To ask how you met your partner ?

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I have a single friend who says she would like to meet someone nice, ( she's lovely, she deserves to), but all the men she meets online and / or on nights out make it plain they are just looking for sex.

I met my current boyfriend through a flatshare arrangement, ( it was a HMO). However, she is also a single parent to a two year old so wouldn't be able to meet a boyfriend in similar flat sharing circumstances to myself.

She can't meet anyone through work, ( she works in her aunty's buissiness, it is only her and her aunty there). She is also a single parent to a two year old so wouldn't be able to meet a boyfriend in similar flat sharing circumstances to myself.

So basically, how did you meet your partner ? I'm expecting there will be a lot of at work/ online/nights out but hopefully there may be something that will give idea's.

I'm no help.
I met my DH when I was 9 and he was 11!

Does she have any kids? Could she do a flat share like you did?

Tinder. Having had very bad experiences on there i gave it one last go. Met dp and I've never been happier. Neither has he 😁🥰

Another vote for Tinder. I did OLD for about 3 years altogether before I met DP. Had 2 mini relationships (only a few months each) and a bunch of first dates that didn't go anywhere. Never had any dates with men only wanting sex. The minute I got that vibe from someone when I was chatting to them I blocked them straight away. My advice is be upfront about what you're looking for and be prepared to sift through a whole lot of crap.

DP have been together for 6 years, gave a DS and another on the way. We're getting married in June.

University - post grad

On Match.com in 2011.
I was on there for 10 weeks and he was the 5th person I had a date with.
We've been married since 2015 and our DD was born in 2018.

Also Tinder.

In a club completely off our tits. I was 22 and he was 21. He didn't remember what I looked like when we went for a drink a week later.

We've been together 12 years now, married 3, one DC and another on the way

Met DH on OKCupid! I was sceptical - all my previous boyfriends I'd met in filthy clubs or through friends, and it was just long enough ago that among my age group the view was there were were two types of OLD: shagging ones (Tinder, POF) or 'just divorced' ones (OKCupid, Match).

But I downloaded OKCupid because I'd worked my way through the shagging ones in my very small town, haha and within the hour up popped this very funny man who liked politics and good whiskey and that was that! He did live 5 hours away but 8 years later I'd say he was the best online purchase I ever made

Through a mutual hobby.

A mutual friend got drunk and gave now-husband my Snapchat. Drunk husband added me, didn’t message. I accepted the next morning, which is weird for me as accepting a random isn’t something I would usually do, we started messaging after I sent an initial ‘do I even know you?!’ message and now we’re married with a baby, six years later.

Tinder

Local shop, DH was in front of me in the queue asked me out for a drink married 3 years later

I met my DH as we were neighbours in the same block of flats in our 20s. I think somehow its just harder to meet people these days if you're 30 plus and single, I know my single friends feel this way and it's almost like online dating is the only option and finding someone decent on there is like finding a needle in a haystack, though my SIL met her fiance on tinder so it can work out but a lot of it is pure luck I guess.

Through work, I hired his company to do some work.

I joined a dating agency in the 90's, I think it was Dateline.

One date turned up drunk, another one was racist, another one was at least 30 years older than he said he was! Some I just had no connection with.

I decided just to meet them at lunch time, I found this much better and more relaxing. Also easier to keep it short and get home from if things not working out.

The first person I met this way is now my DP (of 28 years).

Clocked him on the way to a Young Socialist's meeting and thought .Well, I was only 16.
Got to said meeting and the most beautiful man I'd ever seen walked in.
Yes it was him.
Well, reader I married him.
Together now for 53 years and still fancy him like mad.
Old socialists now though.

I met DH when I went travelling.

Nightclub early 90’s

It looks like online dating is the way to go looking on here

I met my DH in a sweaty nightclub, in the early hours of a Saturday morning in February after having 'gone out for a quick drink' after work... He was with his fellow student Teachers on a night out and I was down to the hardcore final few from my office. I sat down for a rest and put my feet up on a stool in front of me, when another pair of feet joined mine. "What lovely shoes" I mused, then looked over to the face of their owner, to find him staring directly down my cleavage! We went for a dance and I had never seen anyone dance with such ridiculous abandon, with no desire to impress, just to have a bloody good time - I found it so attractive! We were inseparable from that moment on, it's been nearly 20 years and he still dances like a loon (and still loves my boobs!)

My DSis had been single for 15 years before she met her DH. She's hugely into sport and is a massive England rugby fan, so to watch the Wales v England 6 Nations match around 8 years ago she went to a pub in Cardiff with some of her Welsh mates. She was all in her England supporters kit and enjoying lots of banter with the Wales fans, when one in particular caught her eye. They watched the rest of the match together then she headed home to Liverpool the next day. He invited her back down to Cardiff the following weekend and took her for cocktails and a beautiful meal, and had even paid for a room in a posh hotel for her to stay in (alone), he was a real gentleman. It was a slow burn as they lived so far apart, but after around 6 months, the bit the bullet and moved in together and were married a few years ago. They're really happy.

I've never tried OLD, but I think if I were single and was wanting to find someone to date, I would ask my friends to each think of one man they could introduce me to and see if I hit it off with any of them. Might be worth a try?

Met my ex who I was with for 10 years in a pub.
Met my DH online

We met in 2011 in the bar. It was before online dating and I was actually introduced to his friend first. Preferred my DH.

At work in a large company. Loooads of people I knew met their life partners there too.