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To bin the card now? Parking one with diagram.

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crowsfeet57 · 23/10/2021 18:29

We've lived in our house for 26 years and our neighbours have live here for about 15 years. We've maintained a civil relationship until last year when after demanding that we take down some ivy growing on our fence, she announced she was taking down the fence and we weren't allowed to grow anything on the new one. It's actually our fence but she refused to believe that until I showed her the deeds and told her she was not to touch it. Even after that we had a number of rows about her getting workmen in who attached things to the fence and refused to stop when we asked. At one point she screamed at us on the doorstep for 20 minutes about what bad neighbours we were. We were so embarrassed that we agreed they could attach this horrid willow stuff to our fence.

This morning she knocked at our door to let us know they were having a party in the garden tonight (we'd already spotted the marquee). She told us she had asked her guests not to block our drive. We were impressed at how considerate she was and bought a congratulations card for their celebration.

We've just got home and they haven't parked in front of our drive. They have, however, parked right across the road so we can't get to our drive at all and have had to park two streets away. We live at the end of a cul de sac and so ours is the only house inconvenienced by this

DH won't let me knock and ask them to move the cars. I think this is a big fuck you from next door. Would I be unreasonable to bin the card we bought?

To bin the card now? Parking one with diagram.

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rainraim · 23/10/2021 22:26

Why are you parking two streets away. Park in front of them this blocking the guests cars

3scape · 23/10/2021 22:37

I wouldn't knock. I'd just leave it by the cars blocking the street. It'll probably take them a while to figure out it's not one of their guests cars. I'd be perfectly polite about moving my car. This looks to be idiot guests rather than the hosts' fault. Unless she's been out there making sure that's how they parked?!

JesusIsAnyNameFree · 23/10/2021 22:39

@CallyWW

It's not a huge deal. She tried to warn you and probably did warn her guests not to block you. What's the harm in parking 2 streets away for one night? I would forget about it and pass along the card. It's nice to be nice to people.

And it's always the one getting royally shafted being told to be nice, while the people acting like dicks just get away with it. Do you see how ridiculous and stupid that is?

thevassal · 23/10/2021 22:40

All the posters saying that neighbours probably told friends where not to park and friends just didn't listen - really? I have never in my life parked along the middle of a road as per OPs diagram and have never seen anyone else do it - literally in the middle of the road. It must be incredibly obvious that there is another house right there that won't be able to get through. If I arrived as car 2,3,4 on the diagram (with 1 being the one next to the curb), I'd park lengthways at the very end of the cul-de-sac (to the right of OPs house so in front of her house but not blocking her drive), or in front of number 1 (so blocking the actual neighbours in), or just further down the road, not in the middle of the street! They've blatantly been told to do that!

ivykaty44 · 23/10/2021 22:41

just park across the cars on the drive - not likely there going out, so not a problem

LittleDandelionClock · 23/10/2021 22:47

@CallyWW

It's nice to be nice to people.

And it's always the one getting royally shafted being told to be nice, while the people acting like dicks just get away with it. Do you see how ridiculous and stupid that is?

This THIS THIS! ^

Why is onus to be nice/kind/turn the other cheek, ALWAYS placed on the person being wronged?

Does my fucking head in!

Lalliella · 23/10/2021 22:56

What did you do then OP? Please come back and tell us

mathanxiety · 23/10/2021 23:36

They have technically not blocked your drive. They have blocked the street. I suspect they got together and planned this.

I would be tempted to place the card along with a nice, big dog turd in a brown paper bag and set it on fire on their doorstep. I feel the word 'Congratulations' on a card would be very suitable for a present like this.

I would also be very tempted to egg the windshields of all the cars blocking the street.

GoofyIsACow · 23/10/2021 23:38

Fucking excellent diagram OP

Staffy1 · 24/10/2021 00:43

Agree with PP, you should have just parked behind them in front of your neighbours cars, or asked them to get one of their guests to move and stay moved to let you access your drive.

SunShinesBrightly · 24/10/2021 05:32

A parking thread with only one opening post from the original poster is a terrible parking thread.

jamandmarmalade · 24/10/2021 05:45

OP, is she a snetter? take photos and keep a record just in case.....

