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To bin the card now? Parking one with diagram.

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crowsfeet57 · 23/10/2021 18:29

We've lived in our house for 26 years and our neighbours have live here for about 15 years. We've maintained a civil relationship until last year when after demanding that we take down some ivy growing on our fence, she announced she was taking down the fence and we weren't allowed to grow anything on the new one. It's actually our fence but she refused to believe that until I showed her the deeds and told her she was not to touch it. Even after that we had a number of rows about her getting workmen in who attached things to the fence and refused to stop when we asked. At one point she screamed at us on the doorstep for 20 minutes about what bad neighbours we were. We were so embarrassed that we agreed they could attach this horrid willow stuff to our fence.

This morning she knocked at our door to let us know they were having a party in the garden tonight (we'd already spotted the marquee). She told us she had asked her guests not to block our drive. We were impressed at how considerate she was and bought a congratulations card for their celebration.

We've just got home and they haven't parked in front of our drive. They have, however, parked right across the road so we can't get to our drive at all and have had to park two streets away. We live at the end of a cul de sac and so ours is the only house inconvenienced by this

DH won't let me knock and ask them to move the cars. I think this is a big fuck you from next door. Would I be unreasonable to bin the card we bought?

To bin the card now? Parking one with diagram.

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RichardMarxisinnocent · 24/10/2021 19:36

[quote daisychain01]@LittleDandelionClock

Because the OP has to carry on living next door to these neighbours. It's all very well MNers like you goading the OP into 'inciting violence' against a NDN but you'll go back to your RW life and meanwhile the OP has to live with the situation which could either be WW3 or 'something and nothing'.

So yes being kind or iow being the bigger person is the intelligent thing to do to be able to live in relative harmony. Hence why neighbourhood disputes devalue a property, instead of sorting things out.[/quote]
I completely agree and do wonder if all the people making suggestions for what the OP should do, would really do those things themselves, and risk a major ongoing dispute with their NDNs. Would then really knock on the door and immediately launch into saying "You've got 5 minutes to get your guests to move their cars or I'm calling the police/blocking them in"? Would they really block all the cars and then when a guest knocks and asks if they can move, reply with "I've drunk a bottle of wine, I can't"? They'd leave 4 sets of guests blocked in all night, risking them and the NDNs getting more and more angry and potentially retaliating somehow?

Hawkins001 · 24/10/2021 19:46

@crowsfeet57

DH won't let me knock and ask them to move the cars. I think this is a big fuck you from next door. Would I be unreasonable to bin the card we bought?

Which is better for the long term, constant waring ? Or attempting to keep the peace, even if the other side is in the wrong.

DobbleBobble · 24/10/2021 21:12

I went to a party a few weeks ago where there was very little parking space near the house. We parked 2 streets away not blocking anyone's access to anything, because parking blocking a road would just be a ridiculous thing to do.

browneyes77 · 24/10/2021 22:15

The neighbour probably did notice, but didn't care. People like that don't give a shit about anyone else.

I suspect the neighbour told her guests to park like that, which is why she initially came round to tell OP she’d told them ‘not to block her drive’.

The fact that they’ve parked in this strange manner, seems more to me like they’ve been told to park like that with the message “as long as you don’t block next doors driveway, just park in the street next to each other”

TokyoSushi · 24/10/2021 22:20

Obviously this has all passed now but @malpa that card is amazing!!!

Nixster87 · 25/10/2021 00:02

Block their cars in, have a bottle of wine, be unavailable tomorrow to move car. I had a neighbour that parked like a dickhead so I’ve no patience for it anymore!

thenewduchessofhastings · 25/10/2021 00:09

@malpa

OP, why did you purchase a congratulations card? It's so much cheaper and more thoughtful to make one.

Here, I made a card for you to give to your lovely neighbours. I hope they like it!

I'm crying with laughter at this one;move over moonpig

VikingFan · 25/10/2021 01:51

This can lead onto a lot more dramas for you, if you can without using your car for the day I would. Smiling and being nice to your neighbour whilst you hand over the card will totally throw her off! Then her petty attempts to get a rise out of you would have failed esp if you act like you've not even noticed that will burn her.

Buffs · 25/10/2021 02:04

I’d be furious but if you can bear to, just let it go, it’s one night. Next door neighbours can make your life hell, try not to get into one with them. Think of your long term health.

Justilou1 · 25/10/2021 04:06

If they’re blocking the road, the car can be towed.

maternitycoat · 25/10/2021 07:44

Wow! A lot of drivers at the party

Dont people get taxis any more?

RachaelN · 25/10/2021 08:29

Husbands permission? Ermm... This calls for some petty behaviour from you to puss yhe neighbours off! Go for it!

gogohm · 25/10/2021 08:40

I would have simply called the police once the music started and more cars had arrived on the grounds you couldn't access your property in emergency

Justilou1 · 25/10/2021 09:37

Or said that you could hear loud music and screaming from her house, sounds like someone’s being attacked. The police wouldn’t have been impressed with the blocked road or the noise and broken the party up.

Blackberrybunnet · 25/10/2021 09:58

It's one night. Get over it.

Rosscameasdoody · 25/10/2021 11:33

@newtb

Combination of several ideas......set fire to her plants against your fence panel.....gets rid of her plants, and brings the fire brigade and knackers her party.

This. But don’t forget to shit through their letterbox first !!!

browneyes77 · 25/10/2021 11:34

@Blackberrybunnet

It's one night. Get over it.

Neighbour has arrived on the thread….

Rosscameasdoody · 25/10/2021 11:34

Seriously - having looked at your diagram, the car would be blocking the emergency services, so I’d ring 101 and report them.

Rosscameasdoody · 25/10/2021 11:38

It's one night. Get over it.

Neighbour has arrived on the thread….😬

🤣🤣🤣

Rosscameasdoody · 25/10/2021 11:54

I didn’t realise until I googled it, that it’s not an offence to block someone’s driveway unless there’s a car on it. Apparently the ‘offence’ is blocking the drive so that the resident can’t get out - so perfectly fine to block it so they ca’t get it. Doesn’t make much sense but what it does mean is that the police probably can’t do much unless the cars are blocking access for emergency services.

Mirw · 28/10/2021 16:22

If there had been a fire, the fires would have bumped the cars out of the way, probably doing a wee bit of damage on the way.

But you should rise above it unless they are doing it every other weekend... The police will clear cars that are parked dangerously...

I thought you meant 3 across not 3 along... That is ehat happens in our street abd it joins two main roads!!

PeachyPeachTrees · 28/10/2021 20:33

It's one night. I would ignore it.

CrazyTimesAreOccurring · 28/10/2021 23:05

@PeachyPeachTrees

It's one night. I would ignore it.

Oh thank goodness for this wise advice!!

5 days after the event, nearly 200 answers, and you come up with THAT?

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