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DH annoyed that I wouldn't have sex with him last night.

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DisneyDamsel89 · 08/04/2021 11:38

I don't know if aibu but DH has been in a foul mood since he got up and had a bit of a nasty tone to his voice so I asked him what was up and he snapped at me that he was really annoyed that he'd been hinting for sex last night and he didn't get any.

For some reason I feel fuming. We have regular sex so it's not like he isn't getting any - it just feels really entitled.

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tiredybear · 08/04/2021 11:40

well, getting in a grump about it is SO sexy. what an idiot.

Aprilshowersandhail · 08/04/2021 11:42

Remind him you didn't get any either and your mood is fine...

ThebirdsAndBeesWhereThere · 08/04/2021 11:44

Urgh so sexy. Bet you are gagging to shag him now.

Illy605 · 08/04/2021 11:44

My ex used to act like this all the time and quite frankly his attitude towards not getting any was a massive turn off and resulted even more so in him not getting any.

It’s such an immature way to act.

DuchessOfBuggerAll · 08/04/2021 11:45

How was he hinting about it? Do you mean he was being a deeply unattractive sex pest? Does he do this often? He sounds like a horrible human being.

Original poster
DisneyDamsel89 · 08/04/2021 11:45

Ugh. I literally couldn't fancy him less right now Envy

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Inthesameboatatmo · 08/04/2021 11:45

Tell him if he was that bothered he could've beaten one off instead

TaraR2020 · 08/04/2021 11:49

"Oh dear, has it fallen off?"

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DisneyDamsel89 · 08/04/2021 11:52

@Inthesameboatatmo His attitude to that is "why do that when I've got you" Hmm

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bullyingadvice2017 · 08/04/2021 12:03

Why do that when I have got you?

What so that means you are solely responsible for meeting his sexual needs every time forever and that's it. Has he consulted you before deciding this?

You are not his wank box. Gross. Get him told.

Bluetrews25 · 08/04/2021 12:07

Men with a strop on are not attractive.
Are there any other issues, OP?
Is this the tip of the iceberg?

Dogscanteatonions · 08/04/2021 12:12

I'd be inclined to say "well I wanted Chris Hemsworth in my bed and that didn't happen either"

Brainwave89 · 08/04/2021 12:14

He is being a bit of a tit. I would tell him so.

isthismylifenow · 08/04/2021 12:16

Well stroppy arse won't be getting any tonight either then will he.....

Because, really, you have to be nice to someone for them to have sex with you....

TheGumption · 08/04/2021 12:19

Ick

MangoBiscuit · 08/04/2021 12:20

[quote DisneyDamsel89]@Inthesameboatatmo His attitude to that is "why do that when I've got you" Hmm[/quote]
WTAF? So he thinks you're his automated wank sock?!?

Propagandalf · 08/04/2021 12:22

@Inthesameboatatmo

Tell him if he was that bothered he could've beaten one off instead
Be careful what you say here.

The MN anti-pr0n brigade will hunt you down and bring your head to MNHQ on a silver plate!

Original poster
DisneyDamsel89 · 08/04/2021 12:24

It's not just the ick of it all, it's the fact that his attitude will ruin the rest of the day.

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blowinahoolie · 08/04/2021 12:25

@ThebirdsAndBeesWhereThere

Urgh so sexy. Bet you are gagging to shag him now.
Absolutely not a turn on. OP needs to have a word with him. Blow up dolls aren't that dear🤷
PinkiOcelot · 08/04/2021 12:25

Urghhhhh what a turn off!

Why did he just hint anyway? Did you realise he was hinting and ignore him?

ThrowingAShellstrop · 08/04/2021 12:25

@Propagandalf it is universally acknowledged by men and women, that a man doesn’t need to watch porn to masturbate.

OP you feel angry because you don’t like the thought of being used. That’s quite right.

barbrahunter · 08/04/2021 12:26

I used to be married to a sex pest same as him. Right put me off.

bullyingadvice2017 · 08/04/2021 12:44

The bad mood is to punish you. Next time you should give in. That's how manipulating someone works

OldEvilOwl · 08/04/2021 12:46

Disgusting , there is nothing more unattractive than this

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind · 08/04/2021 12:47

Yep agree with all PP's, nothing worse and more disgustingly off-putting than a partner who behaves like this.

My husband behaved like this, and became really quite abusive, particularly emotionally. Thank god he is now my STBXH.