To not make the cake DS wants?

[GingerLiberalFeminist]

I don't want to make the cake my DS(6 next week) has wanted for ages.

This is a little lighthearted but still! There's a bit of a back story so please bear with!

Back when covid hit, my friend(39) moved in with our family (DH, DS then 7 and DS then 4) so she wouldn't be on her own. She pays us rent and is very much part of the family. She also brought her two cats, let's call them Darcy and Freya.

I've never had cats before and I adore them. However, sadly Darcy was quite old and his back started to go. Last Aug friend made the decision to have him put down as he was suffering a lot. We got the full pet experience 😔

DS5 was particularly upset, as you would be. We had lots of conversations about how Darcy was in the clouds and happy now and not suffering. Normal grief processing We thought.

However around Sept, DS5 got into his head for his birthday he wanted a cake with with a picture of Darcy in the clouds.

Despite us resolutely not mentioning Darcy to try and dissuade him, DS's birthday is next week and the subject has arisen again. Darcy on a cloud is what he wants for his cake.

If you've made it thus far thank you! Please let me know, am I being unreasonable to not make this rather macabre cake for my DS? 🤣🤣🤣

Let him have what he wants. It's a sweet idea, a nice little cat in the clouds, nothing in the slightest bit 'macabre' about it. You make a 'cloud' cake, which is pretty much just a white cake and get a little fondant cat topper, jobs a good un! An easy make and a little boy who lost an animal he cared about gets what he wants for his birthday. Win win.

@Beees

Why can't he have that as a cake?

It would be quite simple to make a cloud themed cake and have a cat topper that looked like Darcy, maybe an elc figure of a schleich cat.

Then he would get the cake he wants and have a nice keep skae to remind him of Darcy. It sounds like a very sweet idea for a cake.

This is a great idea!

It sounds as if you’ve not addressed the grieving in the way your ds needs. I think you should make the cake and ask if your ds would like to draw a picture or write about the cat in a little book and stick any pictures you have of the cat, especially ones with him and the cat together. And stick a picture of him with his cake in it once his birthday is over.

This is all preparation for when you die and really good practice for your ds. And as others have said, it is really sweet.

Absolutely give him the cake he wants. I had to get a huge black tarantula cake once for my son and I absolutely hate spiders. It’s his birthday!

It's not macabre at all, it's sweet.

Use a photo of him, photo shop some clouds and get it printed as an edible image.

Pop it on top of an iced cake and job done.... one very easily decorated cake.

If you are not willing to make what he wants, don't ask him in the place. used to infuriate me that my parents did things like this (I'm not at all bitter about some small things that happened decades ago )

What a sweet little boy you have. I think it's a lovely idea for a cake.

Another vote for the dead cat cake. Not a photo though, that would be the confectionary equivalent of those photo-realistic tattoos of dead relatives that people get.

Hopefully Darcy was a generic cat in both colouring and shape and a few balls of fondant will do the trick. And definitely put a smiley face on it.

His idea for a cake sounds lovely. Make a cake that looks like a cloud then buy a a cat model to put on it that looks like Darcy so he can keep it forever as a reminder of a lovely cat.

I don't think you understand the meaning of macabre OP. A cake with a picture of a cat who has died isn't it. Your son will suffer no ills from having a cat picture on a cake.

Cut the cake so it resembles a cloud shape.

Put marshmallows on top, then (depending on colour of deceased cat) make a sleeping cat model and put it in the middle.

Just get some bakery to plop a scanned photo of the cat on a plain cake. Job done.

Oh gord, this is brilliant. I feel you. If you do make it, please (if he’s willing) get your son go help. I’m kinda desperate to see the “we’ll look back on this one day and laugh” result. Happy birthday to your lovely boy, and congrats on making it through another 12 months of parenthood. It’s the toughest (and sometimes the most bewilderingly entertaining) of gigs. X

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Could you do a blue cake topped with rainbow belts and blobs of buttercream and put picture or model of cat on so it’s a happy cake celebrating cat not cutting into picture.

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Like this type of effect on top. It’s a very 6 year old appropriate cake.

@Ramalamadingdongs

He's 6. If he doesn't get his dead cat cake, all he will remember is the lack of dead cat cake. As far as anyone else needs to know, he wanted a cat themed cake.

This!

@Dixiechickonhols

Could you do a blue cake topped with rainbow belts and blobs of buttercream and put picture or model of cat on so it’s a happy cake celebrating cat not cutting into picture.

I want this cake!

You never know, maybe dead cat cakes will catch on!

What a lovely boy you have! I do hope you will reconsider and make him a Darcy cake!

I agree he should have the cake, white rough icing and a cat toy or ornament. Easy too!

I let ds2 (14) decorate DHs 50th birthday cake and set him loose on all the various cake toppers/decorations.

Dh ended up with a cake sporting 20 green army men fighting a triceratops..

I feel I shouldn't be laughing, but I am. I voted YANBU because it's a dead cat in clouds, but also just give the lad the dead cat in the clouds he wants to badly. It will give you all laughs when you think back on it in years to come.

If you have a photo of Darcy, you can photoshop it on to a cloud, print, laminate it and hey presto you have your cake topper. You can then take it off before cutting. Done this quite often when my DS wanted unusual or difficult cakes.

I’d make it and a photo of the finished cake, when he is older I wonder if he will remember his Darcy cake, it’s quite sweet but also quite funny!

Please make the cake and come back with a photo of it. It sounds lovely. And your DS will be so disappointed if you don’t.