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To bin the card now? Parking one with diagram.

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crowsfeet57 · 23/10/2021 18:29

We've lived in our house for 26 years and our neighbours have live here for about 15 years. We've maintained a civil relationship until last year when after demanding that we take down some ivy growing on our fence, she announced she was taking down the fence and we weren't allowed to grow anything on the new one. It's actually our fence but she refused to believe that until I showed her the deeds and told her she was not to touch it. Even after that we had a number of rows about her getting workmen in who attached things to the fence and refused to stop when we asked. At one point she screamed at us on the doorstep for 20 minutes about what bad neighbours we were. We were so embarrassed that we agreed they could attach this horrid willow stuff to our fence.

This morning she knocked at our door to let us know they were having a party in the garden tonight (we'd already spotted the marquee). She told us she had asked her guests not to block our drive. We were impressed at how considerate she was and bought a congratulations card for their celebration.

We've just got home and they haven't parked in front of our drive. They have, however, parked right across the road so we can't get to our drive at all and have had to park two streets away. We live at the end of a cul de sac and so ours is the only house inconvenienced by this

DH won't let me knock and ask them to move the cars. I think this is a big fuck you from next door. Would I be unreasonable to bin the card we bought?

To bin the card now? Parking one with diagram.
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Sofiegiraffe · 23/10/2021 18:33

DH won't "let" you knock? Fuck that, I'd be straight round there.

Wigglegiggle0520 · 23/10/2021 18:33

Be the bigger person OP. Take the card round and ask them nicely to move the cars.
Their response will tell you everything you need to know.

Babyiwantabump · 23/10/2021 18:33

I would be absolutely raging about this!

MrMrsJones · 23/10/2021 18:34

Just call the police

Winterfellismyhome · 23/10/2021 18:34

100% knock. Why should you have to park two streets away when you've got a perfectly useable driveway?

DebbieHarrysCheekbones · 23/10/2021 18:36

Why do you need your husband’s permission to deal with these absolute arseholes?
Go and knock the door ask them to move

failing that park immediately to the left of those cars in such a way none of them can move with it asking you. By which point you will have drunk two bottles of wine and be asleep
Right ? Wink

TurquoiseDragon · 23/10/2021 18:36

I'd be going round and asking them to move, then get your car in. I'd only be giving the card depending on how they react to this request.

LUCCCY · 23/10/2021 18:37

Just go and knock on. If they're not complete twats then they will move, surely?

Whinge · 23/10/2021 18:38

Not only would I bin the card, i'd be knocking and put my best acting skills to use. I'd be telling them that unfortunately despite asking it seems that the guests have done exactly what she said they wouldn't, as they've blocked your drive. Of course she must not have realised and i'm sure she'll sort the situation, as after all she knocked specifically to inform you this wouldn't happen.

CoffeeTopUp · 23/10/2021 18:38

You park here - red car parks the spot.

To bin the card now? Parking one with diagram.
CallyWW · 23/10/2021 18:41

It's not a huge deal. She tried to warn you and probably did warn her guests not to block you. What's the harm in parking 2 streets away for one night? I would forget about it and pass along the card. It's nice to be nice to people.

bestofme21 · 23/10/2021 18:43

@CoffeeTopUp

You park here - red car parks the spot.
Oh no! Perhaps leave your car like this and crack open a bottle of wine 🍷
To bin the card now? Parking one with diagram.
DebbieHarrysCheekbones · 23/10/2021 18:44

@bestofme21

Exactly my suggestion except that one bottle of wine was two Grin

EnjoyingTheSilence · 23/10/2021 18:45

agree with pp, park in front of one of the cars blocking you from getting your drive. I would say they’ve done that on purpose.

dementedpixie · 23/10/2021 18:45

@CallyWW

It's not a huge deal. She tried to warn you and probably did warn her guests not to block you. What's the harm in parking 2 streets away for one night? I would forget about it and pass along the card. It's nice to be nice to people.
Fuck that! I'd ask them to move so you can get in your drive
AutumnLeaves21 · 23/10/2021 18:48

Absolutely block their cars in! Cheeky bastards. And don’t give her the card!!
Gobsmacked by some of the responses on here-absolute mugs 🤡

EarringsandLipstick · 23/10/2021 18:49

I'd ask them to move so you can get in your drive

Of course this is what you do.

Unlike most of MN, I do not generally enjoy a parking thread. I am forever amazed by the knots people tie themselves in instead of communicating.

Knock. Ask politely. See what happens. If they are rude or don't do it, stay there & knock again until you get access to your house.

StepawayfromtheBiscuittin · 23/10/2021 18:50

I'd do what @CoffeeTopUp says.

InPraiseOfLadyGrey · 23/10/2021 18:51

@CallyWW

It's not a huge deal. She tried to warn you and probably did warn her guests not to block you. What's the harm in parking 2 streets away for one night? I would forget about it and pass along the card. It's nice to be nice to people.
Because the neighbors are being so nice to OP aren't they.Hmm
SunshineCake1 · 23/10/2021 18:52

Binning the card is silly. They don't know you bought one so won't feel devastated not to get it. Keep it for someone else.

Your dh not letting you do anything is not great. Go round. Say you need to get past and do they want to move the car or two that is in the way or should you just squeeze past....

hotmeatymilk · 23/10/2021 18:53

Forget the card. Shit through their letterbox instead.

ElleStartingOver · 23/10/2021 18:54

Knock and ask.

If they refuse absolutely block the cars in.

BeautifulBirds · 23/10/2021 18:56

Park in front /behind the cars on their drive or in the road, long ways.

Glenthebattleostrich · 23/10/2021 18:58

definitely move the car and block them in. she sounds like my arsehole neighbours who don't see why they can't block our drive with their second car to leave theirs clear. They also asked us to remove our tree and tarmac our front garden so they could park on it.

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/10/2021 18:59

Move your car back as if you'd just arrived home, get out and knock on, ask them to move.

If they do not move, use your car to block as many of them in as possible (hopefully its tighter than your diagram and you'll successfully block them all in, otherwise they can, all bar the cars on neighbours drive, get out after a bit of car-tetris...

If you do block 'em in, go home, get trollied, go to bed and plan a lazy lay in tomorrow or even a trip out using a taxi.