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To wonder what on God's green Earth possessed my 'D'H

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Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:01

So we're having a nice quiet evening, winding down towards bedtime. Suddenly my DH jumps up as if bitten by a flea, walks over to the hallway and starts fiddling with the newly purchased photo shelf. I ask him to leave it be, as I'm tired, and we'll sort it over the weekend.

Nope, on he goes about the waterpipes. OK, I kind of get that, it doesn't matter, if it can't go, the shelf is only a fiver, I'll put it into a charity box or something. No, suddenly I have to come over and give my opinion on the various positions on the wall. I give up and go back to my cuppa.

Next thing I turn around and he's eyeing the radiator suspiciously. I TELL him, beg and plead with him to leave it alone. No, off the wall it comes and apparently it is SOOO heavy I ABSOLUTELY MUST come over and help him put it back up. For the sake of clarity, this is a bog standard small radiator that CANNOT weigh more than a stone if that. I lift it during seasonal big clean with ease and put it back.

Now he's screaming the house down that I must come and help him. I put my foot down, I told him not to mess with it, now put it back up and stop being a crybaby. He goes on about having to call his elderly dad over to help him put the sodding thing back up. I tell him to pack it in.

Next thing he's on the floor, writhing like a bug, claiming the radiator fell over him. I told him I'm not having any of it, put the radiator back and stop being a fool. All of a sudden, he drags the slipper basket over, puts the radiator on it and starts following me around the house saying he's got horrible cramps and what am I going to do about it.

By this time I am royally passed off by his behaviour. I told him to pack it in, this time using some phrases I'm not going to repeat here. So he stomps off, puts the radiator back on (Suddenly it's not that heavy after all Hmm ) and cue more screaming. I simply eyeroll as he barges into the kitchen carrying a pebble sized piece of plaster, claiming I made him break the wall down.

Now he's off to draw himself a bath to cure his humongous crams that miraculously don't stop him from stomping up and down the stairs. Apparently I'm the most selfish person alive.

I'm sitting down, trying to cool down and wondering what Dr Who monster possessed my husband tonight, as this is utterly out of character for him. I am considering making him think over his behaviour on the sofa tonight.

So AIBU to have put my foot down and demanded he cleaned up the mess of his own making???

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prediction500 · 23/09/2021 22:35

My old radiators used to be removable as they had flexible pipes. It was great when decorating

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Macncheeseballs · 23/09/2021 22:36

What's the 'photo shelf' got to do with the radiator? Why's he moving the radiator? Why can he move the radiator? I thought they were fixed to the wall. The whole story is confusing

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QuestionEverythingBaby · 23/09/2021 22:37

Does your DH have a little shirt too OP?

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HisSplendidSilentSun · 23/09/2021 22:37

My radiators have bendy - flex pipes for that vital easy removal moment preens

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Plumtree391 · 23/09/2021 22:37

Aw bless. He's just going through a phase, he'll outgrow it.

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JaneJeffer · 23/09/2021 22:38

What fun you do have.

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midlifecrash · 23/09/2021 22:38

Just reread op expecting to see that I’d missed you’d just had a baby but not there. Don’t know why I expected it maybe there have been previous posts about inexplicably needy behaviour

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TinselTime21 · 23/09/2021 22:38

My rads in last property just lifted off bracket. The pipes were the flexi ones. Easy to paint behind, dust or whatever lift off lay it on floor. Still connected just switched off.

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Lemming20 · 23/09/2021 22:39

Funniest post I’ve read all day OP Smile great questions by Vodsel too. Also I shall be purchasing a slipper basket tomorrow. My guest are feral and either do not remove shoes or get their rank sweaty bare feet all over my house Angry

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WillYouDoTheFandango · 23/09/2021 22:39

I don’t understand the radiator confusion. You don’t take them off off and move them away. You kind of lift them up and forwards slightly off the bracket. Very handy for when your kid posts all your cutlery down the back of them etc. I’m too slovenly to clean down there.

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dementedpixie · 23/09/2021 22:40

My radiators hang on brackets on the wall. I lift them off and lean them against me if I want to paint behind them (pipes all still attached)

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dementedpixie · 23/09/2021 22:41

Although some radiators don't sit on brackets and cant easily be removed like that

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Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:41

Photo shelf was, eventually, supposed to go over the radiator, to put keys and bits and bobs there as it's a tiny hallway. It was definitely not supposed to go on tonight and the reason I'm asking for opinions is to understand what on earth possessed him to mess with the radiator tonight.

Now can we please move on from the radiator (which has a flexible pipe coming out of the wall, which is why it can come off without having to drain it, like in any persimmon house to my knowledge) so I can decide whether my husband needs an ambulance or a kick up his hiney? Proverbial, of course, I do not condone violence in any form, before the thread gets derailed again.

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VaguelyInteresting · 23/09/2021 22:42

It’s been a full moon and it’s been windy today (here at least). Classic combination for crackers behaviour- honestly!

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VaguelyInteresting · 23/09/2021 22:43

Other possibility- is he trying to pick a fight?

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MaggieFS · 23/09/2021 22:43

Do you wash the slippers between guests?

I love the way it's the norm in Japan too to remove shoes and have slippers provided.

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GrandmaSteglitszch · 23/09/2021 22:45

How is he now? Still in the bath?

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Sarahlou63 · 23/09/2021 22:45

Can't see anything funny about this post. Sounds like he's having some sort of breakdown or psychotic episode.

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MrsTulipTattsyrup · 23/09/2021 22:45

If this is genuinely out of character, and he doesn’t have a history of mental illness, I would be concerned he is working up a heart attack or stroke. Can you keep a close eye on him for now, and have the massive conversation about his behaviour in the morning, once you’re sure there’s not a health reason? It all sounds so frantic and bizarre that I can’t imagine anyone literally in their right mind acting this way.

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Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:46

@MaggieFS

Of course I do Hmm would you wear slippers fresh off someone else's feet? Chuck them in the wash and that's it.

@vaguelyinteresting

I honestly can't think of a reason for him to kick off. We don't argue normally.

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grapewine · 23/09/2021 22:46

I'm envious about radiators that come off. That's what I got.

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starfishmummy · 23/09/2021 22:47

guest slippers


Euww at putting feet in something other people have had their fungus and verucca ridden feet in.

Not just your dh who is weird.

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shas19 · 23/09/2021 22:48

This is hilarious

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Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:48

@MrsTulipTattsyrup

No, but he did have leukemia several years ago. Please let it not be that, he never behaved like that then...

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Hihelp · 23/09/2021 22:48

How do you take a radiator off the wall?

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