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To not make the cake DS wants?

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GingerLiberalFeminist · 25/02/2022 07:47

I don't want to make the cake my DS(6 next week) has wanted for ages.

This is a little lighthearted but still! There's a bit of a back story so please bear with!

Back when covid hit, my friend(39) moved in with our family (DH, DS then 7 and DS then 4) so she wouldn't be on her own. She pays us rent and is very much part of the family. She also brought her two cats, let's call them Darcy and Freya.

I've never had cats before and I adore them. However, sadly Darcy was quite old and his back started to go. Last Aug friend made the decision to have him put down as he was suffering a lot. We got the full pet experience 😔

DS5 was particularly upset, as you would be. We had lots of conversations about how Darcy was in the clouds and happy now and not suffering. Normal grief processing We thought.

However around Sept, DS5 got into his head for his birthday he wanted a cake with with a picture of Darcy in the clouds.

Despite us resolutely not mentioning Darcy to try and dissuade him, DS's birthday is next week and the subject has arisen again. Darcy on a cloud is what he wants for his cake.

If you've made it thus far thank you! Please let me know, am I being unreasonable to not make this rather macabre cake for my DS? 🤣🤣🤣

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Suzi888 · 02/03/2022 17:49

Love the cake by the way! 🐱 glad you made it. Hope it tasted nice, kind of wondering if your DS ate the cat….Wink lol

Topseyt · 02/03/2022 17:53

That's a gorgeous cake. Do you really have to eat it? It looks too good for that. 😎

CannibalQueen · 02/03/2022 17:57

Awe, wee soul. He's not sad about Darcy - he likes remembering him and is imagining him on a cloud looking down at him. The only person I'd check with is your friend tbh. She might be upset.

FiddlefigOnTheRoof · 02/03/2022 18:29

The cake and you - so lovely!

Simonjt · 02/03/2022 18:34

The cake is absolutely brilliant.

In lockdown my son wanted a Grandma cake, he was missing her and she couldn’t visit, so his cake had a photo of Grandma printed on it. I have a photo of him crying and holding a slice of Grandmas face 🤣

sweetbellyhigh · 02/03/2022 18:48

Love your Dead Darcy Cake, your little boy will be so happy

KindlyKanga · 02/03/2022 18:56

@GingerLiberalFeminist

We are not sure it is the best my friend and I can do, but DS6 is delighted
I love this.
BuyDirt · 02/03/2022 18:57

Well done OP, great cake. Really pleased you made it and your son is happy.

BuyDirt · 02/03/2022 18:59

I have a photo of him crying and holding a slice of Grandmas face

🤣 Brilliant. Hope he’s been reunited with the real grandma now.

Juniper68 · 02/03/2022 19:04

Aww love this 😻🐾🐈

emmathedilemma · 02/03/2022 19:35

That is amazing!! ❤️

wouldthatbeworse · 02/03/2022 19:52

Bravo OP. Great mummimg.

1Wanda1 · 02/03/2022 19:53

My DD wanted. Ben and Holly cake. So I made one and decorated it with little Ben and Holly figurines, except the pack didn't come with Nanny Plum, only the King and Queen and Ben and Holly. All DD has talked about since is how her cake didn't have Nanny Plum.

Your DS will definitely remember the lack of Darcey on a Cloud cake if he doesn't get one. Just do it!

HeadacheGrey · 02/03/2022 20:22

I have a photo of him crying and holding a slice of Grandmas face 🤣

Ha ha that made me giggle.

tcjotm · 02/03/2022 20:51

It’s awesome! Well done 😊

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InThePresenceOfWeevil · 02/03/2022 21:07

I LOVE this!!

GingerLiberalFeminist · 02/03/2022 21:09

Haha we obviously couldn't cut the cats, they were taken off and the boys had one each to eat 😅

There was a lot of grief processing about how if it made them sad it was ok to cry and let it out.

Thanks for all your support!

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HoliHormonalTigerlilly · 02/03/2022 21:15

@GingerLiberalFeminist

We are not sure it is the best my friend and I can do, but DS6 is delighted
Omg I love it! Well done OP 👏👏👏
HoliHormonalTigerlilly · 02/03/2022 21:15

@GingerLiberalFeminist

Haha we obviously couldn't cut the cats, they were taken off and the boys had one each to eat 😅

There was a lot of grief processing about how if it made them sad it was ok to cry and let it out.

Thanks for all your support!

Bless 😻
SE13Mummy · 02/03/2022 21:18

That's a superb dead cat cake, reminiscent of the book, Goodbye Mog.

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 02/03/2022 21:21

That was very sweet of you to make that - personally I would have uploaded a photo in Asda Grin

Dilbertian · 02/03/2022 21:40

That is such a gorgeous cake, and such a lovely way to remember a cat who clearly brought all of you a lot of joy.

bloodywhitecat · 02/03/2022 21:43

Do you know what? I am having the worst of times but that cake brought a genuine smile to my face. I am so glad you went with it, I hope he had a wonderful birthday.

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