To wonder what on God's green Earth possessed my 'D'H

[Lagomtransplant]

So we're having a nice quiet evening, winding down towards bedtime. Suddenly my DH jumps up as if bitten by a flea, walks over to the hallway and starts fiddling with the newly purchased photo shelf. I ask him to leave it be, as I'm tired, and we'll sort it over the weekend.

Nope, on he goes about the waterpipes. OK, I kind of get that, it doesn't matter, if it can't go, the shelf is only a fiver, I'll put it into a charity box or something. No, suddenly I have to come over and give my opinion on the various positions on the wall. I give up and go back to my cuppa.

Next thing I turn around and he's eyeing the radiator suspiciously. I TELL him, beg and plead with him to leave it alone. No, off the wall it comes and apparently it is SOOO heavy I ABSOLUTELY MUST come over and help him put it back up. For the sake of clarity, this is a bog standard small radiator that CANNOT weigh more than a stone if that. I lift it during seasonal big clean with ease and put it back.

Now he's screaming the house down that I must come and help him. I put my foot down, I told him not to mess with it, now put it back up and stop being a crybaby. He goes on about having to call his elderly dad over to help him put the sodding thing back up. I tell him to pack it in.

Next thing he's on the floor, writhing like a bug, claiming the radiator fell over him. I told him I'm not having any of it, put the radiator back and stop being a fool. All of a sudden, he drags the slipper basket over, puts the radiator on it and starts following me around the house saying he's got horrible cramps and what am I going to do about it.

By this time I am royally passed off by his behaviour. I told him to pack it in, this time using some phrases I'm not going to repeat here. So he stomps off, puts the radiator back on (Suddenly it's not that heavy after all ) and cue more screaming. I simply eyeroll as he barges into the kitchen carrying a pebble sized piece of plaster, claiming I made him break the wall down.

Now he's off to draw himself a bath to cure his humongous crams that miraculously don't stop him from stomping up and down the stairs. Apparently I'm the most selfish person alive.

I'm sitting down, trying to cool down and wondering what Dr Who monster possessed my husband tonight, as this is utterly out of character for him. I am considering making him think over his behaviour on the sofa tonight.

So AIBU to have put my foot down and demanded he cleaned up the mess of his own making???

[LoisLane66]

Yeah...I'd like to add the question ' Are they electric radiators' as I can't see how any other type could be randomly taken off and put back?
He sounds a right wazzer.

[LoisLane66]

Having read that water pipes lead to the radiator, how can they be removed as water pipes are fixed, not expanding pipes?

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

Flexible water pipes are a thing.
They have flexible gas pipes now too, you know.

@Lagomtransplant - glad you had a chat with him and put him on notice that a second occurrence would lead to a GP visit - but I'd still be pushing him to go and get checked before it happens again. As has been said
• if it's a mini-stroke, it could happen again and you'd preferably want to try and avoid it (never know what size the next one would be)
• if it's a UTI then antibiotics will fix it and better to do that sooner than later
• if it's related to the leukaemia it could be metastasis in the brain (god forbid but not impossible)
• any other neurological issue also needs to be looked at - early stages of dementia, for e.g. - there are drugs out there now to slow the progression of the disease but they have to be started in the very early stages to be any use.

That's just 4 of the possibilities - there are more. If it's completely out of character then it's unlikely to be the ADHD option, though.
It doesn't matter if he's "not feeling unwell" - the above options largely don't manifest as "feeling unwell" but what happened is "not normal" and should be treated as a symptom in its own right.

[Bizzimomma]

@sloutside

You are hilarious.....I think if the OP was genuinely concerned for his mental health, she wouldn't have posted in such a (brilliantly light- hearted) way
Lighten TF up 😂

[NowWhatUsernameShallIHave]

We will have to hear his side of the story
😂

[Thisismysexboardname]

Mine does this.

Me: 'Ah, time for rest'
Him: 'time to randomly jump up and begin a DIY job with zero planning'
Me: 'what could posdibly go wrong, yes this is exactly how i would like to spend friday evening' -_-

[snowblack]

@Roxy69 it’s a picture ledge, if you’d translate it directly from Swedish it would be photo shelf.

[CityMumma78]

Sounds like he is having a psychotic episode! If this is completely and utterly out of character I would be very very concerned by his behaviour!!

[johnp1937]

maybe you ignore him too much and he needs some attention and tlc

[telvg]

My husband acts like that over things. Stomping around, all dramatic etc. Men!

[TopBlogger]

@johnp1937

maybe you ignore him too much and he needs some attention and tlc

This

I think a cosy morning of -

breakfast in bed
A drawn bath
Ironed newspaper at the ready
Slippers all warmed for his little tootsies
A butler to get his clothes sorted - at the very least

In fact if @johnp1937 could time travel back to 1920 they would be in heaven I'm sure

[Thelnebriati]

If your idea of asking for attention looks like a psychotic episode, you need to learn better communication skills.
Its more usual to ask 'how was your day' or 'you'll never guess what happened to me today' to try to initiate a conversation, instead of throwing a tantrum and dismantling the furniture.

[LoisLane66]

@ThumbWitchesAbroad
No need for sarcasm.

[Scottsy100]

Is he mental? Because he sounds mental

[Carol44]

Men!!!

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

[quote LoisLane66]@ThumbWitchesAbroad
No need for sarcasm.[/quote]
I wasn't being sarcastic

[FavouriteMug]

@johnp1937

maybe you ignore him too much and he needs some attention and tlc

You make him sound like a toddler.

[Noluthando]

How is your husband @Lagomtransplant?

[Lagomtransplant]

So far I have not seen his Mr Hyde persona again... maybe counselling threat worked.

Oh, an my ne slipperbasket arrived today

[ShaneTheThird]

This thread has been mad. Truly mad. Mainly fun seeing the comments change theme constantly.

First we had the jokes. The links the wtfs.
Next we had the serious medical advice.
Then we had the suggestions of trolling
Now a mixture of all of the above.

[SALTyartist]

Meh, I would have just helped him. If it’s out of character, I’d be more worried than annoyed.

[phishy]

🙄

[SALTyartist]

So I did! 😂 it was in “suggested thread” email so didn’t even look!

[phishy]

Ah sorry in that case 🤣