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To bin the card now? Parking one with diagram.

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crowsfeet57 · 23/10/2021 18:29

We've lived in our house for 26 years and our neighbours have live here for about 15 years. We've maintained a civil relationship until last year when after demanding that we take down some ivy growing on our fence, she announced she was taking down the fence and we weren't allowed to grow anything on the new one. It's actually our fence but she refused to believe that until I showed her the deeds and told her she was not to touch it. Even after that we had a number of rows about her getting workmen in who attached things to the fence and refused to stop when we asked. At one point she screamed at us on the doorstep for 20 minutes about what bad neighbours we were. We were so embarrassed that we agreed they could attach this horrid willow stuff to our fence.

This morning she knocked at our door to let us know they were having a party in the garden tonight (we'd already spotted the marquee). She told us she had asked her guests not to block our drive. We were impressed at how considerate she was and bought a congratulations card for their celebration.

We've just got home and they haven't parked in front of our drive. They have, however, parked right across the road so we can't get to our drive at all and have had to park two streets away. We live at the end of a cul de sac and so ours is the only house inconvenienced by this

DH won't let me knock and ask them to move the cars. I think this is a big fuck you from next door. Would I be unreasonable to bin the card we bought?

To bin the card now? Parking one with diagram.
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MuthaFunka61 · 23/10/2021 19:29

I think it depends on what you want the outcome to be in the longterm.

If you want hostility then call the police,but if you'd like some semblance of civility then take the high rd.

There's a great deal of fun to be had letting your imagination run wild whilst sharing a bottle of wine yet appearing nonchalant Grin Wine

LittleDandelionClock · 23/10/2021 19:29

@CallyWW

It's not a huge deal. She tried to warn you and probably did warn her guests not to block you. What's the harm in parking 2 streets away for one night? I would forget about it and pass along the card. It's nice to be nice to people.
Ewww, be NICE, #BEKIND #VOM! 🤢

@crowsfeet57 I may be looking at it wrong, but from your diagram, it looks like you can get out of your driveway. From how I am reading it, your driveway is parallel to the word 'our' is it? And the 4 cars seem to be parked to the left of your driveway.

And LOL at your DH 'won't let you.' My DH wouldn't stop me from doing what I want!

Oh and as for the card. If they are blocking you in and they have been such assholes. Bin the card.

Badbadbunny · 23/10/2021 19:30

@Chloemol

Knock on the door. If they don’t move call the police as they are obstructing your access
Police won't act, neither will council, stopping you getting into your drive isn't their concern. They only act if you're in your drive and blocked from getting out.
PyjamasAndWellies · 23/10/2021 19:33

Take a photo of their cars blocking the road and report them? Maybe they'll at least get parking tickets.... can't believe they convinced all their friends do that! Bunch of wankers

Goawaymorningsickeness · 23/10/2021 19:33

I could have written this post myself. Our elderly neighbours are absolute arseholes. They’ve made our lives a misery.
I would ask them to move, give them ten minutes and then if they don’t, I would block them in.
You have my full sympathies. Honestly I wouldn’t give them an inch over any issues. Ours have taken the piss for three years. It’s draining.

FleasInMyKnees · 23/10/2021 19:34

Are they blocking emergency vehicle access, what would happen if you needed an ambulance and they couldn't get through.

muddyford · 23/10/2021 19:34

Park at right angles behind the main group of cars and have a large glass of wine.

iwishiwasafish · 23/10/2021 19:35

Surely most likely is that their guests didn’t understand their parking instruction, rather than them specifically doing what they went out of their way to say they wouldn’t.

Monsterpumpkins · 23/10/2021 19:35

Presumably your car insurance policy is for your cars parked outside your own home/on drive ? Get access to your drive now op!! Or it may actually cost you.
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Bloodypunkrockers · 23/10/2021 19:35

I'm thick tonight.

Your drive doesn't look blocked. Which of the cars is stopping you getting in ?

LittleDandelionClock · 23/10/2021 19:36

I am still a bit confused at to the the cars are blocking the OP's access to her drive. Confused Can anyone enlighten me, as the OP hasn't come back yet. How is she unable to get to her drive? There seems to be a route in from where her car is. Am I just looking at it wrong? Why can she not just drive past the 4 cars into her driveway?

LittleDandelionClock · 23/10/2021 19:37

@Bloodypunkrockers

I'm thick tonight.

Your drive doesn't look blocked. Which of the cars is stopping you getting in ?

Phew glad it's not just me. I asked the earlier in the thread too, but she hasn't returned yet. As far as I can see, she can get in. Have I missed something?
Sneezecakesmama · 23/10/2021 19:39

I would simply park my car directly behind the cars obstructing you driveway and leave a note to come get you when they leave if they can't get out.

Kiduknot · 23/10/2021 19:41

Ooh this could be interesting

Nanasueathome · 23/10/2021 19:41

The OP stated she lives at the top end of a cul de sac
Am assuming it’s a dead end to the right of her drawing
The only access is from the left hand side
So, if she drives towards her house then the cars parked across the full road are not actually blocking her drive but they are blocking her access to her drive

godmum56 · 23/10/2021 19:44

@iwishiwasafish

Surely most likely is that their guests didn’t understand their parking instruction, rather than them specifically doing what they went out of their way to say they wouldn’t.
which is why, as i said, you monitor arrivals.
PheasantsNest · 23/10/2021 19:44

I would block them in OP. I don't know what others aren't understanding OP would have to drive through the cars to get to her drive. They are blocking the road.

To bin the card now? Parking one with diagram.
BoffinMum · 23/10/2021 19:44

What sneeze said! I would tidily block them in. I have done this before and it can be very effective.

Herecomesthesun70 · 23/10/2021 19:44

@Monsterpumpkins

Presumably your car insurance policy is for your cars parked outside your own home/on drive ? Get access to your drive now op!! Or it may actually cost you. .
It wouldn't matter
ThinWomansBrain · 23/10/2021 19:45

If a cul de sac, is it a private road or a public one?

Police will say no jusidiction over private road (although when I called them about an abandoned high end car and said I thought drugs/dealing were involved they were there fast enough & sorted it, much to my colleagues surprise).

Irritating, thoughtless (if neighbours are jsut opening the door, will they even have noticed your entrance is blocked)
One night in fifteen years (other irritations aside), I'd park as close as I could and leave it - otherwise drop round with the card and mention the access. But if you're at home now, and not planning on going out again this evening - why bother?

CakeIsMyFavouriteAndBest · 23/10/2021 19:45

I would park across their drive blocking it then go out into my back garden and start a bonfire to smoke out their "celebration". Then when they complain to you, you could point out their terrible parking!

StrongLegs · 23/10/2021 19:49

Oh good grief. Your neighbour is bonkers OP.

cantthinkofanything1 · 23/10/2021 19:51

I would block them all in!

Monsterpumpkins · 23/10/2021 19:51

RAC bef to differ..

To bin the card now? Parking one with diagram.
BrilliantBetty · 23/10/2021 19:52

Really annoying but it's done now. You're parked two streets away. Drop the card in tomorrow.
If you spend all evening stewing about this it's an evening wasted.

If they do it again... knife all their tyres.