To not say hello to mum's friend when she visits

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I'm an adult currently living with my mum in order to save and buy a house. My mum's friend is currently downstairs and I've told my mum (respectfully) I won't say hi. I'm working from home and honestly could spare the time.

AIBU?

can't you just pop your head round the door and say hello. I'm working, catch up with you another time?

YANBU

But you have time to post about it.... bit rude!

Just go down say hi and then go back up again.

And grow up a little if you are going to have a house of your own one day.

You're seriously posting on MN rather than taking the same amount of time to say a polite hello to your mum's friend?

Is she badgering you to come down and say hi? Why won't you if you have the time? Do you not like them?

It’ll have taken you longer to post this thread being so dramatic 🤨

If possible I’d pop down at a convienient point and say ‘Hello, so lovely to see you, but I’m afraid I’m working upstairs so can’t stop. Byeeee!’

Obviously that doesn’t work if you’re on back to back calls, but if not, refusing to say hi for less time than a loo break would take seems a bit rude.

Seems rude to me and unkind towards your mum.

It's not an issue about having time. I also have no problem with the person

I've voted YABU, I think If you've got a minute and are getting a drink/food then say hello BUT if your dm expects you to stop working to say hello and you're not planning on a break or in a online meeting etc then then obviously say no but if she was still there when you've finished I'd say hello.

Then what’s the issue exactly?
Are you worried she’ll ask you if you’re all set for school?

Just go and say hello to your mum's friend. It's a very small thing to do for your mum considering you are living with her to save up. I honestly don't understand the dilemma here.

I've voted YABU as you clearly do have the time if you can write a thread moaning about it 🙄

You are an adult, not a 13 year old ( who can be stroppy, don’t talk to me types)?
Grow up, grow some manners. The words you are looking for are “hi X how are you?” It’s quite easy.

Hello Susan, lovely to see you. Sorry I can't stick around, need to pop back upstairs for my next meeting.

How hard can it be?

Why won’t you say hello?

Whats the issue.

A reverse surely?

This may seem superficial. But I had a shower during lunch and put on my pyjamas - would have to change. And my hair is looking very unkept as I have applied a rosemary oil mask. I would have to put in some time to groom myself which I just cannot be bothered to do.

I'm also just not in the mood for small talk.

Were you raised so rude? If i was your dm I would be cringing right now.

So are you just bored and felt like posting a tedious question?

I've asked my mum not to mention I was home. I wouldn't want to actually offend my mum's friend.

I’d say hello if I went downstairs and needed something - I wouldn’t ignore them but I actually probably wouldn’t go downstairs to say hello if I was working and in my pjs if I didn’t need something

Does your mum and her friend want to small talk with you