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AIBU?

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To wonder what on God's green Earth possessed my 'D'H

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Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:01

So we're having a nice quiet evening, winding down towards bedtime. Suddenly my DH jumps up as if bitten by a flea, walks over to the hallway and starts fiddling with the newly purchased photo shelf. I ask him to leave it be, as I'm tired, and we'll sort it over the weekend.

Nope, on he goes about the waterpipes. OK, I kind of get that, it doesn't matter, if it can't go, the shelf is only a fiver, I'll put it into a charity box or something. No, suddenly I have to come over and give my opinion on the various positions on the wall. I give up and go back to my cuppa.

Next thing I turn around and he's eyeing the radiator suspiciously. I TELL him, beg and plead with him to leave it alone. No, off the wall it comes and apparently it is SOOO heavy I ABSOLUTELY MUST come over and help him put it back up. For the sake of clarity, this is a bog standard small radiator that CANNOT weigh more than a stone if that. I lift it during seasonal big clean with ease and put it back.

Now he's screaming the house down that I must come and help him. I put my foot down, I told him not to mess with it, now put it back up and stop being a crybaby. He goes on about having to call his elderly dad over to help him put the sodding thing back up. I tell him to pack it in.

Next thing he's on the floor, writhing like a bug, claiming the radiator fell over him. I told him I'm not having any of it, put the radiator back and stop being a fool. All of a sudden, he drags the slipper basket over, puts the radiator on it and starts following me around the house saying he's got horrible cramps and what am I going to do about it.

By this time I am royally passed off by his behaviour. I told him to pack it in, this time using some phrases I'm not going to repeat here. So he stomps off, puts the radiator back on (Suddenly it's not that heavy after all Hmm ) and cue more screaming. I simply eyeroll as he barges into the kitchen carrying a pebble sized piece of plaster, claiming I made him break the wall down.

Now he's off to draw himself a bath to cure his humongous crams that miraculously don't stop him from stomping up and down the stairs. Apparently I'm the most selfish person alive.

I'm sitting down, trying to cool down and wondering what Dr Who monster possessed my husband tonight, as this is utterly out of character for him. I am considering making him think over his behaviour on the sofa tonight.

So AIBU to have put my foot down and demanded he cleaned up the mess of his own making???

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thequeenoftarts · 23/09/2021 22:48

There is a full moon tonight, watch out for the howling after his bath

grapewine · 23/09/2021 22:49

In all seriousness, I hope your husband is OK. It does sound very strange and not in a funny way.

Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:50

@starfishmummy

I wash them at 40°C straight after and they are used almost exclusively by my ILs, so could you please unscrew your face.

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Changemaname1 · 23/09/2021 22:50

I read this as though he put the radiator on the slipper basket and started dragging that ( inclusive of radiator ) around the house haha altho this story only makes slightly more sense even when I realised I was wrong about that part 😂

Daftasabroom · 23/09/2021 22:51

You do realise that we have just passed the Autumn equinox, AND, have hit the bottom of a twelve year solar cycle. I think things are afoot.

Goldbar · 23/09/2021 22:51

Tell him you can hear a squeaking behind the radiator. It might be a mouse... in the wall.

Play your cards right and you may have no house at all left by tomorrow evening. And your DH will be somewhere in the middle of the ruin, complaining that the slipper basket is too heavy.

TheBullfinch · 23/09/2021 22:51

Are they artisanal slippers?

Sez93 · 23/09/2021 22:51

Something doesn't seem right with him, I'd go and have a chat with him now, especially if he has never shown this type of behaviour before. It is definitely not normal, hope he's okay.

Sorrynotsorry2 · 23/09/2021 22:52

To be fair you should of picked the radiator off the wall again and bashed him over the head with it

StarryNightSparkles · 23/09/2021 22:52

This is the most random thing that I have ever read on Mumsnet 🤷‍♀️

Mumoftwoinprimary · 23/09/2021 22:53

@Goldbar

Tell him you can hear a squeaking behind the radiator. It might be a mouse... in the wall.

Play your cards right and you may have no house at all left by tomorrow evening. And your DH will be somewhere in the middle of the ruin, complaining that the slipper basket is too heavy.

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MrsTulipTattsyrup · 23/09/2021 22:53

[quote Lagomtransplant]@MrsTulipTattsyrup

No, but he did have leukemia several years ago. Please let it not be that, he never behaved like that then...[/quote]
I’m so sorry to hear that. As I say, I think it merits keeping an eye on him to see that it’s not part of a serious event, just for now. Chemical changes or a bleed can have an odd effect on behaviour. People often get horribly irritable leading up to a heart attack, for instance. I don’t want to panic you, I just think it’s worth bearing in mind and being a bit vigilant for now. If it turns out to be just a tantrum then you’ve got plenty of time tomorrow to give him a good bollocking about his behaviour tonight.

Hazel444 · 23/09/2021 22:54

Hmm I'd be more concerned than annoyed, are you sure he hasn't had some kind of mental unravelling or a stroke or something?

Mama1980 · 23/09/2021 22:54

Hmm if this really is seriously out of character then maybe go check he is ok, is he unusually stressed?
It all sounds very odd.

bamboothrough · 23/09/2021 22:54

I know we’re moving on... but... please post a photo of these magical radiators, I’m intrigued

LouLou198 · 23/09/2021 22:54

Not really sure what I have just read but it sounds exhausting! Go to bed and leave him to it!

HalzTangz · 23/09/2021 22:55

What was he doing immediately before this behaviour started. Was he browsing social media, you tube or tik tok at all. Could he have been replicating some stupid video to see how you would react to it

Itsnotallaboutyoubaby · 23/09/2021 22:55

I think that’s just fried my brain lol

Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:57

@HalzTangz

We were watching TV, nothing crazy, "all creatures great and small" 🤷‍♀️

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TheCaddieisaBaddie · 23/09/2021 22:58

Did he hide your Christmas present down the back of the radiator and suddenly realise that you might clean and find it.

How bizarre, I'd have to wait 5 years and nag everyday to get my DH to put up a shelf.

NinDS · 23/09/2021 22:59

Haha all I could think while reading this was Gogglebox and Nutty!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🙈

Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 23:00

@NinDS

God, I sympathise with her tonight!

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DoYouLikeOwls · 23/09/2021 23:01

@StarryNightSparkles

This is the most random thing that I have ever read on Mumsnet 🤷‍♀️
Me too and there is some random shit posted daily.
Drivingish · 23/09/2021 23:01

If this is 100% out of character I'd be concerned, if my DH acted like that I'd at least be phoning 111 because it would be so strange for him that I'd be worried about his health. I'd talk to him asap and say you're worried, if he's normally decent that should snap him out of it to reassure you, if it doesn't I'd get medical advice. If it turned out later that he was just being a moody arse I'd make him sorry (also not condoning violence).

anotherdeadorchid · 23/09/2021 23:01

[quote Lagomtransplant]@VodselForDinner

Water pipes lead to the radiator, you can't put a screw through them to hold the shelf up. I haven't the foggiest why it suddenly had to come off, I'm as baffled as you by that point. I remove the radiator once a year to wipe it down, you may not do it, but I do. It's not a big basket, maybe a foot across, 3 pairs of felt slip ons. Red, with deer motif, in case you wondered.[/quote]
I've read some strange posts on here but this beats them all. Nice clarification about the slippers though

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