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AIBU?

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To wonder what on God's green Earth possessed my 'D'H

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Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:01

So we're having a nice quiet evening, winding down towards bedtime. Suddenly my DH jumps up as if bitten by a flea, walks over to the hallway and starts fiddling with the newly purchased photo shelf. I ask him to leave it be, as I'm tired, and we'll sort it over the weekend.

Nope, on he goes about the waterpipes. OK, I kind of get that, it doesn't matter, if it can't go, the shelf is only a fiver, I'll put it into a charity box or something. No, suddenly I have to come over and give my opinion on the various positions on the wall. I give up and go back to my cuppa.

Next thing I turn around and he's eyeing the radiator suspiciously. I TELL him, beg and plead with him to leave it alone. No, off the wall it comes and apparently it is SOOO heavy I ABSOLUTELY MUST come over and help him put it back up. For the sake of clarity, this is a bog standard small radiator that CANNOT weigh more than a stone if that. I lift it during seasonal big clean with ease and put it back.

Now he's screaming the house down that I must come and help him. I put my foot down, I told him not to mess with it, now put it back up and stop being a crybaby. He goes on about having to call his elderly dad over to help him put the sodding thing back up. I tell him to pack it in.

Next thing he's on the floor, writhing like a bug, claiming the radiator fell over him. I told him I'm not having any of it, put the radiator back and stop being a fool. All of a sudden, he drags the slipper basket over, puts the radiator on it and starts following me around the house saying he's got horrible cramps and what am I going to do about it.

By this time I am royally passed off by his behaviour. I told him to pack it in, this time using some phrases I'm not going to repeat here. So he stomps off, puts the radiator back on (Suddenly it's not that heavy after all Hmm ) and cue more screaming. I simply eyeroll as he barges into the kitchen carrying a pebble sized piece of plaster, claiming I made him break the wall down.

Now he's off to draw himself a bath to cure his humongous crams that miraculously don't stop him from stomping up and down the stairs. Apparently I'm the most selfish person alive.

I'm sitting down, trying to cool down and wondering what Dr Who monster possessed my husband tonight, as this is utterly out of character for him. I am considering making him think over his behaviour on the sofa tonight.

So AIBU to have put my foot down and demanded he cleaned up the mess of his own making???

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PeriChristmas · 23/09/2021 22:16

@QuestionEverythingBaby

So did he have a flea on him?
Lolz 🤣🤣🤣
HemanOrSheRa · 23/09/2021 22:16

It all sounds very odd. I'm so confused - photo shelf, waterpipes, radiator, something not going and a slipper basket Confused.

thefirstmrsrochester · 23/09/2021 22:16

Wtf 😯. Is he normally this dramatic?

Stompythedinosaur · 23/09/2021 22:16

Is it put of character? It sounds like oddly childish behaviour.

LibrariesGiveUsPower45321 · 23/09/2021 22:17

Again with is he having a psychotic break?

chocolatepudandchocolatesauce · 23/09/2021 22:17

Aren't you meant to drain the water out of the radiator before removing it? Won't you bend all the pipes if you just lift it off?!

KateTheEighth · 23/09/2021 22:17

Is he unwell?

Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:18

@VodselForDinner

Water pipes lead to the radiator, you can't put a screw through them to hold the shelf up. I haven't the foggiest why it suddenly had to come off, I'm as baffled as you by that point. I remove the radiator once a year to wipe it down, you may not do it, but I do. It's not a big basket, maybe a foot across, 3 pairs of felt slip ons. Red, with deer motif, in case you wondered.

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TheWoleb · 23/09/2021 22:18

@VodselForDinner

I have many questions.

What does the water pipe have to do with the shelf?

What does the radiator have to do with any of this?

Why do you remove your radiator from the wall? Surely that’s bad for it?

Should I be removing my radiators for cleaning? Currently, I just kind of poke a fluffy duster down the backs of them when the mood strikes me.

How many slippers do you have that they require their own basket?

All of this, please!
MrPanks · 23/09/2021 22:19

Ooh, a slipper basket! I like the sound of that...

HadEnoughOfBears · 23/09/2021 22:21

Is that you Sharon?

Did he T-Rex again too?

Sundancerintherain · 23/09/2021 22:21

Where to start !
Does he have any form for this type of behaviour?
If not has he had a blow to the head recently?

GreyhoundG1rl · 23/09/2021 22:22

This is the second thread about bizarre dh behaviour I've read today...
Where do people find these wombles?

Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:23

@Sundancerintherain

First time I've seen him behave like this. Or anyone, for that matter. No, no blows to the head.

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MaxNormal · 23/09/2021 22:24

Did he T-Rex again too?

Only in ASDA I think.

PixieLaLa · 23/09/2021 22:24

Sounds like he’s on drugs…..Confused

Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:25

@MrPanks

That's exactly the one, except mine is in pieces now and I'll have to ask my DM to send another. I'll probably have to blame the cat, as otherwise she'll (rightfully) insist he has a psychiatric evaluation.

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Claudia84 · 23/09/2021 22:28

What part of the radiator are you cleaning once you’ve lifted it off?

MovingSchmoving · 23/09/2021 22:29

I’m so confused by all of this

FWBNC · 23/09/2021 22:29

@Sundancerintherain

Where to start ! Does he have any form for this type of behaviour? If not has he had a blow to the head recently?
He would have if he lived here!!

Weirdest thread I've read in a while...and that's saying something.

JudgeJ · 23/09/2021 22:29

@ShuddaBeenMe

How do radiators lift off? Mine are fixed to the wall.
We once took one off to wallpaper behind it but I've never taken one off for cleaning! They're bracketed to the wall, if you close each end it's quite easy to get one off the wall but easy to create havoc putting it back! Keep a plumber on speed-dial.
HideousKinky · 23/09/2021 22:31

I am also intrigued by the slipper basket

Bounce55 · 23/09/2021 22:33

Say what??

MountainDweller · 23/09/2021 22:34

But how do you casually remove a radiator from a wall, either for cleaning or to put up a shelf? Surely you'd need to turn the water off, drain the system and quite probably call a plumber? I need removable radiators!

YANBU to make DH sleep on the sofa

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