AIBU - Rude Date

[cjhealy]

Hi all,

I went on a date (wish I hadn't now!) with a man. It was our second date. All was going well and we were walking towards my usual car park on a nice sunny day. I was thankfully going to go home at this point. It was just such a nice day that we continued walking post-food.

As we were walking, a woman was walking towards us; so I moved across the pavement a bit to let her pass. She looked dazed and distraught and was holding a flower. Within a second of her passing us; this man I was with said (far too loudly) 'GOD, WHAT'S UP WITH HERRRR?! CHEER UP!' He didn't say it directly to her, but rather in my direction. Still though; I thought it was so rude. She was clearly still within earshot.

I told him she might have suffered a bereavement/just attended a funeral/received bad news etc... you just don't know. I don't see why he felt the need to comment/somewhat shout it out loud. For what purpose?!

I've always hated men who have said things like 'Cheer up, love!' or 'Smile! It might never happen!' so I admit I am sensitive to comments like this. It was also the second date with someone - (who happens to be the first person I've been remotely interested in since my partner passed away).

I went home and just relaxed - but still mad. He has since texted me (today) with: "You still in a strop? I was only joking darling!" I haven't responded and don't think I will.

I honestly don't want to see him again. AIBU to feel this way?

YANBU. He sounds like a bit of a pig. Cut your losses, send him a text saying thanks but no thanks and move on

"When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.”

Maya Angelou I think.

Nope. He was a twat and a pig. ditch

Bin the whole guy

The "you still in a strop?" would have sent me over the edge. Its so dismissive, like you're a toddler who had an irrational tantrum.

Eugh and his follow up message is worse.

IMMEDIATE ICK.

What an arsehole. I would block and delete.

Definitely one to block, I think!

He sounds like a total knob.

God what a dick! Ignore, block and move on. Be thankful he showed his twatty side so early on

Please don't lower yourself by responding.

Ew. Luckily you dodged this bullet early!

Horrible man. I wouldn't respond and would just block immediately.

Gross. Yanbu

Respond with ‘Still a cunt, darling?’

No, don’t actually do that, just black, ignore and chalk it up to experience. Hopefully your next date with be someone more evolved.

Urgh, what a cock. I also wouldn't respond and would block. Says all you want to say.

@Aquamarine1029

Please don't lower yourself by responding.

Absolutely this. Lucky escape. Immediate block.

Well he's an absolute peach isn't he? You're well rid.

If someone can't behave like a decent human being on a second date, you've got no chance 15 years down the line, when they've got flu and there's no milk in the fridge.

Maybe he felt uncomfortable about how she was behaving and that’s how he reacted? I think it’s a bit OTT to bin someone off based just on that!

At least you found out what he was like early on. You’re well rid.

The text the next day would def be the end of it for me! You can do better op. And sorry about the death of you partner x

@Beautifulmonster87

Maybe he felt uncomfortable about how she was behaving and that’s how he reacted? I think it’s a bit OTT to bin someone off based just on that!

And the sexist, arrogant, blame someone else, 'banter' text the next day?!?

Maybe he felt uncomfortable about how she was behaving and that’s how he reacted? I think it’s a bit OTT to bin someone off based just on that!

How would he feel uncomfortable about how a total stranger passing by was behaving? That's really scraping the barrel for an excuse for twattish behaviour.

Trust your judgement.

... And block.