To bin the card now? Parking one with diagram.

[crowsfeet57]

We've lived in our house for 26 years and our neighbours have live here for about 15 years. We've maintained a civil relationship until last year when after demanding that we take down some ivy growing on our fence, she announced she was taking down the fence and we weren't allowed to grow anything on the new one. It's actually our fence but she refused to believe that until I showed her the deeds and told her she was not to touch it. Even after that we had a number of rows about her getting workmen in who attached things to the fence and refused to stop when we asked. At one point she screamed at us on the doorstep for 20 minutes about what bad neighbours we were. We were so embarrassed that we agreed they could attach this horrid willow stuff to our fence.

This morning she knocked at our door to let us know they were having a party in the garden tonight (we'd already spotted the marquee). She told us she had asked her guests not to block our drive. We were impressed at how considerate she was and bought a congratulations card for their celebration.

We've just got home and they haven't parked in front of our drive. They have, however, parked right across the road so we can't get to our drive at all and have had to park two streets away. We live at the end of a cul de sac and so ours is the only house inconvenienced by this

DH won't let me knock and ask them to move the cars. I think this is a big fuck you from next door. Would I be unreasonable to bin the card we bought?

@CoffeeTopUp

You park here - red car parks the spot.

Definitely do this. And bin the card they're arseholes.

OP please say you blocked their cars in?

@FOJN

A parking thread with only one opening post from the original poster is a terrible parking thread.

I know. I thought diagrams and live blogging the drama were mandatory on parking threads. So disappointed.

Exactly. Embellishment/ exaggeration of the truth and long, drawn out (often unbelievable) drama is also mandatory.

[quote daisychain01]@LittleDandelionClock

Because the OP has to carry on living next door to these neighbours. It's all very well MNers like you goading the OP into 'inciting violence' against a NDN but you'll go back to your RW life and meanwhile the OP has to live with the situation which could either be WW3 or 'something and nothing'.

So yes being kind or iow being the bigger person is the intelligent thing to do to be able to live in relative harmony. Hence why neighbourhood disputes devalue a property, instead of sorting things out.[/quote]
Errr, OK, @daisychain01 just point out the exact point on this thread where I goaded the OP into 'inciting violence' against her neighbour!

You can't can you, because I didn't goad her into inciting violence against her neighbour!

Stop posting mistruths about me, just to try and back up your own argument.

I shall await your apology, and an admission that you were wrong about me.

If I don't get both an apology, and an admission you were wrong, I won't ever be engaging with you again, so don't bother talking to me or responding to any of my posts.

And I stand by what I say, why the hell is the onus to be nice and kind, ALWAYS placed on the person who is 'wronged?'

It boils my blood. Almost as much as people posting lies to try and win an argument

@daisychain01

So yes being kind or being the bigger person is a stupid thing to do, and gets you shit on by everyone around you..

Fixed that for you! ^

I'm going to be a big disappointment. I didn't knock and ask them to move the cars, mainly because more and more cars were arriving and parking badly and although we didn't expect to need the car at all last night, my mother is 87 so I worry about getting to her and also DD (24) does sometimes ring for a lift even though she doesn't live here any more. So I concluded it was best to be blocked off the drive than blocked on it.

When we went out to walk the dog a bit later there was another row of cars behind the first one, blocking three more drives. One of the owners has a go at people parking anywhere near his drive so I am surprised that didn't kick off. The music was unbearably loud, they even had a dj, but it went off sharp at midnight so we didn't mind that.

It's a pity they were so inconsiderate really, because it's left a nasty taste.

They sound like utter arseholes @crowsfeet57 I am sorry you have to tolerate vile behaviour like this. If it were me I would be putting my house up for sale, because the situation sure as hell is never going to improve.

Not in the least a disappointment @crowsfeet57 you did the right thing not over-reacting to a temporary situation, and kept calm by moving your car away. Hopefully this was a one-off incident.

If your NDN were to continuously throw parties and get their guests to do stupid things with their cars, then it becomes something serious you need to talk to them about, not least of all the risk of needing to reach your elderly mother in a hurry,

@LittleDandelionClock did you notice I put 'inciting violence' in inverted commas which means you didn't need to take it literally ie taking a hatchet or loaded gun round there. You've chosen to over react to my comment, which is your choice not mine. I didn't think your post was worded in a helpful way for the OP.

That's a terrible shame to be dead to someone I don't even know. Sounds a bit extreme, but clearly you've made your decision. Take care.

How sensible are you OP!!!! What the hell are you doing on MN?

@crowsfeet57 As @hangrylady said, I would definitely bin the card.

Has your neighbour even noticed? No idea why you parked so far away, I’d have just blocked them

@BurntO

Has your neighbour even noticed? No idea why you parked so far away, I’d have just blocked them

The neighbour probably did notice, but didn't care. People like that don't give a shit about anyone else.

@BurntO

Has your neighbour even noticed? No idea why you parked so far away, I’d have just blocked them

Had she done that when she posted initially then her car would have ended up in the middle, blocked in, when the next guests arrived.

Good call to park a couple of streets away, if fucking annoying!

I would knock politely and ask the owner to move the car as you cannot access your driveway.

I'd bin the card after the way she treated you re. the fence, let alone the parking situation!

@Winterfellismyhome

100% knock. Why should you have to park two streets away when you've got a perfectly useable driveway?

Yes, I wondered this as well, and call me stupid if you like but this is also not clear from the diagram.

They haven't parked across your driveway but have parked on the other side of the road.

It is a public street isn't it? Incovenient perhaps but this could happen at any time that the street immediately opposite is full. People park in our street and then walk into town to avoid parking charges.
Don't get it..

Unless they parked in a disabled parking space when they don't have disabilities of course.

Yes sounds inconvenient for you, really does, but it is not against regulations to have a party. With all the lockdowns this year until midnight is not really an illegal rave is it?
Presumably it is a one off and they did let you know...?

@beigebrownblue

They have literally left their cars in the middle of the road, making OP unable to get to her house with her car. You don't leave your car in the middle of the road, ever. It's flipping nuts.

@beigebrownblue did you look at the diagram properly? There are 4 cars parked in the road that are blocking the road to the OPs house. They are obstructing the whole road. I'm sure noone ever parks like that in your street ever!

@beigebrownblue are there often cars parked in this configuration on your street? I think not

[quote dementedpixie]@beigebrownblue are there often cars parked in this configuration on your street? I think not[/quote]
Oh duh. Sorry. I wouldn't have imagined that, it looked so unbelievable I had assumed it must be a residents car park off the road.

But like that you wouldn't be able to get a fire engine down if needed. No that's not right.

If they've blocked the street it's obstruction and a police matter.

Combination of several ideas......set fire to her plants against your fence panel.....gets rid of her plants, and brings the fire brigade and knackers her party.