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To ask how you met your partner ?

186 replies

Crosswordqueen99 · 17/12/2021 15:22

I have a single friend who says she would like to meet someone nice, ( she's lovely, she deserves to), but all the men she meets online and / or on nights out make it plain they are just looking for sex.

I met my current boyfriend through a flatshare arrangement, ( it was a HMO). However, she is also a single parent to a two year old so wouldn't be able to meet a boyfriend in similar flat sharing circumstances to myself.

She can't meet anyone through work, ( she works in her aunty's buissiness, it is only her and her aunty there). She is also a single parent to a two year old so wouldn't be able to meet a boyfriend in similar flat sharing circumstances to myself.

So basically, how did you meet your partner ? I'm expecting there will be a lot of at work/ online/nights out but hopefully there may be something that will give idea's.

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BiBabbles · 17/12/2021 19:49

An AOL group chat for a writing and roleplaying group, so not much help there Grin though online hobby groups can be great ways to people -- I also met my lodger-friend and my kids met their longest friends from my being in online hobby spaces.

LuckyAmy1986 · 17/12/2021 19:49

She's right that men on dating apps and on nights out only want sex. No chance of real relationships there clearly not true! Plus I think sometimes men go on these things because they are lonely, thinking they don't want something but then meet someone amazing and it just happens

bobby81 · 17/12/2021 19:56

Through mutual friends (DP worked with my best friends DH.)

HideousKinky · 17/12/2021 20:00

At a barbeque

RedWingBoots · 17/12/2021 20:03

okcupid

Previous dated and had relationships with men found through a mixture of online, bars, public transport, social/sports clubs and through friends.

Oh myself and lots of people I know who have met through online dating actually have links to each other through friends and acquaintances though people in rl would never set them up.

Kettledodger · 17/12/2021 20:06

@MissConductUS you and your partner were early OLD adopters but really it wasn't seen as a strange thing until around 2004/5 in my circles

Kettledodger · 17/12/2021 20:06

was seen as a strange thing

again2020 · 17/12/2021 20:11

On Facebook, we'd been at school together, danced at a disco when we were 13 and one day many years later he randomly added me and we started chatting.

My boyfriend before that (the one that got away 🙈) was handing out flyers for a club when I was a student. He snuck me a stamp for a free drink and we kissed on the dancefloor when he got there. sigh those were the days!

I met plenty of decent men online when I used guardian soulmates. Shame it doesn't exist anymore! I was coupled up just before Tinder existed but always wondered what it was like.

Funnylittlefloozie · 17/12/2021 20:13

I met my exH at uni. What a waste...

I met my now DP through a mutual work friend. She set us up on a proper old-fashioned blind date! 3.5 years later, we're buying a house together and I have never been so happy in my whole life.

ShirleyPhallus · 17/12/2021 20:14

@BridStar

She's right that men on dating apps and on nights out only want sex. No chance of real relationships there.

She needs to join interest groups. Hiking or walking or group-fitness or classes, attend talks at bookshops, look on Meetup for events where people are gathering for Another Reason but will also talk. Form friendships first.

Have you literally read any of the answers on this thread Confused
Claphands · 17/12/2021 20:29

Met my DH at work
Prior to that met different DPs via friends ,OLD ,work.

Wrenna · 17/12/2021 20:30

Blind date set up by mutual friend who knew us well. Been married 21 years,

SisterBeaverhausen · 17/12/2021 20:38

I was working as a waitress/bartender in a cocktail bar when I met my husband... I used to give him free shots.

Goodbyemylover · 17/12/2021 20:39

On a train...
Others were met at Uni, work, or through friends...

tearsforfears72 · 17/12/2021 20:45

Was set up on a date by my work colleague, we got on really well and have now been married for 24 years :)

Billythecat · 17/12/2021 20:52

On holiday- we joined the same small group trip travelling abroad and have been together ever since!

Locomelon · 17/12/2021 20:59

I first met my husband when he was DS's primary school teacher 💁🏼‍♀️

edification · 17/12/2021 21:04

Craigslist - ha!

HacerSonarSusPasos · 17/12/2021 21:06

Tinder

Aposterhasnoname · 17/12/2021 21:08

Holiday romance

peboh · 17/12/2021 21:09

@BridStar

She's right that men on dating apps and on nights out only want sex. No chance of real relationships there.

She needs to join interest groups. Hiking or walking or group-fitness or classes, attend talks at bookshops, look on Meetup for events where people are gathering for Another Reason but will also talk. Form friendships first.

Damn, I should probably ask my husband for a divorce. We've been faking a relationship for the last 7 years just to pretend that old works Wink
Hippychicken1 · 17/12/2021 21:19

Nightclub 1999
came home with me
Never really left
Got married 4 months later
Been married for 22 years

sbhydrogen · 17/12/2021 21:37

We met at work. We were on the same team 👌

Stillgoings · 17/12/2021 21:43

He was a school friend of my house mate. I think things happen more online these days. That's where I'd be heading if things went wrong

notacooldad · 17/12/2021 21:44

I met DJH in a night club.