Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To ask how you met your partner ?

186 replies

Crosswordqueen99 · 17/12/2021 15:22

I have a single friend who says she would like to meet someone nice, ( she's lovely, she deserves to), but all the men she meets online and / or on nights out make it plain they are just looking for sex.

I met my current boyfriend through a flatshare arrangement, ( it was a HMO). However, she is also a single parent to a two year old so wouldn't be able to meet a boyfriend in similar flat sharing circumstances to myself.

She can't meet anyone through work, ( she works in her aunty's buissiness, it is only her and her aunty there). She is also a single parent to a two year old so wouldn't be able to meet a boyfriend in similar flat sharing circumstances to myself.

So basically, how did you meet your partner ? I'm expecting there will be a lot of at work/ online/nights out but hopefully there may be something that will give idea's.

OP posts:
crosbystillsandmash · 17/12/2021 17:18

He was my ex dhs friend Grin

ScarlettSunset · 17/12/2021 17:18

Online via Plenty of Fish. Been together over 8 years now.
Nearly ignored him though as he had a rubbish user name....

BillywigSting · 17/12/2021 17:19

I met mine through a very nerdy hobby (mtg).

Was at a tournament with ex bf (on the cusp of breaking up, we weren't particularly serious and I just wasn't feeling it). Saw dp across the room, quite literally, immediately fancied the pants off him. Dumped ex the following week. Very amicable break up and we are still friends now 15 years later

Two weeks later went to same group meet up to play some more geeky game. Dp was there. I made the eyes at him. He asked me out.

15 years and a dc later the rest is history.

HelloBambinos · 17/12/2021 17:27

My ex fiance I met at the gym where he worked and I was a client and asked for some help.. Well actually I obviously looked lost as he asked if I needed help. My dh I also met at the gym (different gym years later of course) but we both worked there as I was then a qualified pt myself by that point. So yeh the gym has been a good place. Whilst working there I've seen plenty of relationships develop amongst clients.

Dindundundundeeer · 17/12/2021 17:28

Holiday. 22 years ago.

alwayswrighty · 17/12/2021 17:28

We were in the same friendship group.

FirewomanSam · 17/12/2021 17:30

Online. I agree completely with this from @inksinkbink:

You just need to take your time, accept most people are wildly unsuitable but you only need ONE who is right. He's my one.

I hear a lot of people complaining about the lack of decent guys online but it’s all about quality, not quantity. If you go on the app expecting a sea of eligible men that you’ll fancy at your fingertips you’ll be sorely disappointed. That’s like stepping into a train carriage and and expecting to fancy every man in there. If you accept that it’s just giving you a shortcut to finding out about some single men in your area and that, just like in real life, you’re unlikely to fancy or connect with the vast majority of them, then it becomes a bit easier. You only need one!

Campfirewood · 17/12/2021 17:37

1st boyfriend: work
2nd: American summer camp
3rd: work
4th: bar (now DH)

As an aside I’ve just joined a sports club, and if I was single it would be a great place to meet men! I’m very happy with DH but quite a few nice, single men!

Salmakia · 17/12/2021 17:43

On twitter. We were mutuals and tweeting about shared interests and they messaged suggesting we meet for a coffee as they were in my town for an afternoon. We met up, got on and then arranged to meet again for cocktails. Neither of us were looking for a relationship when we first met up but we've been together 8 years now.

Simonjt · 17/12/2021 17:47

We were matched through a dating agency, I was too nervous to speak during our first date so he was very patient to even agree to another one. He tells people it was the undateables.

Recumbenttrikesrule · 17/12/2021 17:51

University motorcycle club. When I split up with the Norton Commando rider, he had the only other British motorbike. We celebrate our 40th anniversary this year.

Kite22 · 17/12/2021 17:53

Through our volunteering / hobby.

Ultimately, the more people you mix with, the more likely you are to meet more people, so the odds of you finding 'the one' come down. Plus, you are enjoying what you are doing anyway, so if you don't meet someone initially, you've still had a good evening / day / weekend.
As you make more friends through getting out and doing things, then they invite you to their parties / BBQs / events and you meet more people, so again, the odds of meeting someone you like come down again.

yogafairy · 17/12/2021 17:54

Myspace to my place 😂

HollowTalk · 17/12/2021 17:55

@EishetChayil

Met my first DP through a flat share. Second DP travelling in Asia. Third and now DH, set up by his mother, who was a friend of mine from synagogue Blush
So your mother-in-law is your friend? That sounds great!
WhWt · 17/12/2021 17:56

On Plenty of Fish. The first guy I met online and went on an actual real life date with too. There is no one in the world more perfect for me.

MovinOnUp · 17/12/2021 17:59

Met him in a pub after abandoning my (shit) works Christmas party.
Thought it would be a ONS but here we are five years later (to the night) He is the love of my life and we have a baby on the way in April.
Thank God that party was shit! 😊

HollowTalk · 17/12/2021 18:01

@penguinwithasuitcase

Another Tinderer here!

He was my third date (the first took me on what I'm pretty sure was a drug deal and the second one pooped his pants within the first half hour).

He hates that we met online and always tells people we met at a gig because he's embarrassed about it, but hey... it gave me him, so I think it's great.

I want to hear about those other two dates!
HollowTalk · 17/12/2021 18:02

@Asi1

Arranged marriage, we met for 5 minutes at the start ( proposal) then when l went to get married another very brief meeting with us and our families.

We didn't have any communication during that time or our engagement.

First time, l actually sat next to my husband was on a our wedding day and spoke maybe 5 words to him.

In our 4th year of marriage and have a little girl

I would love it if you did an ask me anything thread on this.
SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/12/2021 18:03

Queuing for the Last Night of the Proms.

Staggersaurus · 17/12/2021 18:04

I met my DH through friends. My friend worked with his best friend. We’ve been together nearly 20 years!

sorryforswearing · 17/12/2021 18:06

Former teacher. Met my husband returning some frogs (I’d taken into school as tadpoles) back to the pond I found them in.

Holidaytan · 17/12/2021 18:09

1st husband a friends birthday party,
2nd DP work,
3rd work,
4th work event (he worked at a different company but was at the event)
5th OLD (he was an abusive bastard)
6th and final DH he attended one of my fitness classes, then attended loads more until I noticed him!
These were all long relationships.

Holidaytan · 17/12/2021 18:10

Only 2 X DH though, the rest are DP!!

loislovesstewie · 17/12/2021 18:12

In the bar at university. It was beer goggles for both!

BridStar · 17/12/2021 18:17

She's right that men on dating apps and on nights out only want sex. No chance of real relationships there.

She needs to join interest groups. Hiking or walking or group-fitness or classes, attend talks at bookshops, look on Meetup for events where people are gathering for Another Reason but will also talk. Form friendships first.