To wonder what on God's green Earth possessed my 'D'H

[Lagomtransplant]

So we're having a nice quiet evening, winding down towards bedtime. Suddenly my DH jumps up as if bitten by a flea, walks over to the hallway and starts fiddling with the newly purchased photo shelf. I ask him to leave it be, as I'm tired, and we'll sort it over the weekend.

Nope, on he goes about the waterpipes. OK, I kind of get that, it doesn't matter, if it can't go, the shelf is only a fiver, I'll put it into a charity box or something. No, suddenly I have to come over and give my opinion on the various positions on the wall. I give up and go back to my cuppa.

Next thing I turn around and he's eyeing the radiator suspiciously. I TELL him, beg and plead with him to leave it alone. No, off the wall it comes and apparently it is SOOO heavy I ABSOLUTELY MUST come over and help him put it back up. For the sake of clarity, this is a bog standard small radiator that CANNOT weigh more than a stone if that. I lift it during seasonal big clean with ease and put it back.

Now he's screaming the house down that I must come and help him. I put my foot down, I told him not to mess with it, now put it back up and stop being a crybaby. He goes on about having to call his elderly dad over to help him put the sodding thing back up. I tell him to pack it in.

Next thing he's on the floor, writhing like a bug, claiming the radiator fell over him. I told him I'm not having any of it, put the radiator back and stop being a fool. All of a sudden, he drags the slipper basket over, puts the radiator on it and starts following me around the house saying he's got horrible cramps and what am I going to do about it.

By this time I am royally passed off by his behaviour. I told him to pack it in, this time using some phrases I'm not going to repeat here. So he stomps off, puts the radiator back on (Suddenly it's not that heavy after all ) and cue more screaming. I simply eyeroll as he barges into the kitchen carrying a pebble sized piece of plaster, claiming I made him break the wall down.

Now he's off to draw himself a bath to cure his humongous crams that miraculously don't stop him from stomping up and down the stairs. Apparently I'm the most selfish person alive.

I'm sitting down, trying to cool down and wondering what Dr Who monster possessed my husband tonight, as this is utterly out of character for him. I am considering making him think over his behaviour on the sofa tonight.

So AIBU to have put my foot down and demanded he cleaned up the mess of his own making???

[WhoIsPepeSilva]

Also have had radiators that come off walls before FWIW

[TaraR2020]

🤯 my mind is blown.

You take your radiators off the wall! Casually...frequently...

You're a bloody wizard @Lagomtransplant


I think you're DH is just having a Man Moment and YANBU.

But the radiators...This is like the moment when I read "I snapped and farted"...as if everyone does it!

[OrangeJuiceAndNoodles]

Pretty sure I've never come across a removable radiator. I'm so confused.

[BlankTimes]

Is he out of the bath OP? How does he seem in himself now?

If he's still being irrational, I'd advise you seek medical help immediately. I wouldn't want to go to sleep and leave him in that state, who knows what he could do by morning.

[FlaviaAlbiaWantsLangClegBack]

Where does he say he has the cramps? If this behaviour is coming out of the blue I think you should consider getting medical advice.

[TakeMeToKernow]

He BROKE the slipper basket?!? 😵

But also, echoing another poster, UTIs can have incredible effects on a person’s behaviour. GP in the morning?

[starfishmummy]

[quote Lagomtransplant]@starfishmummy

I wash them at 40°C straight after and they are used almost exclusively by my ILs, so could you please unscrew your face.[/quote]
40° is not enough to kill athletes foot spores.

[DustyDood]

Hold on, isn’t this just a somewhat tongue in cheek retelling of a husband who got a sudden urge to try to figure out how/where to attach the recently purchased shelf at an inappropriate time (right before bed) then got in a strop when OP wouldn’t help with this task, then got in even more of a strop when he accidentally damaged the wall putting the radiator back.

Pretty sure it’s not a potential stroke/mental breakdown/sign of abusive relationship/heart attack/manic episode. Just perfectly normal bloke behaviour if you ask me.

Tell him to go to bed and sort out the shelf (and get you a new slipper basket) at the weekend.

[BSideBaby]

All I know for certain is it's time for bed.

Good luck OP. I don't understand what happened with your DH tonight but hope he's ok!

[Marmelace]

My cats always have a mad hour, maybe he was feline funny

[Justilou1]

Is it a full moon maybe???

[Snugglybuggly]

He drew a bath??

[Droite]

Has he gone to sleep? Have you been able to ask him what possessed him?

[HopeYourHighHorseBucks]

Awww hes over tired. My 3 year old does the same, just today she emptied her toy box after school then went on a meltdown because "it's so messy and I dont want to clean it" sad times.


Joking aside, if he isn't usually like this i would genuinely be thinking my DP was having a breakdown if he came home, demanding things, rolling on the floor and being erratic. If he is usually like this then banish him to the other side of your front door, forever.

[Bortles]

Slipper basket has derailed it OP, sorry.
I wish I had a slipper basket. Then I wouldn't lose my slippers. The puppy would also like one as then she could have her pick from them to drag outside.

[WaterAndRichTea]

I think you need to call a doctor

[spicedappledonuts]

He drew a bath??

I love the expression, draw a bath. I really should use it in real life.

[yoyo1234]

Am I missing something he sounds like he was in pain , suffering needed help and you couldn't care ?

[yoyo1234]

Is it like to be in pain? Is he normally like this-if unlike him what had changed?

[Curerofsouls]

What weird behaviour OP. Id be concerned about his health.

[Topseyt]

What bizarre behaviour.

On the subject of slipper baskets - I am intrigued. I was in John Lewis in Cambridge yesterday and did notice an array of nice looking wicker baskets. Should I have bought on so that I could call it my slipper basket? Do I need to go back there tomorrow?

[ClaryFairchild]

Very odd behaviour, and I love your writing style. All of a sudden I want a slipper basket though....

[1forAll74]

Why does a photo shelf go in the hallway. I have three shelves in my living room, with all my family photo's on them. And talking about radiators, I painted the one in the living room earlier, at about 10 pm, which is a bit odd I suppose, I had to move the sofa, and found a dead mouse under it. ( I have three cats)

[pollywollydoodler]

If it's completely out of character I would wonder if there is a physical cause for his bizarre behaviour. It could be something simple like an infection but I'd be concerned about the way it came on out of the blue.
Are you still up OP? How is he now?

[myheartskippedabeat]

He's sounds like he's having a physcotic episode
You need to phone the Gp and get him referred ASAP so the crisis team have you on their radar x