOT be expecting to record anyone having sex?

Yes this!

AnneElliott · 18/09/2022 13:58

Cheeky beggar! Especially as he knows your an ex cop!!

IvyPlant · 18/09/2022 14:01

Tbf, he didn't know this until our last conversation on Thursday as we had a quick handover (not a euphemism) when I returned home from work.

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kateandme · 18/09/2022 14:08

Aaargh what if the daily Mail put this out before Tuesday.
They read it or he or she sees it and. forearms recognises it and they don’t do anything,
I need op to see this til the end. 😫

Happyher · 18/09/2022 14:09

If I were you I’d print off the pics with time stamps of her comings and goings and when he gives you the bill show him the photos and tell him you’re deducting x hours rate from the bill for all the hours she was there. And if he doesn’t like it threaten to put the pics on social media

user1498572889 · 18/09/2022 14:15

Shamelessly waiting for the next instalment 😂

coldfeetmama · 18/09/2022 14:18

SueDCreme · 18/09/2022 13:50

Oops (starts again)
I'm seriously thinking about calling in sick on Tuesday, having a duvet day and snacks and waiting for updates

I've planned a migraine !

coldfeetmama · 18/09/2022 14:18

SueDCreme · 18/09/2022 13:50

Oops (starts again)
I'm seriously thinking about calling in sick on Tuesday, having a duvet day and snacks and waiting for updates

I've planned a migraine !

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