ApolloandDaphne · 24/10/2021 06:22

Come back and tell us what you did OP?

daisychain01 · 24/10/2021 06:24

@CallyWW

This, so much this!

It's one night, it's probably the only event they've organised in the 15 years they've lived there.

You've had to park a couple of streets away for 1 evening. Big deal. Keep some perspective.

You've also got to carry on living next door to them, what's the point making a fuss over something like a few cars!

daisychain01 · 24/10/2021 06:29

@LittleDandelionClock

Because the OP has to carry on living next door to these neighbours. It's all very well MNers like you goading the OP into 'inciting violence' against a NDN but you'll go back to your RW life and meanwhile the OP has to live with the situation which could either be WW3 or 'something and nothing'.

So yes being kind or iow being the bigger person is the intelligent thing to do to be able to live in relative harmony. Hence why neighbourhood disputes devalue a property, instead of sorting things out.

SpeakingFranglais · 24/10/2021 06:30

Because this is the icing on the cake? Did you RTFT?

saleorbouy · 24/10/2021 08:10

I wouldn't even flinch, they are trying to get a rise out of you. Just carry on as normal and when you next see ask them if the had a lovely time.
Personally I would get more satisfaction from not rising to the bait in the knowledge that this would eat then up inside more.
Oh drop the card in too so they know you were about aswell.
I'd take a pic of the parking for future reference.

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 24/10/2021 08:13

I cannot believe you parked 2 streets away when they deliberately got their guests to block the entire road.

You should have parked right up there next to the barricade.

daisychain01 · 24/10/2021 08:15

All the cars have probably dispersed by now, unless they've made it an all-nighter (probably not if their only beef in life is a bit of ivy on the fence so the deed is done.

FreedomFaith · 24/10/2021 08:29

@daisychain01

All the cars have probably dispersed by now, unless they've made it an all-nighter (probably not if their only beef in life is a bit of ivy on the fence

so the deed is done.

This plus op was never going to block in those cars (not that you could easily without two cars). She's like that other poster on here, the 'it's nice to be nice' type of person. A pushover to be blunt. Who the hell else buys a congratulations card for a neighbour who screams at them for 20 mins over a fucking fence?

Op, you and your husband need to develop spines. This neighbour is going to walk all over you otherwise. She'll be using your drive soon.

Faevern · 24/10/2021 08:41

Fab diagram, really impressed with those who copied it and told you where to park, which I assume you did as you haven't come back. Either that or you joined the party.

I agree it was deliberate, no one parks across the road like that.

MumofSpud · 24/10/2021 08:54

Also with the way they parked - if they didn't all leave at the same time it would mean that one car would end up parked in the middle of the road by itself.
I agree that the guests did this deliberately as one of them could easily have parked blocking in the party hosts' cars but didn't!

Op what happened in the end?

FOJN · 24/10/2021 09:09

A parking thread with only one opening post from the original poster is a terrible parking thread.

I know. I thought diagrams and live blogging the drama were mandatory on parking threads. So disappointed.

MydogWillow · 24/10/2021 09:18

@Lou898

If you parked in front of the two top cars, you can be near your house, they can still get out by reversing and asking those already at the party to move if needed. No drama required, it’s one night. There is a chance that neighbour has asked not to block and is unaware they have.

I can't understand why you're not knocking on their door. If you were really good friends with them, would you knock?

Retain your dignity and be the better person.

If you don't want to knock, park as the poster had suggested and the guests can sort themselves out.

I wouldn't pull a dick move as I'd like to be able to sleep without being disturbed.

If you wanted to vindictive you could, knock, ask them to move and report them drink driving

CrazyTimesAreOccurring · 24/10/2021 09:20

@FOJN

A parking thread with only one opening post from the original poster is a terrible parking thread.

I know. I thought diagrams and live blogging the drama were mandatory on parking threads. So disappointed.

So true - rules are rules surely! Though no one can beat the one where the DH dresses up in a hazmat suit and opens the door to find it's the police - that was ace!

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