Petty pils, didn't wait for us, then moaned about fils old tux

[Hisanimalgrace]

Going to an event, we were massively delayed in traffic getting to pils .They couldn't wait for us.
So when we arrived they were leaving and mil clocked our friend in pils old tux which dh had leant him, an old 80s thing.??

Dh served us done drinks by which point fil was calling dh saying if we didn't leave immediately we wouldn't get a space in the car park! When we got to the car park it was half empty.
Mil then questioned dh about the tux friend wearing as she felt it was actually fils old one and that was for dh not to give away.

eh?

if you have passed something on given it away, why would you care whose wearing the "cast off "??

What?
You arrived at theirs and they were leaving but you stayed at theirs anyway so DH could serve you a drink?
Did PIL call you from the event to tell you about the car park?
Could you explain a bit?

Rude of MIL to draw attention to a borrowed suit. But ignore. Big drink (alcoholic or otherwise). Distract yourself with other people. Have a dance and forget all about them.
Don't waste your evening out fretting about them.

Not on the stairs it was a few weeks ago.

We were supposed to be all meeting at theirs, same town as the event. Traffic meant we got their late. They said have a drink but mil looked panicked when she saw our friend and I don't think they wanted us there unattended so made up some crap about the car park to get us out then when we did see them mil questioned dh about the tux!

Are you a wee bit drunk?

What?

You were late, and then you stopped for a drink?

Maybe try posting coherently?

I'll have what she's having

Ok. So MIL was rude/unnecessary about an old suit.

But I'd suggest it's not worth a lot of headspace.

She was rude about the friend, and the suit and desperately tried to get dh out of the house.

Bit too much 🍷 I think.

Who? me or mil?

😂😂😂😂😂😂 this is complete nonsense.

I'm confused.

It's you who were rude.

Firstly you were late. Which probably caused them some stress.

Then you ignore said stress so you can have a drink. Of course they offered, that's polite. You were supposed to decline and get your arse in gear.

Then you turned out to have given away your fil's tux to a stranger (to them)

And now you are being rude about them online

Of course she wanted people to leave her house if you were late for the event.

I don’t understand.

You’re being unreasonable, and incoherent.

Eh Have I got this right
You were massively late getting to pil house so they left without you (fair enough as I hate being late). You then went into their house, helped yourself to drinks then fil rang to say you needed to hurry up.

At some point mil was annoyed dh gave away the tux that his dad gave him.

What I think is that you were late. FIL offered a drink. MIL looked stressed and you believe this was her judging your friend's tux. However it's far more likely she was stressed because you were late. The car park being full was also a worry for her.

My post is about being Petty.
Trying to oust us from the house, not leaving us in peace. Panicking about us being in their house for moments and trying to get us out then moaning about an old cast off sported by a friend she called "dreadful "

But you were late?

Can you really not see why people are confused by this? Why would you think it OK to be even later by stopping for a drink?

If you give something away to someone it's theirs to do with as they wish. It can be quite hurtful to see they've passed it on to someone else though especially if it was something important. Something sentimental or expensive.
She shouldn't have been rude about it (if she was,) but maybe she was upset their gift seemed to be unwanted.

You were "massively late" though! What were you expecting? YABU for sure.