To ask how you met your partner ?

[Crosswordqueen99]

I have a single friend who says she would like to meet someone nice, ( she's lovely, she deserves to), but all the men she meets online and / or on nights out make it plain they are just looking for sex.

I met my current boyfriend through a flatshare arrangement, ( it was a HMO). However, she is also a single parent to a two year old so wouldn't be able to meet a boyfriend in similar flat sharing circumstances to myself.

She can't meet anyone through work, ( she works in her aunty's buissiness, it is only her and her aunty there). She is also a single parent to a two year old so wouldn't be able to meet a boyfriend in similar flat sharing circumstances to myself.

So basically, how did you meet your partner ? I'm expecting there will be a lot of at work/ online/nights out but hopefully there may be something that will give idea's.

I met my husband through a sports club my son attended. He was one of the instructors.

At a sports club. This shared sporting hobby was at a great club where there were many many other marriages that resulted and you always had somewhere to go on a Saturday night.

At a party at university so not much help for your friend unfortunately!

Weirdly we 'met' on OKcupid and went out on a couple of dates. I wasn't convinced and asked if we could be friends instead (as I had fallen for another guy who turned out to be useless).

5 years old friendship later I actually started developing feelings for this friend :) and we are now together.

I think online can work but the majority of men on sites/apps are useless and it takes a lot of time, energy and persistence to find the decent ones!

25 years ago in a nightclub I never went to before or since.

Blind date set up by mates. Turned into what I swore was a one night stand, turned into 27 years of marriage next week 🤣

We met at work.

I went to a sports social club as my friend's partner was DJing, bumped into someone I knew who was hosting a poker night, after the poker finished she introduced me to some of the players and I hit it off with one of them.

We were both activists in a political party. A great many of my friends met partners the same way.

I downloaded him from internet. He is absolutely lovely, caring and has his heart in the right place. It took a while to find him but all the other people I met in OLD were very nice people that I would have minded keeping as friends, yep there were 2 weirdos: one that was so shy it was impossible to have a conversation and one that made me feel as if I was having a date with an overactive poodle but neither of them made me feel as if they were just after sex.

It may be a good idea for your friend to check her profile to see if something in it is bringing that kind of attention and for her to feel comfortable to block disrespectful people straight away rather than giving them a chance because it is a slow season.

Personally, in this time an age and more so under Covid restrictions, it is difficult to meet available men unless you join an activity group or go in OLD.

In the many years after my divorce I only managed to meet 2 available men “organically” (through friends). The one who everybody told me was “lovely” turned out to be remarkably jealous and controlling, the other one was very nice but showed to the third meeting wearing eye shadow and orange nails.

Finding the right person is obviously a numbers game…

I wouldn’t have minded keeping them as friends,

I met my DP when I worked as an intern at his company 25 years ago, we got on really well but he had a girlfriend so nothing happened and we lost contact. Then he messaged me out of the blue and 5 years later, we have 2 kids and are due to marry next year. So happy!

All the guys I met in bars and online were literally turds and I wish I could delete them all!

Married now.

We met at uni.

Found mine online way before OLD was a thing back in 2000 AOL AIM if you said you were meeting with someone from online people would look at you a little strange within 5 years OLD kicked off 🙄😁

Through a colleague, he was my work friends best friend.
The work friend was in a similar situation to your friend for years, he went on a blind date with someone and they married within a year.

Tinder - so so happy, I never ever messaged a guy first but this one I did, there was just something about him and I couldn’t let it go

I met DH at a Placebo show. I wasn't even going to go because I was hungover.

He proposed 4 days later. He was 19 to my 30 and lots of people said we were mad, and it wouldn't last. That was almost 20 years ago

@Kettledodger

Found mine online way before OLD was a thing back in 2000 AOL AIM if you said you were meeting with someone from online people would look at you a little strange within 5 years OLD kicked off 🙄😁

OLD was a thing in 2000. I met my DH on match.com in 1995, we got married in 1997.

People did think it was a bit strange.

My hubs to be is someone who was a really good friend who helped me after I left a dv relationship painting decorating etc and we just gradually felt more qnd more for each other 10 years later were still going strong 😊

She's right that men on dating apps and on nights out only want sex. No chance of real relationships there.

The dozens of replies from people on here who met their partners and husbands on dating apps would seem to disagree!

Online. Been together almost 11 years, married and 2 dc.

I met my husband at school so not much help. Prior to him though I met both previous boyfriends in nightclubs....though I knew one of them previously as he briefly went out with my friend.

I have a repeatedly single friend with 2 kids and she has been out with about 3 people connected to her friendship group. It has caused a few issues in the group tbh but asking your friends who they know is a good idea as long as they're not as small town as us ha ha

At work. It was a place where colleagues regularly mixed socially outside work, so I didn't just see him in a work environment.

On tinder, and we have been together 7 years, married 4. We technically met 2 years prior, as a mutual friend of ours has a photo of us stood next to each other on a night out. Neither of us remember the other when we met though!
OLD is hard, but it can work and does for many if you're willing to put up with a few duds.

At a bar